Gingerlocks Posted April 13, 2017 Posted April 13, 2017 What is you guys opinion on your SO/Girlfriend, using it for validation/self-esteem? I've been spending some time with a girl a while back and stuff like this would often occur. They "need" over a certain amount of likes, or else they'll delete the picture. Bikini pictures, and what not? Basically just getting extra attention? Is it like.. showing that their life is better than what it really is, and them being insecure? I would often tell her that I thought she looked stunning in that outfit, or if she did something special for that day. But its like, it just isn't enough?
d0nnivain Posted April 13, 2017 Posted April 13, 2017 I've never heard of this but I could see where a young girl might act that way. If you call her out on this insecure behavior she will feel bad about herself. Is that what you want?
Author Gingerlocks Posted April 13, 2017 Author Posted April 13, 2017 Ofc not. I'm just trying to get the idea of why she needs that much "approval" if you know what I mean?
d0nnivain Posted April 13, 2017 Posted April 13, 2017 She needs it because she's insecure. It's not a good thing but if it's not harming anybody (except maybe her own self esteem), let her be. If it really makes you crazy, date somebody else.
Gaeta Posted April 13, 2017 Posted April 13, 2017 Ofc not. I'm just trying to get the idea of why she needs that much "approval" if you know what I mean? It's the new plague afflicting the millennium generation. Me, me, me, me, look at me. It fills a void. If people tell you you're pretty and you get 100 likes than you are worth something. Often it's young women who had no attention growing up and left on their own, the type of young girl that at 12 wanted to be 19. 1
CptInsano Posted April 13, 2017 Posted April 13, 2017 Often it's young women who had no attention growing up and left on their own, the type of young girl that at 12 wanted to be 19. Or the men and women who are 45, pretending to be 21. I'm afraid kids are more vulnerable, but I don't believe Generation X is behaving any better. 1
Gaeta Posted April 13, 2017 Posted April 13, 2017 Or the men and women who are 45, pretending to be 21. I'm afraid kids are more vulnerable, but I don't believe Generation X is behaving any better. Oh I agree with you. The reason why a 45 year old is suffering from excessive social attention is the same reason a 20 year old does. I have a female friend of 50 who does just like a 20 year old. She will even text me to go like her picture on FB. She keeps notes of who likes her pictures and who doesn't and if her BF doesn't like her picture than she thinks it's because he's cheating and he doesn't find her attractive anymore. My friend suffered all of her life from being the middle child with no attention.
kendahke Posted April 13, 2017 Posted April 13, 2017 She's mainlining attention and social media is the way that drug gets delivered. Anyone whose whole life revolves around how many likes a picture gets is someone with some heavy issues--they don't need a boyfriend: they need a therapist. 1
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