Grey40 Posted April 6, 2017 Posted April 6, 2017 Asked a girl out Me : glad your day is going well, we should get dinner and drinks on Friday. I hear xxx is really good. No response. Been 12 hours. Usually she responds within 6 hours, and always writes long paragraphs and everything. Seems like she responds to everything except when I ask her out.
Smitts Posted April 6, 2017 Posted April 6, 2017 Just wait for her to reply. If she doesn't and always avoids anything about going out. Yeah, I'd move on. Ask someone else out. At least have the decency to respond with a No. 3
Author Grey40 Posted April 8, 2017 Author Posted April 8, 2017 Update: so to recap, I asked this girl out last weekend to see my friends band, she apologized that she couldn't go and said she's definitley interested in hanging out and she felt really bad and hoped we could reschedule. That was on Friday last week, I texted her on Tuesday back and forth and asked her out to for dinner/drinks. She didn't respond until Thursday morning, when she said this: "Hey! Sorry I've been kinda the worst with texting haha been so drained this week. So I'm actually going down to ac tonight for my friends bday will be back tomorrow but I kinda loved the idea of see live music with you since we didn't make it to your friends the first time. When are they playing next ? And how's your morning so far ?" So I respond Oh nice have fun down there and alright yeah I like that idea too, I don't know when my friends playing there next, but we can always go see other bands there's music all the time in XX are you around tomorrow night or Saturday night? there's a good singer-songwriter girl I've played with before playing at XX tomorrow with some other bands and I'm sure theres a bunch of stuff Saturday too. No response. It's been over 24 hours. She's been on all the social media and stuff, so it's not a. Phone issue. I'm really just confused. She says she's interested and "def down to hang out" then I ask her and she like totally ignores it. Seems like she's only interested to going to see music with me, but I guess it needs to be more specific? I'm Thinking I'll wait another few days and then just ask her out again to see a band again and just be more specific--day, place, time.
Jammer25 Posted April 8, 2017 Posted April 8, 2017 If she was really that interested, she would have made time to go out with you. Seems like you're in the backup-tier of people she would hang with. And maybe she's just really busy with work/family/etc. Just don't be pushy or insistent. Try again in a few days, but if she doesn't respond then move on.
NTV Posted April 8, 2017 Posted April 8, 2017 Stop making it formal. 'Hey what are you doing right now?' 'Oh yeah? What about coming over for a glass of wine? Tell me what kind you want.' She doesn't answer then ignore until she says she'll come over for drinks. She bugs you without saying that she come over to have a drink then tell her you were interested in dating but it's clear she's playing the field so you've moved on. 'Don't you wanna be friends? ' 'I've got enough friends. Thanks though.'
Teknoe Posted April 8, 2017 Posted April 8, 2017 Move on. She's clearly not interested in your romantically. Probably doesn't want to hurt your feelings either but I guarantee you girls don't act like she does 99.9% of the time when they're really digging a guy.
Scarlett.O'hara Posted April 8, 2017 Posted April 8, 2017 Honestly, her response gave me the "friend-zone" vibe. Either way, I think it might be in your best interest to back off a bit. If I'm wrong and she is interested, she will realize she has to make more of an effort to gain your attention. Also, if she isn't interested, then backing off will free up your time to meet someone else.
preraph Posted April 8, 2017 Posted April 8, 2017 I think it's that she has other options and things working. She's busy. But you can only sit still for so many fadeouts and still keep your dignity. She might also be one of those people who seems unable to organize enough to plan something. I have a friend like that and she's in MENSA. But at the last minute if you're there, she'll go. There's all kinds. I don't like messing with unorganized ones though, most of the time.
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