fastcar Posted April 12, 2017 Posted April 12, 2017 I'm 33m, dating a 30 y/o woman... First date we had dinner/drinks out - stayed for hours & had really good chemistry/connection. We kissed at the end which was fairly brief, but quite passionate. Second date we just met at a park, later on ended up back at her place and got intimate - she was hesitant at first (and so was I) about moving too fast but we couldn't help ourselves. Now it's third date time...I really feel strong feelings and connection for her, so I really want to get things right. At first she was a bit elusive in pinning down a time to go on this date, but I got her to commit with a bit of a slight push... She can be a bit hard to read at times, texting with dating drives me mad actually. I probably text a little more than I should, she probably is texting a bit less than she should. What do I organise for the third date? For now we have just lined up another dinner/drinks. I don't know if doing just that is going to be a bit boring/same old. I know she has been on many dates with other men up till now...so would like to somehow be different from them. She is not great at talking about herself but I am pretty good at keeping the conversation flowing so there's no awkward silences..but should I mix it up a little? I was contemplating something like ten pin bowling, or ice skating?? I can only basic ice skating..but I haven't asked her if she has done it before.. Don't know whether to run that past her first or just meet up for dinner then say we are going to do it afterwards...hard to know if she would want spontaneity or not... Or should I play it safe with another straight dinner/drinks session? I really don't know how but I probably need to find a way to control myself from smothering this girl or acting too keen - I am not a game player though and if I see a good thing, I go for it - like I lay my cards out a bit, say I really enjoyed our time, or tell her probably more than I should... I guess I need to stop myself thinking too far ahead...and focus more on the now God, I am ranting - better stop!
d0nnivain Posted April 12, 2017 Posted April 12, 2017 You set yourself apart from the other men by being a great guy, not by what you do on the date. Since you have already been intimate, show up for this 3rd date with a lovely single flower like a white or silver rose (it's kind of pinkish) or a star gazer lily (another pink flower) or a small bunch of mixed flowers you got at the grocery store for about $10. No red roses, certainly not an elaborate expensive bouquet. You are going for sweet here. Maybe next week or the week after send her a snail mail card for no reason . . . a light hearted thinking of you, I like you (but not in so many words) Nobody gets paper mail anymore. It will be different. Let her arrange the 4th date. 2
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