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So I met this awesome girl and we really hit it off. We went out a few times and we talked all day everyday with no awkward pauses. It just flowed. Well one weekend she got sick from being overly stressed because of her schoolwork. Yet we still talked and everything was fine. Then the following week the same thing happened. This time if she would text me it would be very sporadic and the flirting came to a screeching halt. I let it go for a bit then messaged her a few days later asking if we were still good. She said yes and that she wanted to meet up that week. Asked her one day, she said she couldn't make it, yet we were on the phone all night. Next day, she never talked to me. At the end of the night I sent her a text on snapchat asking if she was still up for a date this week. She leaves me on read and then continues to talk to other people (at least I'm assuming so since her score kept going up, for those of you that know how snapchat works). Texted her again late that night just being upset (i know i shouldn't have) and I asked her pretty much "what's going on between us? We all of a sudden just stopped talking and its like I'm getting ignored. I just want to be straight up and know what is going on between us and if this is something that's going to progress or not?"

 

Don't you know... no response. Yet she posts stories on her snapchat and even checks mine. I just don't get why it stopped so suddenly. I'm assuming she's no longer interested and if so why not just say it? I know I need to let it go but I'm dying to say something and get an answer for some sort of closure.

 

Should I just let it go as I have been or eventually say something?

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She faded/ghosted. Lost interest. Happens often in the dating world, sadly. Time to move on and meet another girl.

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She faded/ghosted. Lost interest. Happens often in the dating world, sadly. Time to move on and meet another girl.

I figured. My biggest issue is the fact that there was no reason given. Even if I got the simple "can't do it anymore" with no explanation that's fine but to fall off the face of the earth just aggravates me

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I figured. My biggest issue is the fact that there was no reason given. Even if I got the simple "can't do it anymore" with no explanation that's fine but to fall off the face of the earth just aggravates me

 

I understand. It sucks :( As for reaching out to ask, some people do and feel better, even though there is usually no response. Some people feel worse. I dunno if anyone can say what would be better for you.

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I hate to say this, but get used to it. Fading/ghosting is normal and quite common in the dating realm.

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I figured. My biggest issue is the fact that there was no reason given. Even if I got the simple "can't do it anymore" with no explanation that's fine but to fall off the face of the earth just aggravates me

 

Sometimes there are no tangible reasons....life is ever changing and maybe

it is time for you to move forward

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So I met this awesome girl and we really hit it off. We went out a few times and we talked all day everyday with no awkward pauses. It just flowed. Well one weekend she got sick from being overly stressed because of her schoolwork. Yet we still talked and everything was fine. Then the following week the same thing happened. This time if she would text me it would be very sporadic and the flirting came to a screeching halt. I let it go for a bit then messaged her a few days later asking if we were still good. She said yes and that she wanted to meet up that week. Asked her one day, she said she couldn't make it, yet we were on the phone all night. Next day, she never talked to me. At the end of the night I sent her a text on snapchat asking if she was still up for a date this week. She leaves me on read and then continues to talk to other people (at least I'm assuming so since her score kept going up, for those of you that know how snapchat works). Texted her again late that night just being upset (i know i shouldn't have) and I asked her pretty much "what's going on between us? We all of a sudden just stopped talking and its like I'm getting ignored. I just want to be straight up and know what is going on between us and if this is something that's going to progress or not?"

 

Don't you know... no response. Yet she posts stories on her snapchat and even checks mine. I just don't get why it stopped so suddenly. I'm assuming she's no longer interested and if so why not just say it? I know I need to let it go but I'm dying to say something and get an answer for some sort of closure.

 

Should I just let it go as I have been or eventually say something?

 

She won't say it because she doesn't want to hurt your feelings. This happens to us all. Mine won't contact me again since the incident on last Saturday. Sun to Friday no more phone calls, texting comes to The End. I am fine with. I started looking for someone else less drama less crazy. You take a word of advise do not text or show interest on Snap-chat with her. You need to move on and find a real girl, and not a text buddy..

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How did you meet her, and how long have you known her?

 

She is definitely ghosting, and it's inconsiderate, but it might have nothing to do with you personally. Maybe an ex has come back or she's met someone else. It would be nice for her to at least let yo know, but unfortunately this type of sudden silence is not uncommon among those who have problems being honest and direct.

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Why? nothing on your part, she just found another interest. Like she's going to tell you that.....

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Do not take rejection personally, this is the key of dating, as a man.

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I figured. My biggest issue is the fact that there was no reason given. Even if I got the simple "can't do it anymore" with no explanation that's fine but to fall off the face of the earth just aggravates me

 

I get aggravated when they come up with vague platitudes explaining why they don't want to see me, not when I'm ghosted. It's generally not honest and I find it kind of annoying.

 

Here's a good example. I went out with a woman once and had one of the best dates yet. It was great on both ends: a six hour long date where we kept conversation, we laughed, and enjoyed each other's company. We set up a second date as well. I shoot her a text message the next day telling that I enjoyed myself and I wait two days for a response. She finally texts me back and informs me that "we're different people that want different things from a relationship.." I had no clue what she was talking about as we didn't have any sort of deep discussion about what we wanted from a relationship. So, I wished her well and moved on.

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