Renee12345 Posted April 10, 2017 Posted April 10, 2017 Hello everyone!! So my boyfriend broke up with me a month ago.. I had moved to his city (where i dont speak the language or know anyone) We were living together and constantly fighting (always my fault). One day out of the blue he had made my luggage and told me it was over.. we were supposed to get married next year, were almost engaged. I was completely shocked. He had never spoken about breaking up. The fights were bad, and I definitely need to work on my problems.. but his reaction was really extreme. we were completely attached and inseparable.. So a week later I moved out.. Now its been a month and Im so upset.. Im losing hope. When I moved out he told me he might just need time, that he just needs to be alone for a bit.. then when I called him a few days later he was completely harsh and cold telling me it was over forever, that ive made too many mistakes, that he will never ever come back to me... He texted me twice since then. Once to thank me for a concert ticket I had bought for his mom, and the second time to tell me the bank had called him- since all my letters still go to his address.. he didnt tell me to change my address, just told me to go to the bank to sign stuff for my account.. I am holding onto the few hopes I have left that he might still love me and reconsider.. 1. this fact that he hasnt told me to change my address yet. 2. he still has some of my stuff i left at his house, which he didnt mention. 3. he KEEPS sending snaps to my best friend (who is a guy). they met only once at my graduation.. so they arent even friends.. he sends one or two snaps every day to him.. generic ones, so not directed to him.. but still saying everything he is doing etc. which is still a bit weird considering he is over with me. 4. he still has all our pictures together on Instagram. they are very recent (just one month ago): us cooking together, us in very couply poses.. etc. Do you guys think these things mean anything? Or could they be nothing? I hate analyzing but Im trying to hold onto anything...
d0nnivain Posted April 10, 2017 Posted April 10, 2017 The only thing this means is he is stringing you along & you are letting him. You need to take steps to fully separate yourself from him -- cancel joint bank accounts, forward your mail to your new place (or move back home). Do not keep holding out hope that all will be OK in time. It won't. This relationship is over. Time will allow you to heal but it will not cause reconciliation. I'm sorry. 1
Simple Logic Posted April 10, 2017 Posted April 10, 2017 Hello everyone!! So my boyfriend broke up with me a month ago.. I had moved to his city (where i dont speak the language or know anyone) We were living together and constantly fighting (always my fault). One day out of the blue he had made my luggage and told me it was over.. we were supposed to get married next year, were almost engaged. I was completely shocked. He had never spoken about breaking up. The fights were bad, and I definitely need to work on my problems.. but his reaction was really extreme. we were completely attached and inseparable.. So a week later I moved out.. Now its been a month and Im so upset.. Im losing hope. When I moved out he told me he might just need time, that he just needs to be alone for a bit.. then when I called him a few days later he was completely harsh and cold telling me it was over forever, that ive made too many mistakes, that he will never ever come back to me... He texted me twice since then. Once to thank me for a concert ticket I had bought for his mom, and the second time to tell me the bank had called him- since all my letters still go to his address.. he didnt tell me to change my address, just told me to go to the bank to sign stuff for my account.. I am holding onto the few hopes I have left that he might still love me and reconsider.. 1. this fact that he hasnt told me to change my address yet. 2. he still has some of my stuff i left at his house, which he didnt mention. 3. he KEEPS sending snaps to my best friend (who is a guy). they met only once at my graduation.. so they arent even friends.. he sends one or two snaps every day to him.. generic ones, so not directed to him.. but still saying everything he is doing etc. which is still a bit weird considering he is over with me. 4. he still has all our pictures together on Instagram. they are very recent (just one month ago): us cooking together, us in very couply poses.. etc. Do you guys think these things mean anything? Or could they be nothing? I hate analyzing but Im trying to hold onto anything... Fighting all the time is toxic to relationships. If you were truely at fault for all the fighting, you poisened your relationship and I doubt he is coming back to you. Move on and learn from your mistakes.
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