Pepijn Posted April 11, 2017 Posted April 11, 2017 (edited) So me and my ex-girlfriend were together for 2 years. There was no jealousy around at the beginning of our relationship. When we were together for a longer time things changed and we became jealous to eachother. Everyday a little bit more. I was the extreme one.. About a week ago my ex broke up with me because she couldn't handle it anymore and needed her space and freedom (not like meeting other boys but hanging out with her friends instead of with me all the time). She is really sure that this is the thing that she wants and doesn't seem to want a relationship with me again. The day she broke up with me I realised that i was a complete mess and really a douche to her.. I realised that jealousy was a thing that I accepted in my life in the past and really don't know why I did that. Right now I am not jealous at all anymore and I know that if we will ever be together again I won't be jaulous. It's just gone. I know it's too late now and it really hurts me that I haven't got a chance to show my new me. After the break up it was really though for me and it still is. It's been 1,5 week now after the break up. We decided to do the no contact rule but I failed 2 times after 2 days.. Since sunday morning we haven't spoken to eachother until now. Today, tuesday night at 23:00 she contacted me instead of me contacting her. My heart was racing when I saw her calling me. So I picked up the phone and that was the moment when she told me that her aunt was in a divorce and she felt like talking to me about it was the only good thing. We talked a little after that and had some funny conversations around. She was tired and wanted to sleep. At this moment she said that she is still feeling the same about it and still doesn't regret the break-up.. This is so hard for me because I really really don't know what to think now. After 1,5 week suffering she contacts me just to tell about her aunt and still feeling the same.. Does someone know what this means..? Is it just beceause she wanted to tell me and felt like I was the only one who would understand? Or is it a sign or something? I don't know and it's driving me crazy.. I really hope you guys can help me and I would really appreciate all the comments! I just want her back, that's all.. Thank you guys! Edited April 13, 2017 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Merge and add paragraphs and edit title for more clarity
Maldives Posted April 11, 2017 Posted April 11, 2017 (edited) Yes this one's a no Brainerd dude. At her moments of weakness she'll reach out to u for comfort. Wat u need do is wat most do on here and that's if u wanna back NC in fact u can only not want her back for her to com back i know it's weird but that's how the psychology around this stuff works. Ur feeling the way yr feeling because of the rejection trust me. U need to ignore her txtx and watch her suddenly com running after u might take a lil while in ur case I'd take a guess and say a few weeks or mths at most ignore ignore ignore till she confesses she was wrong and loves u and wants nothing but u Edited April 13, 2017 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Redacted full quote of starting post
Author Pepijn Posted April 13, 2017 Author Posted April 13, 2017 (edited) I know it's a long story. I just hope that you are willing to help me.. Me and my ex broke up after 2 years. She was the dumper.. We decided to do the no contact rule but I failed twice after 2 days of nc. Sunday morning we decided to do it again for the third time. 2 days later she called me. At that moment my heart was beating 100 times a second and I really thought she wanted me back. But my hope was too big and the reason why she called me was because her aunt was going through a divorce.. She told me that her feelings were still gone and that was the moment we hang up again. After that we haven't spoken each other. Now it has been 2 days again of not talking or seeing each other and I feel horrible.. It's like she's death but is still breathing.. The reason we broke up was because I was really jealous and she wanted her life back. From the moment she broke up with me I understood my jealousy and realized that it was all for nothing. I told her that it was gone and I know that if we will ever be together again my jealousy still will be gone. I just want to prove myself to her and show her that I changed but she keeps on telling me that she can't.. I just don't know what to do.. She's with her friends all the time and is never at home. She still has all of our photo's on Instagram and Facebook but I don't know why. My parents told me that I should delete mine with her from both social media platforms. I don't know if I should do that or if it will help me get her back. I just want her back, that's all and I am willing to do everything for that.. Will deleting my photo's from social media help me or not? Maybe she will think twice before really letting me go? Or will it be easier for her to move on? Maybe she kept them for me because she feels so bad for me..? If someone knows what to do, please help me.. I can't give up on the love of my life. Sorry for my not that good English, i'm from holland! Edited April 13, 2017 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Merge and add paragraphs and edit title for more clarity
William Posted April 13, 2017 Posted April 13, 2017 Moderator bump to reflect merging two threads on a similar topic, adding paragraphs and editing the title for clarity. There may be some duplicate content and one post came in automoderated so thread bumped up. Thanks and please continue! 1
d0nnivain Posted April 13, 2017 Posted April 13, 2017 I'm sorry you are hurting but know, this too shall pass. You don't agree to do the NC rule. As an individual you decide that you will have no further contact with your EX because staying in touch is painful for you & delays your own healing. You know your jealousy lead to the demise of this relationship so you need to think about how you will prevent this problem in the future. Your EX called you because she wanted comfort. She did not call you as a pretext of getting back together. You knew the back story about her aunt & she knew you'd listen. If calls like this upset you or give you false hope stop taking them. Your parents are correct about social media. You have to delete her from everything -- that is what NC means, wiping out all methods by which you could be tempted to reach out. 1
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