IManifestLove Posted April 13, 2017 Posted April 13, 2017 He used to text minimally and most of the time it was just for sex, but he always liked me as a person but never gave me extra attention. I sort of pulled away for a little while and started focusing on myself and I'm looking and feeling great and confident! It's now been 9 months that I've been involved with him and now he's always texting me just to see how I am doing, wants to have conversations about my family, is concerned with my schooling, has me spending extra time with him just chilling out and laughing and he's basically texting me every day...he wouldn't do any of this before. I won't get in over my head here, but somethings up with the brotha, any clue what it is and what I should do? I love him.
todreaminblue Posted April 13, 2017 Posted April 13, 2017 every ac tion has an equal and opposite reaction...you new found strength is attracting good things.....simple.....and he is obviously feeling as good about you as you are about him..so dont overthink...let it happen..enjoy...look forward to tomorrow..best wishes...deb 1
reeseyummy Posted April 13, 2017 Posted April 13, 2017 My advice from a fellow guy friend: If he makes you wonder if he likes you or not, he certainly doesn't like you that much. If he really does like you, he's going to let you know. You can play with the flow, and see if he shows his interest boldly (like, or not like) But, don't play this game for too long. I'd say one month's top. Then stop investing emotion and yourself, it's not going to work out well... 5
coolheadal Posted April 13, 2017 Posted April 13, 2017 He used to text minimally and most of the time it was just for sex, but he always liked me as a person but never gave me extra attention. I sort of pulled away for a little while and started focusing on myself and I'm looking and feeling great and confident! It's now been 9 months that I've been involved with him and now he's always texting me just to see how I am doing, wants to have conversations about my family, is concerned with my schooling, has me spending extra time with him just chilling out and laughing and he's basically texting me every day...he wouldn't do any of this before. I won't get in over my head here, but somethings up with the brotha, any clue what it is and what I should do? I love him. There is only so much you can get this guy not what your waiting for each day. Say goodbye we're done. Move on find someone who wants you for more than just sex. Too much games already your in so deep into a nowhere so call casual encounter at best. 2
leogirl876 Posted April 13, 2017 Posted April 13, 2017 Sounds like the last guy I got involved with for 4 months. Come to find out later, he had someone else, and I unknowingly became a side person. When I started putting two and two together, he got dumped by text message, haha! The lies this man told were unbelievable! 1
Chilli Posted April 13, 2017 Posted April 13, 2017 Sorry to say but l think he's just at a bit of a loose end right now so your filling in the gaps. Tbh , if he really liked you in all the right ways he would've been all over it back at the start or long ago ,not just sex crapola on the side or hanging out. Up to you really if you let it go on from here or what. But personally l'd be just calling it friends so l guess if your cool with that type of friendship well, carry on, up to you.
Gr8fuln2020 Posted April 13, 2017 Posted April 13, 2017 Yup, as others have suggested, he is in-between ladies, so coming back to you. As Chilli said, if he was that into you, it would have shown back when you first met and 'dated.' He doesn't have any one better, misses the sex he had with you and you gave to him(?) and now looking to get that back. He is texting b/c he is not getting the attention he wants from you. Your choice, but it sounds like you're in a better place w/o him (unless that really isn't the case), so leave him be.
act00 Posted April 14, 2017 Posted April 14, 2017 It's really hard to say. He seems to be taking a more serious interest in you, and seems ready, but at the same time, one has to wonder if he's giving you all this attention because he just doesn't have anyone else to focus on at the moment. It could be in the past, he wasn't really ready to look at long term commitment, but now he is? This is a proceed with caution situation. I'm inclined to think just enjoy the ride. This could go long term, or he could ultimately get bored and find someone else. This is what dating is, and you might find you don't want this to be permanent with him as well, and you move on. No one gets out of dating unscathed. Relationships take work and investment with no guaranteed outcome. It's going well, so why not see where it goes?
Author IManifestLove Posted April 14, 2017 Author Posted April 14, 2017 It's really hard to say. He seems to be taking a more serious interest in you, and seems ready, but at the same time, one has to wonder if he's giving you all this attention because he just doesn't have anyone else to focus on at the moment. It could be in the past, he wasn't really ready to look at long term commitment, but now he is? This is a proceed with caution situation. I'm inclined to think just enjoy the ride. This could go long term, or he could ultimately get bored and find someone else. This is what dating is, and you might find you don't want this to be permanent with him as well, and you move on. No one gets out of dating unscathed. Relationships take work and investment with no guaranteed outcome. It's going well, so why not see where it goes? So true! What I plan on doing is just not getting ahead of myself and probably keep a healthy distance just to see what he does and to make sure I'm not getting hurt by having all these expectations. I'm going to grow as a person in the time being, and just doing things that will make me new and improved. If he starts getting to the point where he wants to go all in, I will assess if his actions match up with all his words, and I might give him a chance.
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