spyman42 Posted April 8, 2017 Posted April 8, 2017 I had been with my ex girlfriend for 4 year and we are our first love in college. This semester, she told me her feeling for me is on and off than early March before spring break she went to the bar with her girl friend and a guy approach her and they had kept on messaging each other. She came back from Spring break and told me she want a break from me. 2 week later she break up with me. She told me she is seeing someone (only met him at the bar and on campus once). She had feeling for him more than me but she cant say she love him yet. She miss him more than me. I also notice shes became friend with his family member rather quickly on FB. She told me I am still her #1 guy. Is this a rebound relationship? What should I do? I had never cheated on her, I had been loyal and honest and respect her during our relationship. 1
raditz Posted April 8, 2017 Posted April 8, 2017 I had been with my ex girlfriend for 4 year and we are our first love in college. This semester, she told me her feeling for me is on and off than early March before spring break she went to the bar with her girl friend and a guy approach her and they had kept on messaging each other. She came back from Spring break and told me she want a break from me. 2 week later she break up with me. She told me she is seeing someone (only met him at the bar and on campus once). She had feeling for him more than me but she cant say she love him yet. She miss him more than me. I also notice shes became friend with his family member rather quickly on FB. She told me I am still her #1 guy. Is this a rebound relationship? What should I do? I had never cheated on her, I had been loyal and honest and respect her during our relationship. This happend to me. Its not a rebound. She flat out left you for another guy. Why. Well often women usually ages 25 -30 are red flagged danger zone. They meet a guy(you) and its fun and new and sex all the time. They never want it to end. Well after every summer comes fall. Next year comes along . New people , new events, even her girlfriends have new boyfriends, and well you, you were hot last year, but the years to come, you start to get old and boring. A new guy comes along and gives her those butterflies, and she cant control it how she feels. Shes laying in bed with you, but shes thinking of him. Then bam she leaves you for him. All came so fast but in reality shes been trying to dump your ass for months. Your broken hearted now, but the reality is, usually when some one jumps from a long term relationship to something new, it almost never works out. Because theyll naturally expect the same good traits that you gave her from him. So shell be callig you a few times in the next month or to. To either reassure your still there if things dont work, its like a security blanket kinda thing. Once she hears your voice or you reply to her text, her giult goes away n her confidence goes back n your left waiting for the next text which could be another two weeks or longer. What you need to do is delete facebook, any social media except this website. Then, go to the gym . N get into a routine work out , helps clear your mind, and last , if you cant resist replying to her texts, smash your cellphone into hundreds of little pieces. No contact. If she left you. She was never really there to begin with. Good luck 4
Author spyman42 Posted April 8, 2017 Author Posted April 8, 2017 (edited) Thanks you for the helps. In Freshman year, we dated for a 1 month than she broke up with me. Come spring and she starting hangout with this other dude for 1 month until March of that year than she came crawling back to me. I accept her back and we had been dating until this year March. I agreed, I think she find me boring now and want me as her security blanket in case this guy new isn't working out than she will fall back to me and this new guy is a mystery so she want to explore him. I kinda check this guy photos and hes into drinking and more of a party boy and I am more of a gentlemen. For now I am had been working out for a month now but since she dump me, it had given me even more motivation to even work harder than before. I just delete my facebook and block her off. I know in future, shes going to look back and remember that there is one boy who was a gentleman and give her all his love to her and she wont find me in another guy. Edited April 8, 2017 by spyman42 1
Maldives Posted April 9, 2017 Posted April 9, 2017 This happend to me. Its not a rebound. She flat out left you for another guy. Why. Well often women usually ages 25 -30 are red flagged danger zone. They meet a guy(you) and its fun and new and sex all the time. They never want it to end. Well after every summer comes fall. Next year comes along . New people , new events, even her girlfriends have new boyfriends, and well you, you were hot last year, but the years to come, you start to get old and boring. A new guy comes along and gives her those butterflies, and she cant control it how she feels. Shes laying in bed with you, but shes thinking of him. Then bam she leaves you for him. All came so fast but in reality shes been trying to dump your ass for months. Your broken hearted now, but the reality is, usually when some one jumps from a long term relationship to something new, it almost never works out. Because theyll naturally expect the same good traits that you gave her from him. So shell be callig you a few times in the next month or to. To either reassure your still there if things dont work, its like a security blanket kinda thing. Once she hears your voice or you reply to her text, her giult goes away n her confidence goes back n your left waiting for the next text which could be another two weeks or longer. What you need to do is delete facebook, any social media except this website. Then, go to the gym . N get into a routine work out , helps clear your mind, and last , if you cant resist replying to her texts, smash your cellphone into hundreds of little pieces. No contact. If she left you. She was never really there to begin with. Good luck Totally agree wth the above anyone that leaves your life let them go.
