SmallWonder Posted July 29, 2005 Posted July 29, 2005 I haven't been in the dating "pool" in about 6 years, and I am like a fish out of water! I am seeing someone now, and we're treading extremely light. It's hard for me to be in a relationship without treating it seriously - I am programmed to be monogomous, and cereal dating has me feeling nervous. My question is, how do I date this man and give him his space while getting what I want - He calls and occassionally we go to his home or he comes to mine., or we do something in a group. He pays for me every time. We haven't seen each other in about one week (although he called) but I will see him tonight in a social setting - we're not going together. Tonight, do I just say "Hi there!" like I will say it to his friends.....Do I wink and flirt.....Do I wait for him to make the move and come say "Hi" to me? Can I suggest that he come home with me without looking brazen? I don't understand, nor do I like these dating Do's and Don'ts! I can't handle it!!!!! How do I maintain my dignity and still let him know I want him?!?!?!?
MySugaree Posted July 29, 2005 Posted July 29, 2005 I am programmed to be monogomous, and cereal dating has me feeling nervous. I stopped dating cereal years ago--including my romantic favorite, Trix. I moved on to blueberry muffins!
westernxer Posted July 29, 2005 Posted July 29, 2005 Originally posted by SmallWonder I am programmed to be monogomous, and cereal dating has me feeling nervous. Which cereal do you like to eat? Maybe you should switch to pancakes, or bacon and eggs.
Rosalind Posted July 29, 2005 Posted July 29, 2005 Originally posted by SmallWonder cereal dating has me feeling nervous. Yes, cereal dating can be nerve-racking, no doubt about it. Perhaps try the kind with no added sugar.
Author SmallWonder Posted July 29, 2005 Author Posted July 29, 2005 Very funny people. So I mis-spelled a word. Anyways....So now that I know you're all out there checking the board.... I really like this guy and don't want to scare him off. I have been letting him lead the way, but apart of me is wondering, "Why shouldn't I be able to do what I want and act how I want to act?" But I was reading that book "He's Just Not That Into You" and it says: Can't I just whisper in his ear, "Look, I have a can of Ready Whip with your name on it if you're interested in leaving....." Or not?
Author SmallWonder Posted July 29, 2005 Author Posted July 29, 2005 Ooops, got distracted. Basically the book says "Let him come to you." Not my cup of tea. I can't stand waiting around!
J dub Posted July 29, 2005 Posted July 29, 2005 Maybe its just me, but I generally flirt my tailfeather off first before making any moves...and if he STILL doesnt jump at the chance to ask me out, I'll say something like "We shouldget outta here and unwind" or something similar. But then again, I usually dont ask men out
westernxer Posted July 29, 2005 Posted July 29, 2005 If he liked you, he'd have tried something a long time ago... or maybe he's playing it cool. Too cool. Maybe he's an ice cube.
DacaInaru Posted July 29, 2005 Posted July 29, 2005 thank you everyone for making me shoot tea out of my nose..
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted July 29, 2005 Posted July 29, 2005 I LOL'd at my desk on this one too! I just read the book too! You are alot like me, but some guys are slow. For instance, the guy I've been msn'ing and talking with for the last 3 months, I've only met once and when we talk on the phone it's like pulling teeth to get him to talk about anything, and he STILL hasn't outright asked me out on a date yet! A new guy I met online, in three days I have had 3 phone calls and two dates planned and about ten messages (at least) ..... I'd say this guy is into me (and we've never met! ) Advice... Find someone who's ALL into you!
Author SmallWonder Posted July 29, 2005 Author Posted July 29, 2005 Well, I posted about this guy before - He grew up next door to my house and we've always had a crush. Within the last month, we've been to dinner with his family and he's also taken me many places. He calls when he says he's going to (for the most part) and we have been physical. But he's scared - maybe of me? My mom says I intimidate him - I'm attractive, was extremely popular in school, I know tons of people.....He's adorable, runs with a small close group and was, well, in metal shop while I was Student Body President. So now I am just trying to get him to stop treating me like a damn China Doll. Throw me down and have your way with me already! Good GOD! I can't take it anymore!
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