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April 13, 2017

Someone I was seeing last year ended things with me a while ago. It was to my understanding that she thought I was someone else and meeting her was a mistake but I guess she was too nice to tell me that. Kind of sucks to hear that from someone other than her, but whatever, I'm used to being dealt ****ty hands. During the time we were seeing each other, she purchased this ....experience thing for me. I have to admit, I really want to do it just because of the experience. It entails riding in a supercar for a while around a racetrack or something. I have to admit, at the time, it was extremely thoughtful and I was totally excited and looking forward to having that experience with her.

She's been emailing me this past month on more than one occasion about it and she's had more than 3 months to cancel the damn thing. We don't talk anymore, I don't even think I have her real phone number anymore, nor does she have mine apparently... When we do connect through email, she doesn't really say much and doesn't really want to continue any conversation. It's more just "I'm busy, hope you're good", which in my experience is woman code for "I really don't want to talk to you, goodbye." No problem, got it.

Thing is, I would be doing this alone. As in, she wouldn't even be coming to this event with me, so she literally purchased this thing for me to go to...alone. ...?

What should I do? On one hand, I think it could be a great experience. On the other hand, I don't see why she got this for me, won't be going to it with me, or didn't cancel it in the past 2 months that we haven't talked at all.

No, I will not be discussing specifics about our dating time together. Let's just say that I was an ******* and she was an angel and she definitely deserves a better life than what I could give her.

I really shouldn't be posting about this at all, but in all reality, i just want to see what other people think.

April 13, 2017

I've always wanted to do this. I was trying to get some friends together as an activity for my one friends bachelor party.

Anyways, I'd go. She bought it for you. She probably forgot about it and just remembered now. Go. Use it. Have a blast. And send her a thank you email afterwords about how it was a great experience and you're thankful. Even though you're not together she'd appreciate that you enjoy it and didn't let that $200-300 go to waste. She'd probably be more pissed at you if you did that anyways.

Who knows, maybe that will open the doors again. Sometimes a genuine thank you can help open the doors for more communication. From which you can ask her about the past and why she thought those things about you and you can clear it all up for her.

Don't expect that to happen, but I would definitely use it. See if you can bring a friend or your dad along too. Since you didn't pay for your ticket, maybe you could split the cost of your friend's pass to help convince them to go along too so you won't be alone.

Let us know which car you drive! I always wanted the Ferarri 480 Italia, Porsche GT3 and one of the Lambos.

April 13, 2017

Go but block her

April 13, 2017

I'd go on and go, but first, I would call the place to make sure she didn't rescind the purchase.

Then I'd block her and quit giving her email access to me.

April 13, 2017

I've always wanted to do this. I was trying to get some friends together as an activity for my one friends bachelor party.

Anyways, I'd go. She bought it for you. She probably forgot about it and just remembered now. Go. Use it. Have a blast. And send her a thank you email afterwords about how it was a great experience and you're thankful. Even though you're not together she'd appreciate that you enjoy it and didn't let that $200-300 go to waste. She'd probably be more pissed at you if you did that anyways.

Who knows, maybe that will open the doors again. Sometimes a genuine thank you can help open the doors for more communication. From which you can ask her about the past and why she thought those things about you and you can clear it all up for her.

Don't expect that to happen, but I would definitely use it. See if you can bring a friend or your dad along too. Since you didn't pay for your ticket, maybe you could split the cost of your friend's pass to help convince them to go along too so you won't be alone.

Let us know which car you drive! I always wanted the Ferarri 480 Italia, Porsche GT3 and one of the Lambos.

If she doesn't want to see me, doesn't want to talk to me, and pretty much doesn't like me, doesn't it make sense that she could just cancel the experience today and just get her money back?

Go but block her

Why? Why would I block her? I don't even think she has my phone number =/

I'd go on and go, but first, I would call the place to make sure she didn't rescind the purchase.

Then I'd block her and quit giving her email access to me.

So you think she's just setting me up to show up and awkwardly be declined as there isn't really anything to experience?

April 13, 2017

So you think she's just setting me up to show up and awkwardly be declined as there isn't really anything to experience?

