He has a pregnant gf

[Girly1]

Hello, not sure what I want to gain by writing here but just wanted to share my story (as I am literally in disbelief about what happened) and see if anyone had experienced similar, or has any coping tips..

 

I met this guy about a year ago, he was 12 years older than me and the MD of the company where I was working. I know it sounds sketchy, but we got along really well and I thought we had a good connection. We saw each other a few times but I moved to Asia for work. We kept in touch the whole time and I recently moved back home. As soon as I got back, he wanted to arrange to meet up, only now he had moved to another state. He expressed he was still single and interested and made it seem like he wanted to see how things would go together.

 

I flew out to visit him on Friday. I had an odd feeling about it to begin with having not seen him in a while and spending a whole weekend with him now but decided to go along with it and see how things went, but the weekend descended into chaos.

 

On Friday, we started having sex but he made me stop because he wanted to watch TV (?) then had me sleep in another room because he wanted "space". He drinks like a fish and spent the whole day today drinking wine, he passed out drunk for a few hours and then at night he was very drunk and nasty. I cooked our dinner and when I sat down I noticed he was texting some woman who was sending selfies. Normally I'm not the jealous type, we're not together so I realise he will date other women, but he revealed it was his ex girlfriend, then corrected it to say that he was still technically with her.

I told him I found it bizarre that he would invite me over and not tell me he had a girlfriend, and I mentioned his antics the previous day. I went and sat in the bedroom for 2 hours trying to find a hotel or a flight back and went back into the room to tell him this as I waited for a cab.

He was making out as though I was overreacting about his gf and then told me that he thought I knew about her, since everyone at the company we worked at knew. He then proceeded to tell me that she was five months pregnant but since she lives in Shanghai (where he used to live and is constantly visiting on business), she is ok with him seeing other women and he has a couple of women he sees (of which I assume he wanted me to be one!).

I was quite taken aback and got upset - mostly about the fact I was here and stranded in the evening and he was so nasty, telling me that I must be obsessed with him and "what did you think? You thought you'd spend the weekend with me, we'd fall in love and go walking down the aisle?"

He then told me that she would be arriving in one hour (not sure if that was true or a weird lie) and she was on a flight from Shanghai to surprise him for his birthday (his birthday was months ago - also a weird thing to lie about) I was waiting for my cab to take me to my hotel and he was trying to argue with me to get me to stay, telling me that I can sleep in the spare room, and that his Chinese gf wouldn't mind that I was there. When I left, he asked if I wanted to meet tomorrow. So strange and literally the worst experience I have ever had.

Now in this hotel, my flight back isn't until Monday night and id shuffled all my schedule around to see him.

[Zahara]

Stay in the hotel. Go sight seeing. Get on that plane on Monday. Don't ever engage him again.

[harrybrown]

hope he used protection.

 

he sounds like a not nice person.

 

I needed to tone down what I was going to say.

 

If he did not, get checked out.

 

Good that you know, move on and keep him far away.