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Met someone via online dating. Have a very basic question about next step

Teknoe

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So, update.

 

I texted her something Thursday at 2. It didn't involve a question but it was a brief story that she could relate to (same profession). It didn't really necessitate a response on her part but obviously it would have been nice to hear something back.

 

So by Friday afternoon, being 24 hours later, I usually panic and text again to try and re-establish some form of contact/connection. But I held back this time and told myself to be patient.

 

Saturday morning she texts me if we can move our coffee date back one hour. I said "No problem. See you tomorrow :)"

 

Didn't text her after that.

 

Well, we had our date today. I paid for her. It went pretty well. Right off the bat she told me she has a 15 year old daughter. (So she had her when she was 18). I was taken aback, but right now I'm just going to go with the flow and see where this goes. She's getting to know me and vice versa. After all, it's only been one date. I'm open to seeing her again. Will probably text her casually throughout the week and see if she's game. Her replies will tell me all I need to know (i.e. if they are playful or at least extends the conversation rather than "Oh, cool" and "I see" etc.)

 

The kid thing is not my #1 preference but at least she's not a baby I would have to help take care of if this does work out. I'm keeping an open mind and am going to take this slowly and as it comes. If it doesn't work out, no harm no foul. But I'm going to gently and slowly continue getting to know her to see if we have a real connection. We seemed to have a few things in common on the first date, so that was encouraging. I don't feel attached either way right now, which I feel is a pretty good place to be. I'm open to more dates, but would not be crushed if she told me "Sorry, I'm not seeing it between us."

 

All good either way!

 

And am I glad I was patient on the texting or what, lol. Sometimes you just got to leave it be and let the girl come to you when she's ready!

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Contact her within the next 24 hours. If she responds, suggest the next date :)

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