jaml Posted April 11, 2017 Posted April 11, 2017 So this story is kind of stupid and drawn out but sometimes it feels better to hear peoples opinions so you can move on. A year ago I had a crush on this guy Mark so I befriended his bff Dan and asked Dan to set us up. So Dan, his gf Paige, Mark, my friend and I went out. Mark wound up hooking up with my friend and weirdly enough it made me and Dan become really good friends. Dan would text me all the time. Like at least once a day. I would spend holidays with Dan and his gf Paige. I would hang out with Dan and drink. He was like my little brother. Fast forward to 6 months later, I decided I wanted to move. Oddly enough, Dan got a job offer to move to the same place as me so Dan, Paige and I all moved to a new city. Dan started contacting me more and more and it was apparent that something was going on in his relationship with Paige. He would confide in me and tell me he wanted to dump Paige but didnt know what to do. I realized at this time that I had started to have feelings for Dan and told Dan it wasnt fair for him to do this to Paige and that he needed to figure out what he wanted before he continued to talk to me. I didnt speak to Dan for 2 weeks and then randomly out of the blue he told me he dumped Paige and she moved to another city. I was so excited because I thought me and Dan could be together. A month after they broke up I felt like Dan was still emotionally confused and I told him I needed to back off while he figured out his life. He said he cared about me and was sorry. Then he started randomly sexting me but I was like whatever. This continued for a week. Then i said k we need to stop and he agreed. We flip flopped over this for another week. Dan started to be kind of rude to me which was weird and out of character. I got really upset and told him we couldnt speak anymore. I was filled with confusion and emotions. A couple days later I felt guilty and I apologized and asked if we could just be friends because I didnt want him out of my life. He responded with im sorry i cant do that i blocked you on everything. I saw his friend blocked me as well. Can someone give me some insight so I can feel slightly better?
divegrl Posted April 11, 2017 Posted April 11, 2017 Men cannot be just friends with women. Sex always gets in the way. Do you want to date a man who emotionally cheated on his ex gf? He would do the same to you. Good luck my friend.
Telemachus Posted April 11, 2017 Posted April 11, 2017 He was "like" your little brother; he wasn't your brother. Family you get. Friends you pick. We get to pick our friends in this life. You dumped him, then he dumped you. If either one of you doesn't value the friendship, then you aren't friends. People come into and out of our lives, and we into and out of theirs. That's how it is. Most marriages famously don't last a lifetime, and most friendships don't either.
alandru Posted April 11, 2017 Posted April 11, 2017 As a man, I can't be just friends with a girl. If I want a friend I can talk to my many guy friends. Same question from me... I'm kind of close to your situation now. In your scenario I would be another guy who likes you, but knows you're waiting for Dan to break it off so you can date him. How can you trust someone or be with someone that is capable of emotionally cheating on his girlfriend?
Author jaml Posted April 13, 2017 Author Posted April 13, 2017 Good point. I like to give people the benefit of the doubt. Thanks for the advice
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