That can happen... I mean, she won't talk to you, so you don't know where her head really is.

It's best to find out before you waste gas going out there.

April 13, 2017

Why? Why would I block her? I don't even think she has my phone number =/

because you said this:

~she thought I was someone else and meeting her was a mistake but I guess she was too nice to tell me that.
~We don't talk anymore,
~I don't even think I have her real phone number anymore, nor does she have mine apparently...
~When we do connect through email, she doesn't really say much and doesn't really want to continue any conversation.
~It's more just "I'm busy, hope you're good", which in my experience is woman code for "I really don't want to talk to you, goodbye."

Since this is your experience, then what's the point?

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V see my tag line

April 13, 2017

The best way to get a woman outside of your head is for you to get inside....

a fast car and flog her really really good so that her tires squeal

Seriously bro, I say you go to the performance driving school (or whatever it is exactly). She got you the ticket, it's already paid for, if you don't go ahead and enjoy it, it will go to waste.

April 13, 2017

As much as I appreciate your answers, I can't help but observe that it seems most of these answers are quite hopeless and short.

I guess I won't be going.

April 13, 2017

because you said this:

Since this is your experience, then what's the point?

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V see my tag line

Hence me asking for other people's experiences. My experiences are jaded.

I thought this was obvious man.

PS - What tag line?

April 13, 2017

As much as I appreciate your answers, I can't help but observe that it seems most of these answers are quite hopeless and short.

The situation with her is hopeless and stark--no shading or texture to consider, so there's no point in a protracted post.

April 13, 2017

PS - What tag line?

See post #4

Tag lines show up randomly, it seems.

April 13, 2017

Wow take somebody else brah....seriously.

Anyways she probably won it, or someone gave it to her....she doesn't have any real interest in super cars....go for it.

Edited April 13, 2017 by smackie9

April 13, 2017

Jesus, man! It's a friggin super car on a race track! Forget that chick...pick up one of those hot chicks that hang around dudes with super cars...she doesn't have to know it's not yours. Talk with a French accent...

Report back promptly with a detailed story...very detailed.

April 13, 2017

Wow take somebody else brah....seriously.

Anyways she probably won it, or someone gave it to her....she doesn't have any real interest in super cars....go for it.

I'm pretty sure this is just a thinly veiled attempt to get OP to take you, Smackie...be honest.

April 13, 2017

Unfortunately they don't let you drive a 2.5 million dollar supercar, you get in with a professional driver. Seen the same thing set up at the Oregon car swap.

I would take that all day long! I'll go with a Hennessy Venom GT pleeeeeaaase!

April 13, 2017

No I can't take someone else. Why the hell would I take someone else anyway? I wanted to go with her.

I don't see the point in accepting a gift from someone who wants nothing to do with me. Ah well, whatever.

Maybe I have it all wrong and I'm just assuming she wants nothing to do with me. I'm not a very smart man.

Oh well, I have plenty of homework to catch up on in my college classes this weekend, which seem to be very fake to begin with, but that's another story.

Edited April 13, 2017 by DrReplyInRhymes

April 13, 2017

I would go for it and am having a difficult time understanding the reasons why you wouldn't do it. I don't think you'd regret going but there is a high probability you would regret passing up the opportunity.

April 13, 2017

I would go for it and am having a difficult time understanding the reasons why you wouldn't do it. I don't think you'd regret going but there is a high probability you would regret passing up the opportunity.

Ok, someone you were seeing for a while tells you to your face to never contact her again. Then she emails you a few times in a few months reminding you of this experience she purchased for you, but doesn't want to refund it or go with you or reply to your emails anymore either. Yet, you would still accept the gift from her and go?

Why?

April 13, 2017

If she doesn't want to see me, doesn't want to talk to me, and pretty much doesn't like me, doesn't it make sense that she could just cancel the experience today and just get her money back?

I thought you said she had 3 months to cancel and didn't...now use it or you're out the money it cost. That's why I was saying use it, because she can't cancel it to get her money back (from what I was understanding), and because she doesn't want it to go to waste. Call ahead, see if the reservation is still there. If she isn't going to use it, then you use it. Ask to have her forward the info to you. If she doesn't, then she doesn't want you to use it and is screwing with you. If she does, then I would assume she wants it used rather then wasted.

