tacoman Posted July 28, 2005 Posted July 28, 2005 okay. long story short. GF of 5 years broke up with me in april. we are both 22/23. a week later i find her on the floor making out with a 28 year old loser ( i mean that, but i dont need to get into to many details, other than the fact the catalyst of them hooking up was because the loser got fired from a job a moron could do and was moving, now going to the same type of job at an even smaller more pathetic place) anyway, i am hearing rumblings that after only 3.5 months of a LDR (an hour and a bit away) the ex is applying to jobs all over the place down there. I feel so replaced as is, now i am going insane with this stuff. i am not sure if i ever knew her. we were insanly close and best friends as well. a few cosmetic issues made her break. nothing big, we were just both really busy finishing college, i was commuting 5 hours a day so i could live in town with her. plus i required 3 foot operations (always were steel toed boots!!) we just got comfortable and it was a little bland the last few mnths of the relationship. But we were still affectionate and loving up until like 2 days before she dumped me. I dont get it. I have the replacment blues in a big way. i am in shock that she is even considering moving over an hour away just like that after such a short time. How can she do this. I have bit my tongue the entire time and have not said anything. Hoping to get a 2nd chance. we were talking marriage,etc.......now i just feel like i dont give a crap and just need to get all the crap off my chest. and there has been a lot. the loser she is with called the cops on me the night before my gradutaion for nothing. literally. the cop laughed at him saying he is only calling because he is required to by law, but doesnt really know what the guys problem is. Cop said she didnt seem like she cared . he was the angry one. i just cant belive she let that crap go down. she still isnt sure whether or not i got called or not. if she is going to move and is puling this crap so quick, i may as well get it off my chest rather than sucking it up still. i am sick of taking it up the butt over and over, my knees hurt,and she has made zero atempts to contact me. only if i initiate. i hope their relationship burns a painful death and then i can tell her to screw off. but holy crap, what the hell is she thinking. her birthday is on the 31st, i think i am going to blow it off completely. but i am not sure if i should if i want to find out from her if she is moving. this sucks so bad. so disapointing. it hurts so much. i still love her more than the world, she blindsided me completely.
sanne Posted July 29, 2005 Posted July 29, 2005 tacoman, I dunno what to say. sometimes in life you put yourself out there for a person, only to see them walk all over you. you really can't win in these kind of situations, the only solution is to just let go. my ex, was someone i tried desperately to change. if you ever heard that song "fix you" by cold play, that was me trying to fix her. i failed, and in the process wasted a lot of time. but i'm a much stronger person now, and i won't tolerate the kind of b.s. I did anymore from anyone. i can't tell you how much it hurt me to realize that nothing I was doing was going to change who she was, the only solution for me was to just let it go. and I have, I've let her go, and it really threw her for a loop when she realized i stopped caring. but my chapter with her is now over, and i am moving on with life, and you should do the same. when you learn to let go, all those feelings you have towards her (negative or positive) will simply fade away. i wish you all the best man, just try your best to keep away, trust me only good things can come if you implement NC.
smile95 Posted July 29, 2005 Posted July 29, 2005 The more you now about her life, the more it hurts. Try not to learn anything new about her. NC also means no talking to friends about her and no doing research to figure things out. Iknow how bad it hurts. I am hoping that the longer I do NC, the less I will care and the less I know the better. Good luck to you. We are all there with you! It sucks.
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