Love2015 Posted April 8, 2017 Posted April 8, 2017 I talked to a guy for many days on the phone. Did video chatting. Met him for coffee. Made out with him....just kissing. Next day he says he only wants sex as he doesn't want complicated relationship right now. I see him. We talk about it. We have sex. It seemed we would continue just not heavy relationship. A week later. He doesn't reply to my texts and doesn't communicate I don't regret it but would have liked some more. I am not sure if I should let it be or call him out. Thoughts?
mortensorchid Posted April 8, 2017 Posted April 8, 2017 You knew what he wanted immediately. He got that, he's moved on. You should too. It's what it is. 2
Arieswoman Posted April 8, 2017 Posted April 8, 2017 Love2015, Next day he says he only wants sex as he doesn't want complicated relationship right now. So why are you surprised when he does a runner ? Next time ask the guy what he actually means by that sort of statement. When I was divorced and dating guys used to take me out then say "I don't want anything serious now/I'm not interested in this 'courting' business/I don't want any involvement/I'm too busy to do serious dating" But they all wanted to get into a sexual relationship ! My response - "Next !"
d0nnivain Posted April 8, 2017 Posted April 8, 2017 I agree. He got what he wanted & moved on. If you just want sex you can reach out for him & make that clear as in -- invite him over. You have nothing to lose. The worst he can do is say no. However, I caution you against this because you may think you can do this but I suspect you are already a little attached. More sex just means you will get more hurt a few weeks / months from now when he finds somebody he wants to have a relationship with.
act00 Posted April 8, 2017 Posted April 8, 2017 He stated clearly he only wants sex. He got it. He's moving on. You say you want "some more." What does that mean? Do you want more sex or do you want more, as in a relationship? If you just want more sex, text or call and tell him. I'm sure he'll be up for the task, but if he isn't responding to texts telling him you want to jump him, then consider this done. If you want more in the form of a committed relationship, don't waste your time on him.
Redhead14 Posted April 8, 2017 Posted April 8, 2017 I talked to a guy for many days on the phone. Did video chatting. Met him for coffee. Made out with him....just kissing. Next day he says he only wants sex as he doesn't want complicated relationship right now. I see him. We talk about it. We have sex. It seemed we would continue just not heavy relationship. A week later. He doesn't reply to my texts and doesn't communicate I don't regret it but would have liked some more. I am not sure if I should let it be or call him out. Thoughts? Call him out on what? He told you he only wanted sex, not a relationship. A guy who is upfront and completely honest about his intentions . . . You've had a one-night stand. So be it. I don't regret it but would have liked some more - I'm a little confused by this. You want some more gratuitous, unattached sex or you want more in terms of a relationship. Either way, it's clear that this guy doesn't want either with you. He knows that women tend to get attached so he doesn't allow the opportunity for that to happen.
BaileyB Posted April 8, 2017 Posted April 8, 2017 He told you exactly what he wanted. Now, he has enjoyed exactly what he wanted and moved on... You can't fault him for that. If you wanted more, you needed to tell him that. And frankly, perhaps wait to have sex... But it doesn't sound like is guy would have stayed around... When someone tells you or shows you exactly who they are or what they want, believe them.
kendahke Posted April 8, 2017 Posted April 8, 2017 I talked to a guy for many days on the phone. Did video chatting. Met him for coffee. Made out with him....just kissing. Next day he says he only wants sex as he doesn't want complicated relationship right now. I see him. We talk about it. We have sex. It seemed we would continue just not heavy relationship. A week later. He doesn't reply to my texts and doesn't communicate I don't regret it but would have liked some more. I am not sure if I should let it be or call him out. Thoughts? Call him out for what? He didn't lie to you or lead you on. You did that to yourself by not taking at face value what he said to you. Instead, you twisted your interpretation into something he never said or indicated. No. "Calling him out" will only highlight your comprehension shortfall.
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