Penguin_hugs Posted April 8, 2017 Posted April 8, 2017 Hi there Anyone who has read my posts over the last year will know I've been a bit all over the place with dating. I've been using OLD because I've moved around a few times and was really busy with working. Things appear to be going well with someone- positive signs- regular phone calls, they start talking about making plans for future events etc- I get my hopes up and think things are about to really be on to something when BAM said person disappears. This is a recurring theme... Anyway- I recently moved and live nearer my step sister now. We didn't grow up together etc and haven't ever been close (she's 8 years older than me) but we are trying harder now. I was chatting to her about my dating failures and she mentioned that she had been thinking for a while that I would get on really well with one of her husband's friends. I have a lot of the same interests as her husband and his friends and apparently they had been discussing that and think we should be set up. So I agreed and apparently they asked him and he agreed. So tomorrow the 4 of us are going out for a walk down the beach and out for lunch. It should be exciting but I have a few niggles. I have never been on a date before where I have been set up or at least messaged the person online first. I'm going in to this completely blind apart from knowing his first name, seeing a few pictures on facebook and having a rough idea of what he does for work. This loss of control/ knowledge is so new to me! My brother in law started to be brutally honest about him like he's a bit shy, can't remember if and when he had a serious girlfriend before and my step sister shut him up very quickly... But that is playing on my mind a little. Like he could be 10 years older than me and not really dated? And yet my step sister is trying to big this guy up, say how great he is with family, my nephew- apparently good marriage material etc? I don't know. I think I have got to the stage of overthinking this massively- which is one of my common flaws! Any tips of being set up? Positive experiences etc? Thanks
oldbutcurious Posted April 8, 2017 Posted April 8, 2017 Just go and check him out. The fact that it's a group as they say is quite safe and less on the boring side makes it - well - that. If it turned out bad, then, ease out of the arrangement. If it's worth a second date, then... only you can tell. 1
todreaminblue Posted April 8, 2017 Posted April 8, 2017 i dont mind being set up..at least the guy probably wont be a serial killer...which is always a good start...a friend of mine set me up with a friend...it was fine....we had similar interests same kooky sense of humor and he was respectful...which is what my friends know i need to be happy.....deb 1
Author Penguin_hugs Posted April 10, 2017 Author Posted April 10, 2017 As a little bit of an update- it was actually more awkward than OLD! It felt like we were being watched and thrown together and we barely ended up speaking- just exchanging pleasantries. The afternoon was really different to what I imagined- I thought it would be an adults only affair etc but my 3 year old nephew came along too. While I love him to pieces- the day does just become all about him when he is around! Apparently both of us said about the other that we seemed nice but we hadn't really had chance to chat. I said to my brother in law that I think it would be better if me and his friend met up in different cirumstances-so he messaged him to ask if he could give over mobile numbers etc. And the response was although he thought I was nice- he felt we didn't click. I do feel a little disappointed as I don't think I was really on my best dating form yesterday due to the scenario. But I guess never mind. Just move on. I am getting a bit tired of it now though. I just don't feel like I am getting anywhere!
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