bradt93 Posted April 15, 2017 Posted April 15, 2017 I was wondering if any women would find this weird, when I go to class Mon,Wed and Fri. I wear the same clothes, but different each day. I rewash them when I get home and put them on again the next day. I wear 2 different shirts and sweat pants. I only like wearing jeans on special occasions and my polo shirts. Do I look unattractive if I wear t-shirts and sweatpants even though they are clean? I have a certain OCD too on wearing the same clothes to college, don't know why.
aileD Posted April 15, 2017 Posted April 15, 2017 Unattractive-no, a little strange- yes. They might think you're boring.
basil67 Posted April 15, 2017 Posted April 15, 2017 Being brutally honest: I'm laying money that there has been a conversation or two among your peers consisting of "Have you noticed the Brad wears the same clothes every day?". They are also likely to assume you haven't washed them. Having a enough shirts so that you don't wear the same thing twice in a week is one of those unwritten social rules. 6
SoulCat Posted April 15, 2017 Posted April 15, 2017 Sweatpants as everyday wear is a total turn-off. It screams of someone who doesn't give a crap about their appearance. The fact that you wear the same sweatpants and t-shirt combo each and every day just re-enforces the notion that you have a lazy attitude to personal appearance. It's very unattractive in my opinion. 3
d0nnivain Posted April 15, 2017 Posted April 15, 2017 In college I barely noticed what anybody wore to class but if you wear the exact same thing every day that may attract attention & lead your peers to the conclusion that you didn't wash them. Can you try to mix things up -- get 3 pairs of the same style sweats in different colors so it's obvious that you do change clothes? While I get that college is casual, please divest yourself of the idea that jeans & a polo are special occasion clothes. At some point you will be going on job interviews which will require a suit & tie. 2
preraph Posted April 15, 2017 Posted April 15, 2017 In college, I only owned 2 pairs of jeans and about 4 knit shirts and t-shirts. But I would LOSE the sweatpants. Sweatpants are for lounging at home alone or running to the convenience store. You need to get yourself some more jeans. I would highly recommend you also update and spring for one new modern outfit and that you do that by going to a big department store, men's department, and ask a clerk for someone to help you choose a versatile modern outfit from head to toe. And then wear that at least once a week. Don't get in a rut. It's just as easy to put on one shirt or pant as another, and one makes you look so much nicer. 4
NTV Posted April 15, 2017 Posted April 15, 2017 The quick answer? Yes. How many folks do you see in sweat pants and think you want to date them? Wearing every day also gives the appearance of not just lazy but implies drug addiction. 2
Marc878 Posted April 15, 2017 Posted April 15, 2017 You don't have to dress expensive but clothing does make the person complete. 1
Author bradt93 Posted April 15, 2017 Author Posted April 15, 2017 Yea, I think I will keep wearing my sweatpants, I rewash them and I see people in their pajamas. College is for learning, not dating. I don't even know why I asked the original question in the first place then.
Author bradt93 Posted April 15, 2017 Author Posted April 15, 2017 The quick answer? Yes. How many folks do you see in sweat pants and think you want to date them? Wearing every day also gives the appearance of not just lazy but implies drug addiction. I don't wear the same thing everyday, I mix it up with different t-shirts and sweatpants.
d0nnivain Posted April 15, 2017 Posted April 15, 2017 I don't wear the same thing everyday, I mix it up with different t-shirts and sweatpants. I misunderstood. I thought you had 1 pair of sweatpants & a few t-shirts. If you are changing it up or even just washing them you should be fine. N.B. There have been studies that show you learn better & more effectively when you are dressed up.
Author bradt93 Posted April 15, 2017 Author Posted April 15, 2017 To another poster here, no not all people who wear sweat pants are drug addicts
mikeylo Posted April 15, 2017 Posted April 15, 2017 If you are comfortable, it's no ones business as long as you wash them and there is no bad odor. To a certain person of the opposite sex, you might come across as low maintenance and easy going.
