mikenc Posted April 7, 2017 Posted April 7, 2017 I (24) started seeing a girl (19) about 2 months ago. We hit it off instantly, having fun joking around and the sex was amazing. Throughout our time hanging out, a few things came up in conversation such as the fact that I'm the first person to take her on dates or that I'm the first dude that hasn't done something the screw her over. She is not a sappy kind of girl that gets all caught up in feelings and titles and that commitment freaks her out and makes her uncomfortable. Our third night out, the PDA started (holding hands/kissing in public) and things started looking good for us. We would go out on cool dates every couple of days and always had a good time together. She told her family about me about 3 weeks into us hanging out and they approved of us. One night a couple weeks ago we spent an entire day together doing things and were intimate that night and she proceeded to tell me that I am the first person to ever get her spot. I could tell after that night that something was spinning in her head and she was really into me. That night I brought up the "are you sleeping with anyone else/what are we" conversation. She wasn't sleeping with anyone else and she said that she has never done this before (sex, dates, good conversations) that in her mind we were "dating." I just left the conversation at that because I'm not in a position to be committed 100% to someone with all of the expectations and pressure of "a relationship." At this point it seemed like we were on the same page. Fast forward to last week and she became super busy with classes (which are ending in 2 weeks for summer break). This past weekend she brought up the conversation as to "what are we" and what to do about summer break (she lives in VT and I live in SC). She mentioned how she really likes me and that she is freaking out about committing to me over the summer (even though I never mentioned anything about commitment and I don't want a full commitment for personal reasons). After talking for a while, we ended up settling on that we will be on good terms, hang out once or twice before she leaves for summer and she mentioned that she is up for departure sex prior to leaving. It has been 5 days since the conversation and I have not spoken to her since. I was wondering what I should do in this situation. We will be back in the same place in August, but what steps should be taken to ensure that in a few months we will pick up where we left off?
Ronnys93 Posted April 7, 2017 Posted April 7, 2017 If the conversation that you start off where you left didn't occur then it's safe to assume that wont happen. Even if you DID have that conversation there are no guarantees. You need to actually have that discussion though. Just be upfront and honest about what you actually want. You both seem to be honest and open with each other that's a great start. I think the departure sex may cause more problems honestly.
GemmaUK Posted April 7, 2017 Posted April 7, 2017 Sounds like you want this to continue and that she is seeing it as a short term thing before her break. It may not end up that way but you can't make someone want more if they don't.
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