isuckatlove Posted April 6, 2017 Posted April 6, 2017 So I've been seeing this guy for about 5 months or so, we've gone on dates and he's paid every time, he shows me he cares, he calls me, asks me how I am and how something went that I was nervous about (for example an exam), he's always pushing me to be the best that I can be etc. We got into an argument last week and it was all my fault, I was being insecure and freaked out and kinda just took my emotions out on him. I realized I was wrong I apologized, explained to him why i freaked out and that I know I shouldn't have and he's been ignoring me ever since. In the past week he sent me one snapchat and liked one picture that I've posted but still no talking. The only communication we had was when I was like "so you're really not gonna talk to me?" and he said "I was busy...." which is true that he gets busy I know but in the past when he's busy he always lets me know by saying "sorry i got caught up doing..." etc This is the second fight we had the first one was his fault and he apologized cause he was annoyed and took it out on me but I forgave him and we moved on. What does this mean? I want to unfollow him on everything so I can just move on but I'm not sure if he just needs more time to cool off. It's been a week though and the fight wasn't that big so how much time does a guy need?
hercules22 Posted April 7, 2017 Posted April 7, 2017 us blokes usually get over small fights pretty quick to be honest what was the argument even about
basil67 Posted April 7, 2017 Posted April 7, 2017 What did your 'freak out' look like? Did you call him names or unfairly accuse him of anything?
KBob Posted April 7, 2017 Posted April 7, 2017 us blokes usually get over small fights pretty quick to be honest what was the argument even about Exactly. The sooner you get over the fight, the sooner you have makeup sex. Hopefully you didn't say anything too harsh to him, because a week is a long time to stay silent. The "I was busy excuse" is dismissive, if he wants to talk, he'll talk. You can keep requesting to talk in an apologetic, non rude way, bit likely if it hasn't happened by now, it probably won't.
todreaminblue Posted April 7, 2017 Posted April 7, 2017 people when they tend to get angry with me or we have a disagreement....stop talking to me or ignore me.....i believe they do it to punish me....for not backing down.....anyway...they do the thing that hurts me most...ignore me..make me feel isolated.......and in the wrong.......so i let them be......knowing i was right..i followed my heart ...stood behind it.......eventually ...they come back or i ring them when i feel that its been too long and ill say hey ...did you catch that is how last night...acting like nothing has happened.....or if i see them out and about...ill say hey missed you you know we should do something soon ...or talk to them say hi i really wanted to speak to you how you been.....its good to see you ...and act like they have been on holiday.....it works.....but the chux of th ematter....i let it go.....people are too important and you never know when ....you wont have th eluxury of being able to talk to them.....it hurts when people ignore you or walk away or dont contact you.i fidn that people have issues sometimes that you never even realize they had.........but when they do contact you...be happy.....it will get back to normal...you can help it get that way..by letting any resentment go........good luck...deb 1
GemmaUK Posted April 7, 2017 Posted April 7, 2017 What happened when you freaked out and what exactly was it about? Also though, you said you just want to unfriend/unfollow and move on. Why don't you just do that if that's what you want to do?
coolheadal Posted April 7, 2017 Posted April 7, 2017 So I've been seeing this guy for about 5 months or so, we've gone on dates and he's paid every time, he shows me he cares, he calls me, asks me how I am and how something went that I was nervous about (for example an exam), he's always pushing me to be the best that I can be etc. We got into an argument last week and it was all my fault, I was being insecure and freaked out and kinda just took my emotions out on him. I realized I was wrong I apologized, explained to him why i freaked out and that I know I shouldn't have and he's been ignoring me ever since. In the past week he sent me one snapchat and liked one picture that I've posted but still no talking. The only communication we had was when I was like "so you're really not gonna talk to me?" and he said "I was busy...." which is true that he gets busy I know but in the past when he's busy he always lets me know by saying "sorry i got caught up doing..." etc This is the second fight we had the first one was his fault and he apologized cause he was annoyed and took it out on me but I forgave him and we moved on. What does this mean? I want to unfollow him on everything so I can just move on but I'm not sure if he just needs more time to cool off. It's been a week though and the fight wasn't that big so how much time does a guy need? Move on, and forget about him. Listen your lucky he already told you HE'S BUSY! Take that as a hint to move on! 1
ExpatInItaly Posted April 7, 2017 Posted April 7, 2017 The first thing that stood out to me is your description of the relationship: you said you've been seeing him for 5 months. Does that mean you are not actually a couple? If not, is there a reason it hasn't progressed at this stage? I ask because if you're still more casual, then perhaps he is just not that bothered about making up after this argument. In other words, he might just be taking this as exit. I think the exact nature of your "freak out" is also important. What was making you feel insecure, and what happened when you took it out on him? In any case, he's not interested in talking. You might just need to let him go. 1
Jj66 Posted April 7, 2017 Posted April 7, 2017 For me to give the cold shoulder for a whole week her offense would have to be very bad in my mind. To the point of me struggling with whether to end it or not. 4
basil67 Posted April 7, 2017 Posted April 7, 2017 people when they tend to get angry with me or we have a disagreement....stop talking to me or ignore me.....i believe they do it to punish me....for not backing down.... I don't know. If I've ever had a disagreement which has made me walk away, it's because the issue or their behaviour was a dealbreaker. It's not about punishing them - it's about looking after myself. 3
basil67 Posted April 7, 2017 Posted April 7, 2017 OP, I don't suppose you told him to leave? If this happened, it's fair to assume he considers the relationship to be over. 1
Larryville Posted April 7, 2017 Posted April 7, 2017 The first thing that stood out to me is your description of the relationship: you said you've been seeing him for 5 months. This stood out to me as well, 5 months and this is not a relationship really… We got into an argument last week and it was all my fault, Guy I'm dating has not talked to me in a week after a small argument ? This is the thing, you got into an argument and you categorized it as a "small" argument. Clearly he did not see it that way. You said: I was being insecure and freaked out and kinda just took my emotions out on him. I realized I was wrong I apologized, explained to him why i freaked out and that I know I shouldn't have and he's been ignoring me ever since. The thing is some dudes will simply choose NOT to have to deal with insecure, moody freaked out types. Since after 5 months of "nothing" just hangin out he went with his "other option. 6
smackie9 Posted April 7, 2017 Posted April 7, 2017 What does this mean????? you both should stop seeing each other. 1
kendahke Posted April 7, 2017 Posted April 7, 2017 It's been a week though and the fight wasn't that big so how much time does a guy need? To you, it wasn't that big. He's not you and he's entitled to his interpretation of what is or isn't a big deal. To him, it was big enough for him to look at a possible incompatibility that he may not want to deal with. Two fights in 5 months? Yeah... this isn't a good fit. You should not even be in a fighting arena at all at this point; that means that the representatives who were on their good behavior have been dismissed and the real you and him have taken over. This is also the point in involvements where weak foundational relationships fail. You've developed cracks in yours that may not be worth fixing. Whatever it is that makes you lash out because of insecurity--you need to go fix that. No one is going to take that mess nor are they obligated to take it off of you. If he came here complaining about you, I'd say the same thing to him: he needs to go fix what triggers him to reach for a fight instead of a discussion. 3
joseb Posted April 8, 2017 Posted April 8, 2017 For me to give the cold shoulder for a whole week her offense would have to be very bad in my mind. To the point of me struggling with whether to end it or not. Yes, op what happened exactly?
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