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Met someone online who I didn't think existed. Her profile was literally identical, word for word (and five pages long), to what I've always wanted to say in mine, but didn't because I knew it would turn of 99.999% of people.

 

 

We are both deeply intellectual, philosophical people. Both quite educated on a range of scientific topics. She is getting a degree in neurology. Pondering questions about physics, consciousness, the origin of knowledge, the future of humanity, whether free will exists. I could go on. We agree absolutely on literally everything we discuss. She says what I am thinking before I say it.

 

 

Texting with her, she usually sends responses that are five, six phone screens tall and many more questions each time. I just don't even know where to start answering her messages because they are so complex and well thought out.

 

 

She is excited to meet me to work on some projects of ours(she suggested this almost immediately). She is building a tesla coil currently. But haven't had a chance yet with our schedules.

 

The problem, though, is that she has already referred to me as a friend, saying "You are the type of friend I seek to acquire".

 

 

Her profile said she is looking for a relationship. She is sapiosexual. I know that means she is attracted to intelligence, but how do I handle this given that I have romantic hopes? Is she physically attracted to men?

 

Maybe she wants to start out as friends?

 

I am convinced I will never meet someone like this again. I don't want to screw it up, even if it means we end up as friends. This is a one-in-a-million kind of girl.

 

Really don't know how to handle meeting her and how to test and convey my romantic interests without risking scaring her off.

Edited by palmsand
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when women are attracted to intelligence ...and she is obviously attracted to you its hot for you....whether it be physical or intellectual or even both.....when you are attracted to someone ...its normally one thing or a couple that builds into more.....long lasting feelings so affection with desire....women who like men's brains ....also feel sexual desire.....its just the brain they hear that makes them hot....deb

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when women are attracted to intelligence ...and she is obviously attracted to you its hot for you....whether it be physical or intellectual or even both.....when you are attracted to someone ...its normally one thing or a couple that builds into more.....long lasting feelings so affection with desire....women who like men's brains ....also feel sexual desire.....its just the brain they hear that makes them hot....deb

 

Really? That makes me feel much better. I had thought that's how it should go, that we have a deep understanding of each other that builds to intimacy.

 

Until now I've felt like nobody really cared about my brain. Guess I wasn't meeting the right people?

 

Intelligence is attractive to me, extremely attractive. Maybe I'm sapiosexual too? Never really thought about it.

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I do think it's a little warning that she referred to you as a friend. I think I would call her on this and remind her that you are not on a dating site to attract only a friend and ask her to clarify if she is open to romance if things go well after you meet. She is smart. She can handle it.

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