Unfortunately they don't let you drive a 2.5 million dollar supercar, you get in with a professional driver. Seen the same thing set up at the Oregon car swap.

I would take that all day long! I'll go with a Hennessy Venom GT pleeeeeaaase!

They do let you drive the actual car. That's why it cost so much ($300 per 3 laps price dependent on car). You paying for the insurance on the car as part of the fee, unless you want to pay for additional to have a lower deductible should you wreck it. You drive with a professional, but you do the driving *if you want to*. You can be the passenger, which is less expensive, or you can drive.

A good friend and coworker did it. There are a few different companies that do this. This is the one he did: Drive Exotic Supercars on a Real Racetrack | Xtreme Xperience

If the Hennessey Venom GT was there, that would be insane...but I highly doubt it since only ~30 were made.

No I can't take someone else. Why the hell would I take someone else anyway? I wanted to go with her.

I don't see the point in accepting a gift from someone who wants nothing to do with me. Ah well, whatever.

Maybe I have it all wrong and I'm just assuming she wants nothing to do with me. I'm not a very smart man.

Oh well, I have plenty of homework to catch up on in my college classes this weekend, which seem to be very fake to begin with, but that's another story.

Then go alone and bring a friend to watch you. Who cares if you wanted to go with her, that isn't the situation you're in now. Did you call to see if a friend can go along with you, not in the same car, but drive as well...and do the splitting cost thing with them? If my friend offered that to me, I'd absolutely do it.

Say thank you and be done with it. Its a once in a lifetime opportunity. You can sit on your hands, or sit in the bucket seat of a ferarri. I know what I'd choose.

Ok, someone you were seeing for a while tells you to your face to never contact her again. Then she emails you a few times in a few months reminding you of this experience she purchased for you, but doesn't want to refund it or go with you or reply to your emails anymore either. Yet, you would still accept the gift from her and go?

Why?

See my reply above. If she sends the info, youre in. If she doesn't, then shes just messing with you. Doesn't sound to me like she is. Perhaps she's just doing something nice since she already spent the money.

Edited April 13, 2017 by xUnknown

April 13, 2017

I thought you said she had 3 months to cancel and didn't...now use it or you're out the money it cost. That's why I was saying use it, because she can't cancel it to get her money back (from what I was understanding), and because she doesn't want it to go to waste. Call ahead, see if the reservation is still there. If she isn't going to use it, then you use it. Ask to have her forward the info to you. If she doesn't, then she doesn't want you to use it and is screwing with you. If she does, then I would assume she wants it used rather then wasted.

They do let you drive the actual car. That's why it cost so much ($300 per 3 laps price dependent on car). You paying for the insurance on the car as part of the fee, unless you want to pay for additional to have a lower deductible should you wreck it. You drive with a professional, but you do the driving *if you want to*. You can be the passenger, which is less expensive, or you can drive.

A good friend and coworker did it. There are a few different companies that do this. This is the one he did: Drive Exotic Supercars on a Real Racetrack | Xtreme Xperience

If the Hennessey Venom GT was there, that would be insane...but I highly doubt it since only ~30 were made.

Then go alone and bring a friend to watch you. Who cares if you wanted to go with her, that isn't the situation you're in now. Did you call to see if a friend can go along with you, not in the same car, but drive as well...and do the splitting cost thing with them? If my friend offered that to me, I'd absolutely do it.

Say thank you and be done with it. Its a once in a lifetime opportunity. You can sit on your hands, or sit in the bucket seat of a ferarri. I know what I'd choose.

See my reply above. If she sends the info, youre in. If she doesn't, then shes just messing with you. Doesn't sound to me like she is. Perhaps she's just doing something nice since she already spent the money.

She purchased it 3 months ago. It can be cancelled up to 24 hours prior to the date for a FULL refund. She forwarded me confirmation emails, yet I never signed any of the liability forms she asked me to sign in order to go because of the whole "don't ever contact me again" debacle that happened after the purchase. If she doesn't want to contact me or even talk to me or respond to my emails, and she wants it used, I'm sure she can GIVE IT TO SOMEONE ELSE then.