preraph Posted April 15, 2017 Posted April 15, 2017 Yea, I think I will keep wearing my sweatpants, I rewash them and I see people in their pajamas. College is for learning, not dating. I don't even know why I asked the original question in the first place then. You can't really believe this. College is for both learning and dating. It's just as valuable as a social environment as a learning one. I now understand from this comment of yours that you're using sweatpants as an excuse for why you're not dating and socializing. A healthy person strives to be and look their best on a daily basis. Sweatpants just says cheap and lazy. 1
todreaminblue Posted April 15, 2017 Posted April 15, 2017 The quick answer? Yes. How many folks do you see in sweat pants and think you want to date them? Wearing every day also gives the appearance of not just lazy but implies drug addiction. wearing sweatpants everyday does not imply drug addiction....can however imply depression.....my sister said to me the other day...she knows when i am really down by looking at me i dont care what i wear or my hair or anything....ill wear the same clothes...washed of course...the only day ill make an effort is sunday......i dont do drugs at all beside panadol.......when im better ill take an interest ill color match and ill wear pretty things and i even put on make up.....when i dont do these things...im really down......its an effort to stand....let alone...look for different clothes i just keep the same clean clothes....wash one wear another........deb
normal person Posted April 15, 2017 Posted April 15, 2017 (edited) Yea, I think I will keep wearing my sweatpants, I rewash them and I see people in their pajamas. If you don't have problems dating, then there's no reason to change. If you do, maybe it's time to consider some other options. I remember people going to class in sweatpants sometimes. If I were you I'd do it on a case by case basis. Small class with no one particularly interesting in it? Sweatpants aren't gonna kill you. Giant 300 person lecture with lunch in a 500 person dining hall immediately after? I wouldn't phone it in. College is for learning, not dating. Most people do both. You can learn in nice clothes, but you aren't likely to impress anyone if you put in minimal effort to your appearance. Why not just get some more clothes? A lot of companies make jeans that are part elastic -- they're very comfortable and somewhat stretchy, not rough or cumbersome. I wear them everyday. Edited April 15, 2017 by normal person 1
tetrahedral Posted April 15, 2017 Posted April 15, 2017 Whether you like it or not, you will be judged based on how you dress. For the most part, people will take note of which category you fall into. They will place you as well dressed, decently dressed, strangely dressed, or badly dressed. If you were female, it would be a hell of a lot more complicated. But as a man, being well-dressed generally does not offer value that being decently dressed doesn't as well. All you have to do, to receive positive attention instead of negative, is not be strangely or badly dressed. 3
Author bradt93 Posted April 16, 2017 Author Posted April 16, 2017 If you don't have problems dating, then there's no reason to change. If you do, maybe it's time to consider some other options. I remember people going to class in sweatpants sometimes. If I were you I'd do it on a case by case basis. Small class with no one particularly interesting in it? Sweatpants aren't gonna kill you. Giant 300 person lecture with lunch in a 500 person dining hall immediately after? I wouldn't phone it in. Most people do both. You can learn in nice clothes, but you aren't likely to impress anyone if you put in minimal effort to your appearance. Why not just get some more clothes? A lot of companies make jeans that are part elastic -- they're very comfortable and somewhat stretchy, not rough or cumbersome. I wear them everyday. Really, what brand of jeans and where can you buy them at?
normal person Posted April 16, 2017 Posted April 16, 2017 Really, what brand of jeans and where can you buy them at? Allsaints - They look skinny in the pictures but they stretch out to a normal size once you break them in https://www.jcrew.com/ - Not quite as thin, I've found
preraph Posted April 16, 2017 Posted April 16, 2017 You have to go to a department store and get fitted properly, not just buy something you've never had before online if you want to look good. Get a clerk to help fit you and you may need tailoring, a hem, a tuck, etc.
spiderowl Posted April 16, 2017 Posted April 16, 2017 It sounds like OCD. Women might notice if you always wear the same clothes. You'd need to mix them about a bit or, as others have said, people might assume you don't wash them. Being clean and well-groomed does tend to matter to women. I am not suggesting you are not clean, because clearly you take care of your clothes, but neither do you want to give the impression you wear the same clothes without washing them. OCD itself can be a problem. It tends to mean you are controlled by impulses rather than making choices. I would bet that you are affected in other ways too. If you find you are struggling with pressures due to OCD then it is worth finding a counsellor or therapist if possible. It can be a tremendous strain on you to have to do certain things and can affect your relationships with others. Women will make allowances for eccentricities to a certain extent - after all, we are all different from each other - but if OCD controls you to the point where you cannot consider the woman and her feelings about various things, then that is when it is time to consider therapy.
GravityMan Posted April 17, 2017 Posted April 17, 2017 (edited) You never know when that special lady will unexpectedly cross your path. For that reason alone, it's advisable to put at least a little effort into your appearance and style (including your clothing) whenever you go out in public for any reason...whether it's a college class, going out to eat, relaxing in the park, etc. Dress appropriately for the occasion without looking lazy. Also, when you put a little effort into your outfit...i.e. a little pride, then that may make you feel a little more confident. And others will notice. For guys in particular...sweatpants are generally meant for hanging around the house or for exercise. Jeans (or even nice knee-length shorts in warmer weather) are better for general-purpose public appearances, including college classes. IMP, you should have enough clothes so that you can go at least two weeks without wearing the same thing. Decent quality clothes are very inexpensive if you know where to look and take advantage of discounts and clearance sales. Edited April 17, 2017 by GravityMan
Author bradt93 Posted April 17, 2017 Author Posted April 17, 2017 Allsaints - They look skinny in the pictures but they stretch out to a normal size once you break them in https://www.jcrew.com/ - Not quite as thin, I've found Yea, I'm not paying close to $200 for jeans.
tetrahedral Posted April 17, 2017 Posted April 17, 2017 Yea, I'm not paying close to $200 for jeans. Levis (the jeans which most people wear and are sold at Macys) and Uniqlo are at the $50 price point, and have plenty of respectable options. Again, the goal is not to be stylish - just not look like a slob. 1
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