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My cousin is engaged to a woman that is baffling!


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He was dating this attractive successful women and after they broke up he met a woman online....45, lives with her parents and her 2 kids. Can't stay at a job, has no money, isn't very bright, constantly nags him in front of people....is not attractive and is overweight. Has bad breath (a few people have commented on this). He is moving 2 hours away from everyone and bought them a house to live in....he now will travel 2 hours to work each day both ways. It's just doesn't make any sense? He has several options of women....why would he take on the task of being a stepdad (he already raised 2 kids), do all that traveling to work and move from his friends and family....all for a woman with no redeeming qualities? Yes I know people will say he must see something in her that nobody else does but non of us can figure it out. Nobody will ask him but we think maybe he feels like they need him which in turn makes him feel important. Some of his guy friends says he brags about the public kinky sex they have and maybe that's the reason.

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If he's happy with her, why does it matter to you?

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He was dating this attractive successful women and after they broke up he met a woman online....45, lives with her parents and her 2 kids. Can't stay at a job, has no money, isn't very bright, constantly nags him in front of people....is not attractive and is overweight. Has bad breath (a few people have commented on this). He is moving 2 hours away from everyone and bought them a house to live in....he now will travel 2 hours to work each day both ways. It's just doesn't make any sense? He has several options of women....why would he take on the task of being a stepdad (he already raised 2 kids), do all that traveling to work and move from his friends and family....all for a woman with no redeeming qualities? Yes I know people will say he must see something in her that nobody else does but non of us can figure it out. Nobody will ask him but we think maybe he feels like they need him which in turn makes him feel important. Some of his guy friends says he brags about the public kinky sex they have and maybe that's the reason.

 

Chances are you cousin is dating a Cluster B woman i.e. a woman that has Borderline Personality Disorder as well as other mental issues. She's toxic so you are right to be concerned. The problem is that your cousin also has issues that he hasn't addressed because he's allowing himself to remain in such a relationship. Keep talking to him and explain that this woman will ruin him and could ultimately destroy him and in the worst case kill him.

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I'm sure it all comes down to sex. That's the one place she makes him feel right, which is pathetic. But also, I would compare her to his parents and see if you don't find some commonality there because people who don't do much thinking between the ears will often gravitate towards what is familiar to them growing up.

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