kel224 Posted April 13, 2017 Posted April 13, 2017 I recently started using tinder. Was off the market for several years, so a bit out of practice. Not that I was ever great at dating I've been on one tinder date that didn't go anywhere. Was happy to at least get a date and be putting myself out there tho. She seemed interested when we were messaging-quick replies, enthusiastic "yes!" when I asked her out, etc. But she never put much into moving conversation along. When we met, nothing clicked. I was the only one making effort to get to know one another. Recently, I matched with another girl that has caught my interest enough to ask out. Thing about her is, she takes forever to reply. 24-48 hours. But when she does, she seems reasonably interested and always asks a question to move the conversation along. I generally have been intending to ask someone I'm interested in out early after we've had just a bit of back and forth conversation. But when the conversation moves at this snail's pace, I start to wonder if she's just replying out of politeness. We're both grad students and she strikes me as introverted like me, so I understand life is busy and its easy to be in our own world sometimes. But 2 days is a good while to reply. Any insight? I think I'll just ask her out anyway if she responds to my last message, and see what happens. But any insight on how to tell if a girl is actually interested on tinder?
joseb Posted April 13, 2017 Posted April 13, 2017 (edited) Girls get 100s of matches on tinder, so it's not the same for them. For you you might have a few matches and one or two you are interested in. She will have lots. I usually take any reply as a good enough sign and ask her out. Nothing counts till you meet. Edited April 13, 2017 by joseb 2
Erik30 Posted April 13, 2017 Posted April 13, 2017 (edited) In my experience on Tinder, the girls who took a long time to get back to me weren't that interested, (I guess) and also eventually just stopped replying. Ask her out so you don't have to waste your time. Girls who are really interested are usually quick to reply, and try to keep the conversation going, like also ask you questions instead of making you do all the work. If you're not able to have a texting conversation with her, (because she sends you 1 text every day or two) it often won't go anywhere. Sure this girl replies, but do you really want to deal with someone who takes that much time just to send a text back? It should be fun and exciting, not annoying waiting days till she finally texts you back. Edited April 13, 2017 by Erik30 3
angel.eyes Posted April 13, 2017 Posted April 13, 2017 But any insight on how to tell if a girl is actually interested on tinder? She responds to your messages. More importantly, you ask her out, and she says yes (then shows up for the date). 2
reeseyummy Posted April 13, 2017 Posted April 13, 2017 I don't receive notifications on tinder, so sometimes when I'm busy I forget to check tinder. But if I think the guy is interesting, I'd ask his whatspp or line account, so that we can keep in touch faster. (also a chance to see if he/she just wants a hook-up, if so they won't be giving you their other contacts) 1
coolheadal Posted April 13, 2017 Posted April 13, 2017 I recently started using tinder. Was off the market for several years, so a bit out of practice. Not that I was ever great at dating I've been on one tinder date that didn't go anywhere. Was happy to at least get a date and be putting myself out there tho. She seemed interested when we were messaging-quick replies, enthusiastic "yes!" when I asked her out, etc. But she never put much into moving conversation along. When we met, nothing clicked. I was the only one making effort to get to know one another. Recently, I matched with another girl that has caught my interest enough to ask out. Thing about her is, she takes forever to reply. 24-48 hours. But when she does, she seems reasonably interested and always asks a question to move the conversation along. I generally have been intending to ask someone I'm interested in out early after we've had just a bit of back and forth conversation. But when the conversation moves at this snail's pace, I start to wonder if she's just replying out of politeness. We're both grad students and she strikes me as introverted like me, so I understand life is busy and its easy to be in our own world sometimes. But 2 days is a good while to reply. Any insight? I think I'll just ask her out anyway if she responds to my last message, and see what happens. But any insight on how to tell if a girl is actually interested on tinder? That app seem more geared up for casual dating if you get to that point. If you want more then look at OKC app. Otherwise enjoy the cat and mouse game on tinder. 2
Author kel224 Posted April 18, 2017 Author Posted April 18, 2017 Yea, I realize that I can't take tinder seriously and that not everyone checks it throughout the day as I do. It seems harder to read someone's interest on this app, especially since people use it for really different reasons. UPDATE (for anyone interested)- this girl went like 3 days without replying, and I figured it was a wash. But she ended up apologizing explaining she had a lot going on. Asked her out for coffee, and she obliged enthusiastically . We shall see how that goes, she seems pretty cool and is rather easy on the eyes. But for anyone reading this thread with similar questions, this supports the notion that we should always just ask the girl out instead of pondering whether or not they're interested (unless of course they make it very clear they're not).
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