fmfan08 Posted April 13, 2017 Posted April 13, 2017 Yeah, that means she doesn't want one with you. She wouldn't have gone out on 8 dates if she didn't see something potential with you, but obviously the more she got to know you the more she realised it wasn't working. Look on the bright side, she gave it a chance where other girls wouldn't have. It's not you either, some people work together, some don't. Unless of course you were doing something negative, etc.
joseb Posted April 13, 2017 Posted April 13, 2017 Are you two sleeping together? Who pays for the dates?
Author Copter Posted April 13, 2017 Author Posted April 13, 2017 Are you two sleeping together? Who pays for the dates? Yes we slept together, and we both paid. I think it was 50/50.
GemmaUK Posted April 13, 2017 Posted April 13, 2017 Sounds to me like she just isn't ready to get serious with anyone. I don't understand when people say it's 'not ready 'with you'' or it's about a person not being over an ex or all of the other assumptions made. I've experienced many times in my life where I have not felt ready or willing to get serious with someone - all kinds of reasons and if I am dating and continuing to see that person these reasons are not related to me not liking that person enough - the one thing sort of related is when a person hasn't listened to me when I have said I'm not ready for something serious but continues to act/speak as if what I said and my opinion is ignored and of no value. Right now I'm not ready for anything serious and I state that but meeting people and dates I have gone on the last few years it seems things are all or nothing always - this doesn't give me (or them) any time to get to know each other for one thing. I also always do the 50/50 on dates thing - so there is no leading on going on. Dating should be fun, not pressurised. It loses all fun for me when the guy makes lots of subtle or not so subtle attempts to 'lock me down' when things were going great and we were having fun together. I don't multi-date nor cheat on people in any way for the record. But yeah, sometimes I am just not ready to make someone the 100% focus of my life - which in my age group (late 40's) seems to be what the guys I meet want - and they want it right now!!
joseb Posted April 13, 2017 Posted April 13, 2017 Sounds to me like she just isn't ready to get serious with anyone. I don't understand when people say it's 'not ready 'with you'' or it's about a person not being over an ex or all of the other assumptions made. I've experienced many times in my life where I have not felt ready or willing to get serious with someone - all kinds of reasons and if I am dating and continuing to see that person these reasons are not related to me not liking that person enough - the one thing sort of related is when a person hasn't listened to me when I have said I'm not ready for something serious but continues to act/speak as if what I said and my opinion is ignored and of no value. Right now I'm not ready for anything serious and I state that but meeting people and dates I have gone on the last few years it seems things are all or nothing always - this doesn't give me (or them) any time to get to know each other for one thing. I also always do the 50/50 on dates thing - so there is no leading on going on. Dating should be fun, not pressurised. It loses all fun for me when the guy makes lots of subtle or not so subtle attempts to 'lock me down' when things were going great and we were having fun together. I don't multi-date nor cheat on people in any way for the record. But yeah, sometimes I am just not ready to make someone the 100% focus of my life - which in my age group (late 40's) seems to be what the guys I meet want - and they want it right now!! I'm with you gemma. Sometimes people really don't want a serious relationship. I know I don't, at least not for the foreseeable future. So it's not necessarily a line people use (I guess it can be for some).
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