Yonne Posted April 10, 2017 Posted April 10, 2017 Before I start my question, I'm not native english speaker so I ask you for understanding about my lack of English. So, here is my story. I met one guy on tinder who lives in different country and has different nationality. We started to chat with other messenger app and we did short video chat few times as well. It was funny to talk with him and I could feel he was interested in me. After few days he decided to come to my country just to meet me and we had passed 3 days together. I guided him my cities, we hung out, chilled and had great time together. We kept contact each other after he went back to his country. And 3 weeks after we met first in real world, I went to his country and passed 2 days. He cooked for me, brought me to nice places, paid for me everthing(also flight tickets). We had dinner together with his brothers. And his friends already knew about me as well. Now I came back home and I'm beginning to wonder what he thinks about me. I guessed he wants to have real relationship (gf/bf) coz he asked me to go holiday in next month with their family and introduced me to his closest friends. However, he hardly shows what he feels about me. He doesn't talk about our relationship and our future. He even don't say he likes me or not. I'm just waiting without question because I don't want to push him. Then how do I know he wants a serious relationships with me or not? Am I just vacation girlfriend to him?
FoundLove Posted April 10, 2017 Posted April 10, 2017 Hi there, No, I don't think you're just a 'vacation girlfriend' to him. It seems to me that he is genuinely trying to make plans to see you more as you don't live in the same country. He wants to get to know you better and spend more time with you. I'm sure you will know exactly where you stand with him after your holiday next month. So go and have fun! 1
reeseyummy Posted April 10, 2017 Posted April 10, 2017 Just ask him directly. Although it's why this website exists, sometimes instead of writing a post up here, try asking the person yourself Will save you some time wondering... good luck! 2
smackie9 Posted April 10, 2017 Posted April 10, 2017 A future? you met twice.....and you live in different countries. I don't think he would be thinking long term because of the circumstances. 7
Larryville Posted April 10, 2017 Posted April 10, 2017 I met one guy on tinder who lives in different country and has different nationality. A future? You met twice.....and you live in different countries. I don't think he would be thinking long term because of the circumstances. This just amazes, however I can sort of understand as human beings when someone shows us interest we grow the intensity in our heads. I get that there are people who make long distance relationships work however… If I had the money to hop on a plane pretty much anytime I would show a little more interest in women long distance because we can maintain a so-called relationship with the thrill without the hassle and drama. We would only be seeing each other when the fun times are planned. Sure some would see that as a “relationship” but here after fun visits you get caught up in the notion of a future together? I don’t understand that unless you are lonely and not finding suitable suitors close by. To me distance will make just about anyone a little better looking and a little more exciting and fun. instead of writing a post up here, try asking the person yourself Always the best and most sensible advice... amazing people would choose to vent here instead of doing just that. 2
Shanex Posted April 10, 2017 Posted April 10, 2017 Yeah you could very well be just the vacation girlfriend but you only met twice and important question: How far apart are your countries? Are we talking Argentina and Sweden or something closer like Brussels and Stuttgart... So, hundred or thousand miles away? 2
Author Yonne Posted April 10, 2017 Author Posted April 10, 2017 Yeah you could very well be just the vacation girlfriend but you only met twice and important question: How far apart are your countries? Are we talking Argentina and Sweden or something closer like Brussels and Stuttgart... So, hundred or thousand miles away? I live in S Korea and he lives in Singapore. 6 hrs by flight. Pretty far :/
GunslingerRoland Posted April 11, 2017 Posted April 11, 2017 Is one of you planning on moving at some point? Otherwise where is this going? I'm not saying you guys should be planning that anytime soon. But I don't think I'd go on a date with someone from another country unless I knew that one of us was 100% willing to move in the near future if it worked out.
Gaeta Posted April 11, 2017 Posted April 11, 2017 I live in S Korea and he lives in Singapore. 6 hrs by flight. Pretty far :/ What is the point of getting in touch with someone THAT far? Are they running out of men in S Korea? If you see each other once a month it means you will only have seen each other 12 times in a full year. At that speed how long will it take for you 2 to really get to know each other? Also what is your goal ? are you looking for marriage and family? Who will then uproot themselves? Will you move that far from your parents, siblings, work, friends? Will you raise your children away from their grand-parents. 4
MoreThanThat Posted April 11, 2017 Posted April 11, 2017 I've had a number of great long distance relationships. They are pretty tough. The biggest issue is that when you get together, it's usually more like vacation time than real life/day to day so you really don't know what normal life together can be like. 2
reeseyummy Posted April 12, 2017 Posted April 12, 2017 I've had a number of great long distance relationships. They are pretty tough. The biggest issue is that when you get together, it's usually more like vacation time than real life/day to day so you really don't know what normal life together can be like. I agree, you can text, call, FaceTime all you want, but it's impossible to know someone without actually meeting them and spending time together. There are little details that you won't know. It'll feel like you're dating a stranger when you spend that long vacation together. Personally, I wouldn't do that again. Save the drama or be prepared.
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