G81 Posted April 8, 2017 Posted April 8, 2017 My ex bf an I broke up after a year, he broke it off because the fighting was too much. We bought a small sailboat together last summer. I taught him how to sail. We have to pick the boat uo from storage now that better weather is here. My confusion is that he says he still wants to work on the boat together, it needs paint and some maintenance, and want to sail together this summer. It's confusing because we broke up, does this mean anything like he wants to hang out with me more? Good or bad sign? What does it mean?
Zahara Posted April 8, 2017 Posted April 8, 2017 Ask him what it means and tell him that being in close proximity is going to hurt you if you are both broken up. Be honest. Chances are he's just wanting fund and the comfort of you being there without the commitment.
choyhtya Posted April 10, 2017 Posted April 10, 2017 Which one of you legally owns it? If he does he could just want money to do all of that. Be vigilant.
Author G81 Posted April 10, 2017 Author Posted April 10, 2017 Thanks for your inputs. We both own it 50/50, I'm the one that got him into sailing and taught him. We picked up the boat yesterday and we had to ride in the car together. He was talking all about ways to fix up the boat and get it out on the water. Which normally would get me excited and pumped up, however I just acted indifferent and I feel indifferent to doing all of the boat things with him. I wouldn't even look at him. This was clearly getting him ticked off. But in all honesty, doing all the labor and sailing together is something I want to enjoy doing with someone I'm in a relationship with or at least friends. I feel weird sharing this time and hobby with an exciting there's no chance of getting back together. It's like investing in nothing. Does that make sense? I don't know how he feels about getting back together, but from what he's said he doesn't. So what do I do?
jdolecek70 Posted April 10, 2017 Posted April 10, 2017 To me it sounds like he is being totally unfair to you by giving you missed signals. You just need to be blunt with him and ask him what its all about. I just dont think he is being fair to you emotionally.
d0nnivain Posted April 10, 2017 Posted April 10, 2017 Buy him out or offer to sell your share of the boat to him. Do not work on it together. It is unfair to you. What are you going to do when he wants to bring his new GF sailing? 1
1fish2fish Posted April 10, 2017 Posted April 10, 2017 This happened to a friend of mine - she taught him how to sail, they bought a little daysailer together, and then they split. No way was she going to make herself miserable by "sharing" the boat and anything to do with it. She asked him to meet for coffee to discuss "custody" of the boat. She was very firm - either she buys him out or he buys her out. No other option. He tried to cajole her into the whole 50/50 thing, but as most people know, owning a boat is like throwing money in the water. And he didn't want to have to foot the cost to fix her up and store her by himself. In the end, she bought him out and she found someone else to sail with her. Good luck!
Author G81 Posted April 10, 2017 Author Posted April 10, 2017 Thanks all. Just perplexed with the logic, he broke up with me so why would he want to invest time into a boat together and spend time on a boat together. Like why not get your own boat and allow me to spend time with someone else on the boat that's wants to be together. Sorry for the rant. I'm indifferent because it has no logic and it's just confusing crap he needs to sort out cause it makes no sense
Author G81 Posted April 11, 2017 Author Posted April 11, 2017 The boat is named Princess. For godsakes, it belongs to me. 1
marky00 Posted April 11, 2017 Posted April 11, 2017 Tell him you have moved on from boats and are now into aeroplanes.
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