LB2016 Posted April 9, 2017 Posted April 9, 2017 I'm just wondering if anyone had any helpful tips on good ways to move on. I know allllll of the traditional ones mentioned in EVERY article written: stay busy, do things that make you happy, exercise, find a hobby, find someone else (which is SO much easier said than done- by the way!) etc. Those are all fine and dandy but don't seem to be as effective after a while. It's been 2 weeks of ME cutting the chord because our "relationship" was stagnant for months and I realized I was wasting my time. I'm trying sooooo hard to not think of him and not wish that every text I get is him, but it seems to be be getting HARDER as time passes which I would have thought would have been the opposite to happen. I was just wondering if there's anything anyone did that was DIFFERENT that found it to be helpful. I'm also wondering why I'm wishing to hear from him so badly....ughhhh!!
d0nnivain Posted April 9, 2017 Posted April 9, 2017 You do get to wallow & grieve a little bit. You don't have to put on a happy face a mere two weeks later. Keeping busy is a good plan. Some others include -- getting rid of all the mementos. If you can't throw them out box them up. Put all computer photos on a disk or memory stick & box that up too. Rearrange your living space. Try to move things around so where you love doesn't remind you of the EX.
preraph Posted April 9, 2017 Posted April 9, 2017 Those are the right things to do, but you will have to grieve first. Every time you think of something you miss him about, make yourself think of two bad things about him.
Marc878 Posted April 9, 2017 Posted April 9, 2017 Sometimes the things you need to do are painful. Perfect time to join a gym and get in the shape you've always wanted to. It'll keep you occupied and tire you out so you'll sleep better. Make sure you maintain an ironclad NC. It's better to block everything
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