calling all nicotine addicts or at least those who can relate.....

[the_opposite_sex]

so my b/f has been "addicted" to nicotine all his life...well at least since like the 8th grade *he's 22 now*. All throughout our relationship, he's been saying that he's gonna quit whatever he's doin...and its been either smoking or chewing. Well this last time, he's given up chewing and is now smoking. He doesn't do it nor wants to do it on a regular basis, but he does do it on occasion. He told me last night he wants to but he doesn't. He doesn't b/c he dont wanna have these strong cravings for nicotine like he does....and he wont get the gum or patch...he just wants to quit on his own. Keep in mind, he is under quite a bit of stress right now w/ his job.

 

*sigh* with all that said, i just dont want something harmful to happen to him...i care about him and love him sooo much. I almost left him over this b/c i cant stand to see him do this to himself or do it at all, but my mom told me that if i really loved him, i'd stick w/ him and be supportive. We've been together 4 1/2 yrs and thats how long all this quitting/not quitting BS has been goin on. ugh so have any of you ever been in this position or can relate to what he's goin through?? any advice would be great! granted, i have smoked before...but i've never been addicted to nicotine...

[laRubiaBonita]

it can be a hard habit to break. I have before, but i usually go back to smoking in the summer.

 

Firstly, he has to quit, because he wants to, be it he wants to for you or himself, but if he is anything like me....nagging him to quit, even though it is for his own good, will just make him smoke to spite whom ever tells him not to.

 

if he wants to quit, i highly advise he do the patch, or zyban. it will really help.

 

other than that...i do not know.

 

my bf, has recently asked me to quit for him, a previous smoker. i am not sure how to take the request yet.

[the_opposite_sex]

yea he wants to quit for the both of us...he knows i dont like it, and he realizes he doesnt NEED them and the hazards they bring along...just scary to me, i want my baby to be ok! lol

[laRubiaBonita]

Originally posted by the_opposite_sex

yea he wants to quit for the both of us...he knows i dont like it, and he realizes he doesnt NEED them and the hazards they bring along...just scary to me, i want my baby to be ok! lol

 

Totally!!!

 

...... tell him to go to his doc. and he will HAPPILY script him a patch....but hte zyban, i actually welbutrin, which is an anti-depressant/ anti-obssesive type drug.....so it will help with the with drawel initially.

[the_opposite_sex]

i'm unsure if he's even ready to quit...like i THINK i've said already, we're planning on gettin married w/in the next 2 yrs... he said he's for sure gonna be done by then b/c i made it clear that i didnt want it in my marriage w/ him....he understood and agreed...so i'm wondering if i should just let him do this thing until then?? i dont know lol

 

i also dont wanna feel like i'm nagging him *like by suggesting the patch or something*....i've already been on his case about this quite a bit

[A Fly onThe Wall]

I have never smoked but I dipped for about 15 years.. I was so addicted.

 

I quit cold turkey after my mom passed away.

 

That is the way the cig giants want you.

 

After losing 2 parents to cancer from cig smoking I have adopted a simple rule:

 

You smoke you die..Or you die of something smoking related.

 

My mom tried hypnoisis, shock therapy ,and the patch

 

She smoked 2 packs a day while she used the patch.. crazy...But the person who worked in her office with her was smoking too and she just couldn't quit.

 

If it's gonna work you both have to quit

[the_opposite_sex]

First off, i'm very sorry to hear that he's been addicted to both cigs and dip....well anything w/ nicotine in it...he said if there was a gum that contained nicotine *which i thought there was*, then he'd chew on that. He doesn't like the taste of chew or cigs....its the nicotine which i'm sure you all know/understand...btw, i dont smoke

[A Fly onThe Wall]

Originally posted by the_opposite_sex

he said if there was a gum that contained nicotine *which i thought there was*, then he'd chew on that.

 

the gum isn't real gum you chew.. You chew it 2 or 3 times to moisten it and let it sit between your cheek and gum like dip.

 

It's super super expensive .. almost 1 buck a stick

 

The dental bills will kick in one day and he will wish he had quit.. I have been of skoal for 3 years now.

 

I still to this day have the cravings for it and sometimes reach to my back pocket for the can.. 3 years later.

 

He needs to see the light and quit .. I don't know how you women put up with it ..

[Rosalind]

Hello...a smoker chimes in

 

The comparison regarding how it's just as hard as breaking a heroin addiction, is what you have to keep in mind.

 

I did stop smoking twice, both times lasted a year. I went on the patch.

 

I'm sorry, I just don't know what else to recommend.

[AleroGurl]

well i smoked from when i was 16 til last october..im almost 25 now.

and I quit cold turkey. I didnt wanna use the gum, patch, pill or any of that. I got the will power up and quit. the first 2 weeks were kinda abd but not as near as bad as i was expecting them to be...

if he WANTS to quit, he can do it! he just has to WANT to do it.

[debs]

I stopped smoking 3 1/2 months ago after doing so for near 35 years!

 

I cannot use the patch it sends me into a cardiac condition. The gum gave me blisters! The med to help you stop smoking just made me smoke more!

 

So I decided to stop cold turkey. I can remember thinking I didn't like the smell of my hair or my apartment! And I just quit. I do remember the first 3 days were the worst, then I said one more day and here I am at 3 and 1/2 months now!

 

No one can make someone quit, they have to do so for themselves and for there own reasons! Not because someone wants them to!

[AlmostMarried77]

As an ex smoker I know how difficult it can be. I tried cold turkey, gum and patches i was trying to quit about twice a year with no success.

 

Then i read The Easyway by Alan Carr.

 

I've not smoked in 8 weeks, i don't miss them and the cravings are very easy to deal with.

