She said I don't have game

[Rex 71]

What does that even mean? What I have in a good job, nice house, good car bought with cash, good teeth, average looks.

[Titanll]

It's code for...you have no game.

[Rex 71]

It's code for...you have no game.

 

What does that mean? That dating is a game to her? Dating is so damn hard.

[coolheadal]

What does that even mean? What I have in a good job, nice house, good car bought with cash, good teeth, average looks.

 

Tell me what happen before she said that too you?

If someone said that she's not into you. Just get up and leave and move on!

[coolheadal]

What does that mean? That dating is a game to her? Dating is so damn hard.

 

Yes it's a game but you have power to succeed in it. Your just talking to the wrong woman. Look into face and into their eyes. How do they carry themselves. There are lot of women with mental issues. Those are the ones you need to stay away from!

[Rex 71]

Tell me what happen before she said that too you?

If someone said that she's not into you. Just get up and leave and move on!

 

I tried to touch her on the shoulder lightly but did it awkwardly and she pushed me away.

[Shining One]

The proper response is to say: "You're not worthy of my game", get up, and walk away without looking back.

[Redhead14]

How old is she and how old are you? How long were you seeing each other and how often? How did the dating scenario develop? What was the level of communication between dates?

 

It may simply mean that your dating approach wasn't quite what she liked/wanted. In other words, she was questioning your level of interest because it was lackluster for her, perhaps.

[salparadise]

It's code for...you have no game.

 

Yes. Too easy, present no challenge. She needs the thrill of the chase, but you're already caught. Some women are just like that. This mentality is typically one that women have, believing that men don't value them unless they're a challenge... but obviously it can swing both ways. I think you just need to find a woman who doesn't need head games to be enthusiastic about a new relationship. But the other side of that is, don't be too easy.

[Rex 71]

How old is she and how old are you? How long were you seeing each other and how often? How did the dating scenario develop? What was the level of communication between dates?

 

It may simply mean that your dating approach wasn't quite what she liked/wanted. In other words, she was questioning your level of interest because it was lackluster for her, perhaps.

 

I'm 45 and she's 39. Second date from online. Two texts between first and second date. She didn't respond quickly.

[Rex 71]

Yes. Too easy, present no challenge. She needs the thrill of the chase, but you're already caught. Some women are just like that. This mentality is typically one that women have, believing that men don't value them unless they're a challenge... but obviously it can swing both ways. I think you just need to find a woman who doesn't need head games to be enthusiastic about a new relationship. But the other side of that is, don't be too easy.

 

I'm easy to catch since I don't have many options. My last date with another woman was a year ago and that was just a 30 minute coffee date.

[act00]

I googled it. I'm still not clear on what it means, but I'm guessing it means she's simply not attracted to you. This is not necessarily any fault of your own, it's just chemistry, and something just didn't click with her. It happens. It sucks. You'll meet other women.

 

Urban dictionary:

A. men and women relationship / courting - Game is your ability to flirt or hit on a member of the opposite sex, with style, class, tact, attitude, and charm.

2. If a guy says "you got game", it could mean you are attractive, cute and you have him in control and he likes you.

 

and same the other way around.

 

3. If a girl says that guy "is" game, it means he is available, single/looking, or a possibility.

[Rex 71]

I googled it. I'm still not clear on what it means, but I'm guessing it means she's simply not attracted to you. This is not necessarily any fault of your own, it's just chemistry, and something just didn't click with her. It happens. It sucks. You'll meet other women.

 

Urban dictionary:

A. men and women relationship / courting - Game is your ability to flirt or hit on a member of the opposite sex, with style, class, tact, attitude, and charm.

2. If a guy says "you got game", it could mean you are attractive, cute and you have him in control and he likes you.

 

and same the other way around.

 

3. If a girl says that guy "is" game, it means he is available, single/looking, or a possibility.

 

I'm very very poor at flirting or hitting on women. So poor I don't dare try which is why I have to do online dating to even get a date.

[salparadise]

I'm easy to catch since I don't have many options. My last date with another woman was a year ago and that was just a 30 minute coffee date.

 

Don't let them know that –– women like men that other women want, men with experience and options. Develop your options, and your game. This stuff can be learned.

[Tressugar]

It means you have no swag. Swag brings game. It's something you can't learn, but it comes with confidence. I look for men who have swag and it's definitely hard to find, but it's out there.

[Rex 71]

Don't let them know that –– women like men that other women want, men with experience and options. Develop your options, and your game. This stuff can be learned.

 

I don't tell them such things but most of them seem to figure it out without asking. I don't have options because it's rare that a woman even responds.

[Rex 71]

It means you have no swag. Swag brings game. It's something you can't learn, but it comes with confidence. I look for men who have swag and it's definitely hard to find, but it's out there.

 

Damn this is hopeless. I'm sure I don't have any of that. Whatever I have is the opposite. It's frustrating that this means more than anything I have to offer.

[OatsAndHall]

Ha! Almost forty years old and using the same lingo of a fifteen year old. IMO, this is a high-maintenance woman that wants to be wined, dined and chased. Some guys don't mind doing that but it's not my cup of tea. I'd move on and not worry about it.

[Rex 71]

I ****ing give up. I don't have this swag or game or whatever the he'll it is and I never will. Alone forever.

[Miss Spider]

It means you need to stop dating 'ratchet' women. Who even says that out loud unless they're being tongue-in-cheek?

[Space Ritual]

OP,

 

If this chick is telling you that you have no game at her age, she has been watching too much TV.

 

She is no catch I assure you. Think about it. Why would someone at that age say something like that unless they were desperate and frustrated at being generally an unpleasant person? That s why she acts like that. Don't let her foolish statement bother you. She had far too many expectations, and at any age, it is not an attractive quality.

[The Urbanyst]

What does that even mean? What I have in a good job, nice house, good car bought with cash, good teeth, average looks.

 

When women don't like or respect you much.. they often get a kick out of punishing you for liking them.

[coolheadal]

I tried to touch her on the shoulder lightly but did it awkwardly and she pushed me away.

 

Ah, ouch! That did it.. She figured you had some sort of plan in action to get her to the next level. But I guess that's wasn't your intent at all. Remember you both are strangers at first encounters. Never touch her until she allows it, you should have asked her fir you could touch her on her shoulder. If she was okay with it? Now all you can do is learn from this mistake. Next time with the next woman you don't do this ever again. Each woman will be different. They're all not the same in thinking but with all sorts of goings on today you just never know where you stand.

[coolheadal]

I ****ing give up. I don't have this swag or game or whatever the he'll it is and I never will. Alone forever.

 

I say never give up! I am too in this myself! I never give up! The right woman is out their both of us just haven't found them yet. No one should ever be alone. I have it all except that one missing soul. You can have your house, car, cash etc. but it's not about all of that it's about you and what you want. These women we both run into have a lot of extra baggage, just have to move on to the next one that doesn't have so much drama and games.

[PogoStick]

It means things like, you're socially adept, not awkward. You can joke around and be witty in conversation. Those 2 fit together, by knowing social workings you can play/joke with those concepts. That's what leads to socially acceptable flirting and innuendo.

 

It's a mental dance that women want you to take them on. She wants to know that you're sexual and can rock her in bed; but you slide your sexual intentions under the crack of the door, not smash the whole door down, nor do you noisily rattle the handle in an unsuccessful attempt to get the door open.

 

edit: FYI, plenty of women have no game either. Date one of them who is on your level.