Is chemistry in love overrated? How long did it take to know you are "in love"

[JuneL]

Talk to women in their 40's regarding their life and what they would do differently if they had the chance.

 

Some people can be very happy living single and having different people come in and out of their lives but that mindset is usually for men. Even if a woman makes enough money to support herself she still (usually) wants a stable partner for the long term. It has nothing to do with kids and everything to do with loneliness.

 

But many women are divorced in their 40s, even if they did meet someone when they are younger. Plus, when you are in your 40s, there are plenty of cute divorced dads for you to date ;-)

[Spring23]

But many women are divorced in their 40s, even if they did meet someone when they are younger. Plus, when you are in your 40s, there are plenty of cute divorced dads for you to date ;-)

 

Oh yeah, there are still great guys to date. If you're 40 something and attractive, finding a man to date won't be too difficult; however, the pool of men isn't as large as it is when you're 20 something.

[JuneL]

Oh yeah, there are still great guys to date. If you're 40 something and attractive, finding a man to date won't be too difficult; however, the pool of men isn't as large as it is when you're 20 something.

 

The pool of unattached men when you are in your 20s may be larger, but there are also more unattached women in that age range to pair up with them.

[JuneL]

 

Women have about a 10 year span where their beauty is the strongest and during those years their selection is the largest. After about 35 selection is very limited. Women in their 30's are competing with women in their 20's for the best long term partners.

 

 

If this were true, then many guys would lose attraction to their wives after their mid-30s and trade them up for someone much younger.

[RecentChange]

Its one of those things, every one is different.

 

I had dated a few guys that “grew” on me. One I even told that I loved him eventually (six months?). I had a fondness for him, I cared about him, but I wasn’t CRAZY about him. The others I liked, but again, wasn’t wild about.

 

Then I met my now husband. We were just nuts for each other pretty immediately. After first date, we tried to get together as often as we could (a few times a week). He claims it was love at first sight, for me, I found him physically attractive, but it was the way we clicked (and the ahhhhmazing sex) that really made me fall for him.

 

We exchanged I love you’s after about a month – and I felt like it was the first time I really understood what those words meant. The thing I felt this time was very different than any other.

 

For us, it really was the chemistry that launched our relationship. Compatibility is what has kept it going for a decade and a half now.