hplssrmntc Posted April 8, 2017 Posted April 8, 2017 I met this girl at the start of the school year in my new school, and I've liked her ever since. The problem is, I can't really tell if she likes me back at all. For context, ever since I've met her, she has absolutely stopped talking to everyone in school and spending all day with me. She barely talks to anyone else. She used to hang out with a little group of friends during the first days I was in the new school, but then she started talking to me and stopped talking to her other friends; the other day they came to me and told me that ever since I showed up, she hasn't said a word to them, or pretty much anyone for that matter. We spend most of our time away from the rest of the class by ourselves, and when I'm not in school, she just goes to the school library to do who-knows-what. At this point, she'd rather be alone than be with someone that's not me. Literally everyone that sees us together thinks we must like each other, hell, the class even bet on when we would end up together. I thought she liked me too, but... What makes me doubt if it's really worth keeping going after her is the fact that everytime I tell her to hang out outside school, she always has some excuse. We've skipped school together to go get lunch, or go up to the mountain even, but never have we hanged out outside school time. First time I tried asking her, it was to a concert that day, but she said she couldn't. Second time, it was during a long weekend: we arranged a day and time, but she canceled last minute because "she had been given a job interview". Third time was yesterday: I told her if she wanted to hang out during Spring Break, she said she "didn't know when she'd be leaving to her grandmother's house at the countryside", and that we'd talk about it through Whatsapp, which honestly, seems to me as the same as saying "I don't really want to hang out with you, but don't want to say no so I'll give you a vague, maybe positive response but then tell you I can't once you bring it up through text". Of course, these could all be real excuses: First time I asked her at last minute (the same day); second time, she genuinely could have got a job interview (suspiciously at the exact same time we were going to meet up, but we had been talking the same week about how we were looking for a job); and the third time, who am I to doubt she's going outside town to visit her grandmother? But then again, they also could be as false as they could be true: as far as I know, companies don't give job interviews in the morning for the evening of the same day; and she didn't mention anything about going outside town during Spring Break until I told her to hang out. So at this point, I'm just completely confused on if she likes me and just always have inconveniences to see me; or doesn't like me and makes up excuses, and for some reason decided to cut off her relationships to spend more time with me at school. The other one thing that makes me doubt if it's worth going after her is this one thing she told me before Christmas Break: she told me our homeroom teacher asked her if we were a couple, and she told me that she blushed a lot, and that she was tired of everyone asking her the same thing, and that "a guy and a girl can be friends without being a couple". I mean, of course they can! But as far as I know, normal people don't stop talking to their other friends so they can spend more time with this one person. The last day before Christmas Break though, for the first and only time, it was her that told me "maybe we could see each other during Break". Then again, maybe she was just being polite. Who knows, she's like a closed book. At this point, is it worth going after her? It's our senior year, and who knows if we even keep seeing each other once we're done with high school, so that makes me think I should risk it; but at the same time, if it all goes wrong, I'd rather part with her after school in a friendly way, instead of parting with her being "the creep that tried to get with her". tl;dr: Got a crush on this girl, we literally spend the whole day together in school and she won't talk to anyone else but me, but she never can't (or never wants) to hang out outside school.
preraph Posted April 8, 2017 Posted April 8, 2017 She likes playing house and putting on a show and probably thinks this makes her special in the eyes of her friends, but she isn't interested in you romantically. She is fake because she puts on a show like she is for all to see, but then she isn't really and she told you so with that statement about just being friends. This is a lot of wasted time if what you want is a girlfriend. And honestly, even friends hang out after school, so again, this is ALL for show at school. She likes being the girl who has a boyfriend, but she's not attracted to you that way. I'm sorry. I'm glad you were already reaching this conclusion on your own. Her lies are really inexcusable. She is leading you on, and I rarely ever say or believe that, but she is, for her own weird reasons. I think you should tell her you're breaking up and I bet anything you find that once word gets around you're single, you'll have a few girls after you right away because I'm sure you presented yourself like a great boyfriend for all to see. So yes, break up and get a real girlfriend. Good luck. And don't let her hang around "as just a friend" to mess things up with new girls, because it will.
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