It's not a once in a lifetime opportunity, it's the same thing your friend and coworker did, just a different company. It's purchasable and repeatable and very affordable. I'd rather spend $260 on the 2-day dinner + hotel cruise offered in Seattle for a nice date with a great woman like her than a supercar experience for myself, if I had money for that.

I don't have a friend that would be interested in going. Yes, the last few years of my life, I have not made very many friends, and I have lost most of those who I considered my friends. I know, it's pathetic to hear, but it's the truth. There's a reason I've grown accustomed to be lonely, not alone, and loathing it, but it's bearable.

I'm not worried about if she would stand me up or not. It's at the horse race track. If she wants to stand me up, I'm sure I could make a few bets on a horse or dog or whatever is racing and make it an afternoon. However, she won't be going with me, nor does she want to, as stated before.

Why should I be thankful for an uninvited gift that I did not ask for from a woman who has no interest in communicating with me with a gift that can be full refunded today if she so chose?

People, I'm really not trying to argue here. I'm seriously interested in your replies and your thoughts, from all of you.

April 13, 2017

If Smackie doesn't go with you...I'm in!

I guess most of us wonder why you have an issue with taking the gift from her. If you're hurt over the loss of the relationship, we all get that and we aren't making fun at all. But, what the heck, go have some fun.

Most folks can drop $260 all day long on having some fun so, no, it's not a once in a lifetime thing.

Have some fun on her dime and laugh all the way round the track...

April 13, 2017

If Smackie doesn't go with you...I'm in!

I guess most of us wonder why you have an issue with taking the gift from her. If you're hurt over the loss of the relationship, we all get that and we aren't making fun at all. But, what the heck, go have some fun.

Most folks can drop $260 all day long on having some fun so, no, it's not a once in a lifetime thing.

Have some fun on her dime and laugh all the way round the track...

If smackie was serious, I'd take her LOL. I assumed it was a joke, much like my dating life. HA!

I really Conan the **** out of myself with self deprecating humor sometimes.

What can I say? I'm poor. I do not have $260 to drop on having fun at the moment. The last time I dropped $260 on having fun, I regretted it instantly. It's something I have to save for. Currently, I have to move out of state in July so my money is going toward the 15 credits of college I enrolled for to finish my transfer degree, medical payments I owe, and saving for an apartment in July / car payments / child support / cell phone / storage / health insurance.

I mean, I don't understand. Most of you here advocate that if you had feelings for a woman and she tells you she doesn't feel the same, that a friendship can't occur and you have to distance yourself and NO CONTACT them.

Now you're all advising I should accept this gift from her?

April 13, 2017

If smackie was serious, I'd take her LOL. I assumed it was a joke, much like my dating life. HA!

I really Conan the **** out of myself with self deprecating humor sometimes.

What can I say? I'm poor. I do not have $260 to drop on having fun at the moment. The last time I dropped $260 on having fun, I regretted it instantly. It's something I have to save for. Currently, I have to move out of state in July so my money is going toward the 15 credits of college I enrolled for to finish my transfer degree, medical payments I owe, and saving for an apartment in July / car payments / child support / cell phone / storage / health insurance.

I mean, I don't understand. Most of you here advocate that if you had feelings for a woman and she tells you she doesn't feel the same, that a friendship can't occur and you have to distance yourself and NO CONTACT them.

Now you're all advising I should accept this gift from her?

Well, taking the gift isn't a friendship invitation, as I see it. I wouldn't suggest NC unless you need it to heal. I think that it's rare to be friends with an ex. It seems to be a painful thing to subject yourself to.

If you can sell the ticket and use the money for something else, go for it. if it's a "principle" thing, I understand, don't take the ticket. I think we are having a bit of fun...this thread is about what you should do with the gift.

If Smackie is the chick in her avatar, I may fight you over her haha! Now...where can I get 2.5 mil?

April 13, 2017

It's a guilt gift, that's why she still is offering it to you......don't accept her pity then.

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