ExpatInItaly Posted April 9, 2017 Posted April 9, 2017 Thanks you for the helps. In Freshman year, we dated for a 1 month than she broke up with me. Come spring and she starting hangout with this other dude for 1 month until March of that year than she came crawling back to me. I accept her back and we had been dating until this year March. I agreed, I think she find me boring now and want me as her security blanket in case this guy new isn't working out than she will fall back to me and this new guy is a mystery so she want to explore him. I kinda check this guy photos and hes into drinking and more of a party boy and I am more of a gentlemen. For now I am had been working out for a month now but since she dump me, it had given me even more motivation to even work harder than before. I just delete my facebook and block her off. I know in future, shes going to look back and remember that there is one boy who was a gentleman and give her all his love to her and she wont find me in another guy. OP, you should not have let this continue for as long as you did. Her breaking up with you and coming back indicates that she just wasn't that into you. She got distracted when another shiny object rolled into view, went to play with it, then fell back on you when it rolled away again. A woman who is really in love with you doesn't do this. Stay away from her and find a girl who actually dates you for the right reason. This one didn't. 2
Author spyman42 Posted April 15, 2017 Author Posted April 15, 2017 So it seem that she is hitting up the bar with him a lot. She will get bored of it? Since hes a new shinny object. Also what happen if I run into the bar with the new guy? Introduce myself to him?
ExpatInItaly Posted April 15, 2017 Posted April 15, 2017 So it seem that she is hitting up the bar with him a lot. She will get bored of it? Since hes a new shinny object. Also what happen if I run into the bar with the new guy? Introduce myself to him? It will be incredibly awkward and probably hurt like hell. No, I wouldn't get close enough to introduce yourself. You turn and head the other way. How do you know what she's been doing, though? Where are you getting this information? You shouldn't know anything about her. It's not beneficial to you. Even if she does get bored of him, you need to stay away from her and stop being her lap-dog. She's not into the way you are into her, and it won't last.
Altair0770 Posted April 15, 2017 Posted April 15, 2017 That's the sad truth. It's GIGS, not a rebound. She wants something new and exciting, and as been said, that's not uncommon for the 18-30 female range.
Author spyman42 Posted April 15, 2017 Author Posted April 15, 2017 (edited) It will be incredibly awkward and probably hurt like hell. No, I wouldn't get close enough to introduce yourself. You turn and head the other way. How do you know what she's been doing, though? Where are you getting this information? You shouldn't know anything about her. It's not beneficial to you. Even if she does get bored of him, you need to stay away from her and stop being her lap-dog. She's not into the way you are into her, and it won't last. Our cities is a small college town and all the bars are downtown. I do drive through downtown to Kwik Trip to buy eggs and banana and her car would always by the bars 2 time a week since shes seeing the new guy. I went to the bar last night to drink for the first time since New Year and I got buzz. I was surprise they came to the same bar. I notice my ex and her girl friend and the new guy were sitting 10 ft from my chair. Also they were probably talking about me as I notice from the corner of my eye the guy was looking at me. I was ready to thrown down if he approach me with stupid intention. Edited April 15, 2017 by spyman42
ExpatInItaly Posted April 15, 2017 Posted April 15, 2017 Our cities is a small college town and all the bars are downtown. I do drive through downtown to Kwik Trip to buy eggs and banana and her car would always by the bars 2 time a week since shes seeing the new guy. I went to the bar last night to drink for the first time since New Year and I got buzz. I was surprise they came to the same bar. I notice my ex and her girl friend and the new guy were sitting 10 ft from my chair. Also they were probably talking about me as I notice from the corner of my eye the guy was looking at me. I was ready to thrown down if he approach me with stupid intention. Don't do that. He isn't the real problem anyway, your ex is. She's the one who left, and she's done it more than once. A better response if he ever approaches you would be "Thanks for taking her out of my hair, and good luck - you're going to need it!" And then walk away. 2
Author spyman42 Posted April 15, 2017 Author Posted April 15, 2017 Don't do that. He isn't the real problem anyway, your ex is. She's the one who left, and she's done it more than once. A better response if he ever approaches you would be "Thanks for taking her out of my hair, and good luck - you're going to need it!" And then walk away. Ya, Thanks I will remember those words if I do see him at the bar again. Since the breakup I had drop from 187 to 173. I feel great and I had get lots of confidence. I had been thinking that the reasons she left me was because I took her for granted and never appreciate her and I was negative about her and got lazy and do nothing beside youtube and internet. In our first 2 years, she do talk about having kids and wants me to be to follow Christianity and God. I just laugh it off and never got serious with it. Last year in Oct, I thought about getting more serious with her and I go to church and follow God. I know she had some issues with communication and taking small negative and holding on them and turn it into a big deal. But ya, I agreed I should had been a better man for her.
Author spyman42 Posted April 28, 2017 Author Posted April 28, 2017 I woke up today and receive 2 text from my ex. Both was sent at 11:52pm. Does she think about me or miss me that's why she send these text to me? Hey... How are you?
Sweetfish Posted May 1, 2017 Posted May 1, 2017 I woke up today and receive 2 text from my ex. Both was sent at 11:52pm. Does she think about me or miss me that's why she send these text to me? Hey... How are you? I hope you didn't respond
Author spyman42 Posted May 31, 2017 Author Posted May 31, 2017 Turn out that the guy didn't have much feeling for her. He give her the " it's not you, it's me" and say I miss the single life and hanging out with his guy friends and party life. So they was seeing each other for 2 month... When she told me that, it felt soo good for me to see her feel the pain too. Like they say what goes around comes around? Should I wait for her to contact me or continue living my life?
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