mtp Posted April 9, 2017 Posted April 9, 2017 I've known this guy for almost almost a year now, and we've gotten quite close over the past few months after he broke up with his ex in November. And we've hung out one on one a few times. He'd tell me that I'm easy to talk to and that he can be himself around me, and I thought we could be more than friends. But we're both in this club that meets every week, and so is his ex. And he'd often go talk to her, or she'd go up to him, and they're always laughing together. I mean, he & I also talk but I can count the times he's approached his ex more than me. And even when they don't interact, he always rushes to leave immediately after each meeting and doesn't care to socialize. Is he not interested in me? Is he still not over his ex? Did he just say all those things platonically?
ExpatInItaly Posted April 9, 2017 Posted April 9, 2017 Yes, I think he probably said those things to you as a friend. He doesn't appear to be interested in anything more. 4
Author mtp Posted April 9, 2017 Author Posted April 9, 2017 Should I move on then? I kinda want to hold on because we talk a lot, and see each other often in group settings, and hang out one on one about once a month or 2 months. What bothers me is when his ex is around, and he'd go talk to her instead of me. And I know that he & his ex also hung out a few times
Simple Logic Posted April 9, 2017 Posted April 9, 2017 Should I move on then? I kinda want to hold on because we talk a lot, and see each other often in group settings, and hang out one on one about once a month or 2 months. What bothers me is when his ex is around, and he'd go talk to her instead of me. And I know that he & his ex also hung out a few times Hold on to what? If you wish to cntinue as you have as friends do so, but don't quit living a normal life on hope. If you really want closure on way or the other, ask him out.
Knix Posted April 9, 2017 Posted April 9, 2017 Don't worry about how many times he talks to her versus you, I know if you like him it's hard not to get upset, but try to distance yourself if you can. Also if he was interested in pursuing anything I'd be worried it was a rebound, and if they're always still talking there's a chance they'll get back together.
coolheadal Posted April 9, 2017 Posted April 9, 2017 I've known this guy for almost almost a year now, and we've gotten quite close over the past few months after he broke up with his ex in November. And we've hung out one on one a few times. He'd tell me that I'm easy to talk to and that he can be himself around me, and I thought we could be more than friends. But we're both in this club that meets every week, and so is his ex. And he'd often go talk to her, or she'd go up to him, and they're always laughing together. I mean, he & I also talk but I can count the times he's approached his ex more than me. And even when they don't interact, he always rushes to leave immediately after each meeting and doesn't care to socialize. Is he not interested in me? Is he still not over his ex? Did he just say all those things platonically? You forget what it means when they're interested in you. We all make that mistake a lot. In this case he's not really into you like you want, so what you have is merely a just a buddy friend that can talk to you. You want a boy friend who you can share your life and thoughts with. Someone who's head over heals into you. Can't wait to see you when you come around him. That's what it means when they're interested in you. He's more interested in his Ex than you. Take that as a hint to move on has he's just a friend if you want to be his cry on the shoulder friend as that is what you are too him.
Author mtp Posted April 9, 2017 Author Posted April 9, 2017 Hold on to what? I guess "hold on" is a bad choice of words. But I was really hoping that something would come out of my friendship with him. He & his ex were also close friends for a while before they started dating, so I figured if I stuck around long enough as a good friend, he'd make a move since he likes talking to me/enjoys my company. It bothers me that he talks to the ex in front of me and gives her rides and hangs out with her outside of club meetings
Ami1uwant Posted April 9, 2017 Posted April 9, 2017 I think he has interest, but may not be sure yet. Dont wait for him.
Author mtp Posted April 9, 2017 Author Posted April 9, 2017 Would a guy who is interested openly talk to his ex/hang out with her & put it on snapchat if he were pursuing someone else?
Dis Posted April 9, 2017 Posted April 9, 2017 Would a guy who is interested openly talk to his ex/hang out with her & put it on snapchat if he were pursuing someone else? Nope Move on girly 1
ImComplicated Posted April 9, 2017 Posted April 9, 2017 He might still be hung up on his ex, yes. Especially if that was his last serious relationship.
Dis Posted April 10, 2017 Posted April 10, 2017 He might still be hung up on his ex, yes. Especially if that was his last serious relationship. Very true And if thats the case...avoid him like the plague
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