 

Get the book for him, tell him he can quit if he wants, but just read the book for you. The book even encourages the reader to carry on smoking whilst reading it! I read it in an afternoon, i smoked twice and by about 2 thirds of the way through the book i realised that i never wanted another cigarette in my mouth again.

 

Smoking is actually a very easy thing to stop doing. He just needs to get over the fear of quitting which is what the book will help with.

 

Incidently Alan Carr who wrote the book was a long time chain smoker, he used to get through up to 80 cigarettes a day and had tried everything to quit.

 

If you are still unconvinced then go to amazon and look at some of the reviews on there.

[alphamale]

Originally posted by the_opposite_sex

...but i've never been addicted to nicotine...

nicotine is one of the most addicting substances known to man....even more so than Heroin

[NYCmitch25]

Thats a tough one. I'm a guy so I played the marriage angle with my now wife (it was seemingly something she wanted (and of course so did I too ). I told my girlfriend' at the time that I don't marry smokers, period (and I meant it). She quit (and fast too).

 

I think you will have to give him an ultimatum or dare I say it, find another "love of your life".. And Gosh, I hope you didn't go 4 years before putting real pressure on him, if so, you've kind of set this problem up for yourself.

[AlmostMarried77]

Originally posted by alphamale

nicotine is one of the most addicting substances known to man....even more so than Heroin

 

That is complete cr*p and part of the culture and mythology of smoking

[A Fly onThe Wall]

Originally posted by AlmostMarried77

That is complete cr*p and part of the culture and mythology of smoking

 

you must be a smoker who can't quit..

 

 

In my experience it is.. I quit dipping over 3 years ago and still have the cravings.. Now that is addictive

[alphamale]

Originally posted by AlmostMarried77

That is complete cr*p and part of the culture and mythology of smoking

you have no idea what u are talking about ALMOSTMARRIED77

[AlmostMarried77]

Originally posted by A Fly onThe Wall

you must be a smoker who can't quit..

 

 

In my experience it is.. I quit dipping over 3 years ago and still have the cravings.. Now that is addictive

 

I am a smoker who has quit

 

only 8 weeks, but if you read my first post on here you will see that i have tried everything else before and lost count of how many times

 

I do get "cravings" but then i realise that the craving is actually a feeling for something else which i am turning into a desire for cigarettes. That other feeling could be tiredness, hunger, boredom, frustration or too much alcohol or a combination of those.

[AlmostMarried77]

Originally posted by alphamale

you have no idea what u are talking about ALMOSTMARRIED77

 

FOR THE LAST TIME I HAVE QUIT

 

I'm not posting anymore in this, i've given my advice on how i quit which worked perfctly for me.

 

If you think like you post you will never quit and when you do try to quit you will always feel like your missing something. I know because i too was like that!!

[A Fly onThe Wall]

Originally posted by AlmostMarried77

only 8 weeks

 

The cravings never go away.. My Step-Mom quit almost 35 years ago and she says that she still gets the cravings..

 

Nicotine is classified as an addictive drug for a reason. It has a pull on you like no other

[A Fly onThe Wall]

Originally posted by AlmostMarried77

FOR THE LAST TIME I HAVE QUIT

 

It will take your body 3-6 months just to adjust ..it gets harder not easier after 8 weeks.. remember that and keep up not smoking..Your saving your life

[alphamale]

Originally posted by AlmostMarried77

FOR THE LAST TIME I HAVE QUIT

I never said one cannot quit. All I stated was that nictoine is highly addictive.

[Lonestar]

Originally posted by alphamale

I never said one cannot quit. All I stated was that nictoine is highly addictive.

 

Highly addictive is an understatement. It's one of the most addictive substances around. I don't have an addictive personality, but I can not kick cigarettes. I hate them, I feel like a loser smoking them, and I know it's slowly killing me. I quit last year for almost 5 months and went back (very easily) becuase of a stressful situation. I want to stop again. I broke all my cigs and flushed them last night, but made it as long as it took me to get to work, and I bought a pack.

 

I'm going to keep trying, but it has a hold on me, and I don't like it.

[whichwayisup]

Not only is it addictive with the nicotine, but the mental part of it is just as addictive. The mindset : Coffee and a smoke. Bad day? Have a smoke to relax you. Wine? Have a smoke! They go hand in hand. Sitting and chatting with friends on nice summer night? Go through half a pack in a night!

 

It's all about the mindset and being in control. Someone I used to work with quit - Cold turkey. I swear, if he can do it, anybody can. He was the typical, hardcore smoker! Then one day he just up and quit! It was hell though, trust me, working with him daily he drove us all to the nuthouse!

 

I've tried to quit afew times but I know inside I'm not there yet to actually make the full effort.

 

Get support, join "smoker enders" or a hospital group that has govt. run programs to help you quit.

[the_opposite_sex]

well, here's what he said....

 

he said as of right now, he wants to smoke...but he doesn't want it in our marriage *we're not married as of yet, still b/f-g/f*...he said that part of his wedding vows will be to quit smoking...told him i didnt believe him b/c he's been sayin he'll quit smoking or chewing for 4 1/2 yrs now and hasn't stopped...has always gone back. He said "no...this is our marriage we're talkin about here" basically he says that he dont want it in our marriage, so he's "gettin it out of the way" until the big day rolls around. He said after that, he'll do what he has to in order to control his cravings i.e., go to the doc, get the patch, etc...i also made sure that he wasn't gonna put off the wedding date so that he could smoke longer lol he said no way, that he wouldn't do that and that it'd be quite immature of him...

 

btw, whichwayisup...my b/f said the same thing about alcohol and cigs...that they go hand in hand. And he's been stressed lately b/c of work situations so i think thats a big part of why he went back to it...