SwindonChap Posted April 9, 2017 Posted April 9, 2017 Last December,in my local hockey shop I saw a stunning girl, beautiful, amazing figure, and the sexiest smile I'd ever seen. Imagine my surprise when next day, she turned up to my skate class as a fellow learner. I am not usually very outgoing with girls, but just had to get to know her, and so introduced myself. Over the next few weeks we chatted more and more, we skate together, and it turns out that we have a lot in common. I've never seen her with another guy, nor has she ever mentioned one. I also have a ten year old son, and she engages with and gets on with him great. I should also mention, I'm 45, and single, she is 30. Last week I told her she looked amazing, and she said I was sweet to say so. The previous week at the hockey game, she had made the effort to come to where I was sitting, and chatted with me. I mentioned that with hockey season nearly over, we'd need something else to do on Saturday nights, and she agreed. Two days later I asked her if she'd like to go to dinner, and she suddenly stated she has just kind started seeing someone, but dinner would be good sometime. Since then, she remains friendly, has bought the coffees after skating including a drink for my son, and when I mentioned tracks my band plays, started downloading the music we cover to have a listen for herself. Also, whilst skating, I decided to chat to one of my skate buddies, and she stayed close to me the whole time, skating around with me when I did so, and stopping again when I stopped to chat with friends again. I'm wondering if this guy really exists as I've never seen her with anyone. She always seems happy to chat with me, even when I am looking ridiculous in my hockey gear, has told me some very personal details, and for the first time, 'accidentally' brushed against me the other day. I feel rejected, but I want her to see what a decent guy I am, as I know if I am a di*k about things, then I will never be of interest to her. Does this sound like a girl that is playing me, interested but shy, or is keeping me firmly in the friendzone?
Telemachus Posted April 12, 2017 Posted April 12, 2017 Playing you? That would be the most odd way to see the situation. You posted that she bought beverages after skating, including for you and your son. Do you seriously think that her investment in coffee is a set-up to get you to buy her a car or an expensive diamond necklace? Yes, she's being friendly. The facts that you're interested in romantic connection and making such a careful tabulation of every movement indicates that the friendship has poor prospects. That's not because she's unfriendly, but because you are. "Dinner would be good sometime" means "no". She's doubtless aware of your interest. If she's interested, or at least curious, she'll invite you to dinner. Get it out of your mind as an expectation. It might happen, but probably won't. My advice is to enjoy her company when you're together, but to lighten up and to quit trying to see great meaning in every little action. 2
smackie9 Posted April 12, 2017 Posted April 12, 2017 Mentioning of personal details doesn't mean intimacy for a woman, it means friendship....like she would do if she was talking to a GF. This is what confuses guys all the time because talking about personal things is showing vulnerability which is intimacy to a man. 4
CptInsano Posted April 12, 2017 Posted April 12, 2017 You're confusing attention with interest. When she said that she was kinda seeing somebody she made it clear she wasn't interested. Sorry ... 4
Author SwindonChap Posted April 12, 2017 Author Posted April 12, 2017 Turns out you're all wrong! Saw her today, we got chatting, and it was a matter that she was nervous because she likes me, wanted to chat to her family about me because of the age gap to make sure they were ok with it, and wanted to make sure that I wasn't just asking on impulse. We're out to dinner tomorrow night, at her request, and things are looking good. Funny thing is I told her how I had been confused about her signals and told her about this post, she burst out laughing at the responses and said they couldn't have been more wrong. Just shows what we learn from strangers that aren't actually in the situation, doesn't it! Shame I can't delete the profile on here but thanks for all the 'advice'. 1
CptInsano Posted April 12, 2017 Posted April 12, 2017 Turns out you're all wrong! Saw her today, we got chatting, and it was a matter that she was nervous because she likes me, wanted to chat to her family about me because of the age gap to make sure they were ok with it, and wanted to make sure that I wasn't just asking on impulse. We're out to dinner tomorrow night, at her request, and things are looking good. Funny thing is I told her how I had been confused about her signals and told her about this post, she burst out laughing at the responses and said they couldn't have been more wrong. Just shows what we learn from strangers that aren't actually in the situation, doesn't it! Shame I can't delete the profile on here but thanks for all the 'advice'. Wow, it sounded very different in your initial post. But in this case I'm happy to be wrong. 1
Author SwindonChap Posted April 13, 2017 Author Posted April 13, 2017 It would have probably been prudent to mention in the first post, particularly in response to Telemachus, that I do suffer from Aspergers, and reading people, and 'lightening up' are not my strong points, and overthinking and analysing are built in traits. Luckily some people see through this and recognise that I am a person underneath. Thank you all. 1
todreaminblue Posted April 13, 2017 Posted April 13, 2017 im happy for you its always lovely to read happy situations that turn out on loveshack......good luck...deb
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