Just Visiting Posted July 28, 2005 Posted July 28, 2005 Has everyone ever felt "stale" about themselves and/or their life? I am stunned that after coming home from work, I had nothing interesting to talk or share with my boyfriend yesterday. Supper was spent mainly in silence. Most of the conversation lately has been about his work and daily life. I felt pretty inadequate, insecure, and wonder if I am boring him. My job with the federal government has burnt me out. I have applied for others hoping that a new environment will revive me. However, no interviews have turned out. I have attempted to get together with friends. Most are away or busy with their own lives. My boyfriend works in the media industry. So he always has an interesting conversation to share. And I feel bad because I can't do the same. My only highlight lately was a fight with my older sister. I have been praying and asking that this negativity be wiped away. And also that I am able to find my soul's purpose and meaning for being here. At the moment, it is like my life has no meaning and I feel pretty lost. And that I am merely surviving, not being. I am afraid to talk to my bf about it. He might see it as whining. I went to sought comfort last night by laying down on the couch with him as he watched tv. However, a little while later he got up to eat some pie. That stung. I don't know, I have been trying to talk to myself out of this hump. But it hasn't worked. Can someone share some advice, something with me? I know it is something within, I just need to understand from a different perspective. Thanks.
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted July 28, 2005 Posted July 28, 2005 Go make supper as usual, and sit at the table naked. Or sit ON the table naked and be his dinner! I've always wanted to do that, but didn't get a chance to cuz the last guy broke my heart first *sigh*.
clynn Posted July 28, 2005 Posted July 28, 2005 Its impossible to not have work and other stressors not impact your relationship. You should work on sorting out your life and by keeping yourself active independently outside of work in extra curricular activities, etc. that will keep you fresh and keep new things to talk about. Plus you'll feel like you are challenging yourself Good luck! (plus teh naked at the table thing sounds pretty fun!
laRubiaBonita Posted July 28, 2005 Posted July 28, 2005 i am guessing you are not quite over 26 yet. i say this because i believe that 23-26 are some of the biggest years in regards to personal change on "life realization". i think these are HUGE growing and finding yourself years. your bf may not know all the inner conflicts you are going through, and your best bet is to talk with him about it over dinner one night, or after dinner. But do not expect your bf to esp-know when you feel funky about your life, and get get pie. what i have learned with men is if you want to "talk", you cannot do it while he is in the midst of his favorite show, or while he is watching the game, you need to set aside a specific time, not be accusational, and just express your fears and concerns. You live with and presumably love this man, and he has a right to know you.
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