Asked "Have you ever had a GF"

[nickf100]

A (married) woman at work today told me that i seem like the type of guy who hasn't ever had a gf. She is an immigrant from a pretty conservative culture.

 

Normally i wouldn't let this bother me too much but then i remembered that earlier this year my friend's wife (also from a conservative culture) asked me 'if i have ever had a gf' even though she has seen and even commented on photos of me and an ex. she was then just like "oh yea".

 

The only reasoning i can think of as to why someone would ask that is if i'm giving off a seriously off putting/socially inept vibe; at least with women, never been asked this by a guy.

 

I wouldn't say i date alot but to be asked if i have EVER had a gf is just insulting especially by people who practically didn't date anyone before getting married. Overall, I'm just a little alarmed that people would be asking me this at my age (29)!

 

Anyone ever get asked this?, Do you think its safe to say this is a pretty realistic reasoning?

[preraph]

Is there any chance that she is looking for a virgin because she is conservative? You would know by her tone if she was serious or teasing and making fun. But yes, it is RUDE to ask someone that question. Do not feel you have to respond. You can say this if you want to: "Only one way to find out."

[nickf100]

It is safe to assume that neither of them are interested in me; they're both married. I guess its possible they were both trying to make fun/take a jab at me, but still if that's the case they both picked up on the same thing to jab me with.

Edited April 6, 2017 by nickf100

[Scarlett.O'hara]

No, I have never been asked this. Frankly, I think it is a rude question to ask anybody.

 

At a guess, I would say you are being asked this because they are more curious as to why you are not married at 29 (which I assume is more of a priority within a conservative culture). If you don't or haven't had a girlfriend then it might make you appear quite unique in their eyes. It might be more of a curiosity based on a cultural expectation rather than a deliberate attempt to insult you.

 

Either way, try and rise above it and be grateful that you haven't settled for a mediocre marriage with the wrong person.

[gaius]

At least they're being honest with you. That's the vibe you've been putting off apparently. That you've never had a girlfriend. So now you know how you're being perceived and at least have a chance to do something about it.