Author sweetjess1951 Posted April 13, 2017 Author Posted April 13, 2017 I say she keeps Fido and the dude gets neutered...seems fair. Hahahaha. The dog is going back tonight. As much as I'd love to keep him, I have no time for a cute, whiney, chewing, wake me up multiple times a night puppy. 1
Titanll Posted April 13, 2017 Posted April 13, 2017 Hahahaha. The dog is going back tonight. As much as I'd love to keep him, I have no time for a cute, whiney, chewing, wake me up multiple times a night puppy. Damn...you and I would never work out...you just described me to a T.
preraph Posted April 13, 2017 Posted April 13, 2017 You need to dump him as a friend. As long as he has any contact with you, he is likley to go around to others acting like you belong to him and keep others from coming around. He has probably already told his buddies that you sent him a photo of the dog pulling the towel off you out of the shower. No reason at all to keep this guy around as a friend. He is not your friend. 1
kendahke Posted April 13, 2017 Posted April 13, 2017 I don't like him romantically. He's always been nice to me. Is his behavior reason enough to not be "friends" (I use the term lightly. Its not like I'm going to hang out with him one-on-one. Its just when I see him during softball). Friends may not end up being an option if he keeps acting the way he is. I've been really busy with work today and he's been blowing up my phone. He even asked if he could play with my team tonight. Maybe I'm blowing things out of proportion because I'm already super annoyed with his aggressive level, but I feel like he just wants to be around me however he can, which is why he is asking me if he can play with my team. do you feel comfortable around him alone?
kendahke Posted April 13, 2017 Posted April 13, 2017 I have to agree with Titan. Why do I have to change my behavior to accommodate this guy? Why can't I just tell him I'm not interested and he respect that? Why do I need to ignore someone? And even then, I've not answered him for HOURS during the day, and he still continues to text. Obviously ignoring isn't working. I find it rude to ignore someone. Just like I find it disrespectful if I ask someone to respect my wishes and they continue to do what I asked them not to. Because some people don't really like you well enough to respect your wishes. His behavior is a form of "negging". What he wants is more important than what you want and with people like that, you have make yourself plain as the nose on your face and take measures to curb their access to your person. He's going to keep doing what he's doing because he gets a rise out of you and it's working here on page 2 of this thread. See how long playing nice will get you. It's your responsibility to stand sentry to your boundaries. You are giving that task to someone who isn't interested in what you want out of him, so why would he back off? He's getting attention from you, even if it's negative attention and he's on your mind. Being nice will get you frustrated behind someone who doesn't respect you. 1
1fish2fish Posted April 13, 2017 Posted April 13, 2017 He really sounds like *any* attention from you is going to only encourage him. This is what I mean by giving him mixed signals. The way he is responding to the innocent things you say sounds like there is something wrong with how his brain interprets things. As soon as you mentioned bed, he jumped all over that. You're right. It shouldn't be you job to modify your behavior when you've told him that you're not interested in anything more than a friendship. *But* he doesn't sound like he has the emotional maturity or self awareness to not take everything you say as encouragement. Good for you for calling him out on his inappropriate comment.
KrimzonWolf Posted April 13, 2017 Posted April 13, 2017 The sad thing about this is that at one point in my life I acted very similar to this dude. I'm proud to say that I never suggested anything close to the caliber that this guy has. Compared to him there's no harm done on your side of the issue. Like people have said above, cut him off. If he still doesn't get it, then hire a hitman lol jk. 1
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