kendahke Posted April 10, 2017 Posted April 10, 2017 I don't know. I don't need a man to bring it out in me. It's said that women reach their sexual peak in their 30s because of high hormone levels. My original comment was sarcastic anyway... Who said anything about needing a man to bring it out? My comment in on point because that mess is a myth.
kendahke Posted April 10, 2017 Posted April 10, 2017 I though the chase was over when you actually have sex... now it's when you talk about it? He was the one who brought it up, I never would have if he didn't More than likely, he is already attached and this day was looming from the moment he contacted you.
OatsAndHall Posted April 10, 2017 Posted April 10, 2017 Sexual innuendos are certainly not my thing and it's now a red flag for me when talking to women. I chatted with a women I met on Match for two weeks before we could finally meet up for a date. She started dropping sexual innuendos left and right and I generally just give some random response ("someone's in a good mood today -insert stupid emoji-"). Or I would just respond with a wink or some stupid crap like that. She sent me a picture on Halloween night a long with some random sexual innuendo and she looked gorgeous. I said "You gotta avoid talking like that after sending me that kind of pic! You look fantastic. Have a fun night out!" Her response: "I'm not saying we're going to have sex anytime soon. I'm tossing it out there in anticipation." WTF. 1
Mkn1010 Posted April 10, 2017 Posted April 10, 2017 Yep, this is just a personal preference thing/individual red flag, but I absolutely NEXT any guy who drops sexual innuendo when texting me in the early courting phase of dating, especially if we haven't met yet! That's just creepy.
Miss Spider Posted April 10, 2017 Posted April 10, 2017 (edited) She says he started the sexy talk, though >.< that'd be kinda hypocritical?? Edited April 10, 2017 by Cookiesandough 1
Mkn1010 Posted April 10, 2017 Posted April 10, 2017 Yeah, here, I think he was just a messed up jerk! But otherwise, just expressing my thoughts on sexy talk in general. If he was any type of decent guy, he never would have made her feel like crap with those personal attacks. There are so many much nicer and more general ways to let someone know you're not interested. It's like she set off some kind of trigger that made him get mean real quick :/ I honestly don't know any guy who would say those things after a date with someone. 1
Simple Logic Posted April 10, 2017 Posted April 10, 2017 This is probably one of the weirdest things that have ever happened to me while dating. I met this guy after talking on a dating site/texting for a few days. We had a great first meeting, I thought there was lots of chemistry and I really liked him. He asked me out on a second date (which was today). We went for dinner and a movie, and we had a great time it seemed. I was really comfortable around him and there was no awkwardness at all. He dropped me off and we kissed a bit. We had openly talked about and texted about sex and what we liked and stuff like that. When he got home from dropping me off, he texted me and I casually said that I have a feeling we're going to have really good sex whenever we do (we had openly talked a lot about it, so I didn't see this as a problem). Then all of a sudden he texts me and says "I don't feel the potential for me to fall in love with you", goes on to say how he thinks I'm awesome and wants to be friends... Then he told me how when we kissed it wasn't good, he can tell I'm young (he was 10 years older) and I am boring to talk to.. which I can't believe because we both talked so much with no awkwardness or boring. I just thanked him for tonight and wished him luck, and he blocked me on Instagram for some reason. I guess I am just feeling rejected, it's usually me who lets the guy I am not into down, in a much gentler way. I am also confused, because he wanted to see me again. How do I deal with this rejection feeling? I really liked him and I liked his personality, I feel like that is hard to come by. Would have felt better if he dated you a couple more times, had sex wth you, and then ghosted you? While his words may have seemed harsh, at least him telling you isn't interest is the truth. 1
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