Technicolorreina Posted April 7, 2017 Posted April 7, 2017 Got out of a LTR about 3 months ago, a few weeks ago I went on a date with someone I went to high school with (in my twenties now) and had a really fun time talking and catching up. We texted as well as snap chatted here and there; last weekend we hooked up and had sex. It was a fun time and that's all we did for hours, I spent the night but left early to go to work. Between havin sex he mentioned that we should have a more traditional date like seeing a movie or going to dinner, trying to be coy I mentioned all he needs to do is ask. He walked me to my car and I got a kiss goodbye on the lips and neck. Later that night I was with an old friend and she told me to tell him hi so sent that to him. He replied back. Now I haven't heard from him this week and I don't want to come off as clingy. I genuinely enjoy talking to him as we have a lot in common, enjoy similar things, and the sex was great too. He's liked my Instagram posts this week and has looked at my snap story. I thought we had a good time and he's the first guy who I have had fun with since my ex. I don't want to come on strong but I'm afraid I was a "hump and dump" but if that's the case would he keep interacting with me on social media? And why would he suggest going out on a traditional date after I had slept with him already? He's the one that pursued me and I've been out of the dating game for awhile so I feel like I'm over analyzing everything. Should I have not been so coy about him directly asking me out? Should I just ignore him and wait for him to talk to me? Or should I just text him, "hey really had fun Friday night, let me know if you want to get together again sometime,"?
PinkPampies Posted April 7, 2017 Posted April 7, 2017 Don't over analyze. It'll drive you crazy. I'd shoot him a text and see if he wants to meet up for dinner or drinks. If he ignores you, well then you have your answer.
IfonlyIknew Posted April 7, 2017 Posted April 7, 2017 A man who is serious won't play games and is aware of his actions. If you reached out to him it wouldn't change anything in his eyes if he is interested.
xUnknown Posted April 7, 2017 Posted April 7, 2017 If anything, I bet he thinks he was a "hump and dump" (ie, he was a rebound for you). text him and see if he wants to go and do something, like others have mentioned.
Author Technicolorreina Posted April 7, 2017 Author Posted April 7, 2017 Thanks everyone, I sent him a text so we'll see. I appreciate the support and if he's not interested well that's just the way it goes. Knew I needed some opinions from outside sources.
act00 Posted April 7, 2017 Posted April 7, 2017 Keep us updated. I was going to say you need to text him and you did!
Author Technicolorreina Posted April 8, 2017 Author Posted April 8, 2017 So as an update I guess I texted him, "hey I had a lot of fun last weekend, let me know if you want to get together again sometime." I know he has a busy schedule so I wasn't expecting anything all that soon but I know he doesn't work weekends. He opened my snap story and never texted me back. So I guess I should just cut my losses? I'm kind of bummed out because I did want to ask him out tonight but I guess it is what it is. Thanks for the support though!
The Urbanyst Posted April 8, 2017 Posted April 8, 2017 When people are into you, its obvious. If you are confused, it means they have low interest. Most guys chase women hard when they have strong interest. He was probably only interested in sex.
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