Zachk Posted April 5, 2017 Posted April 5, 2017 (edited) So recently me girlfriend and I broke up. We were together for 5 years and both live in a small town. Which makes this very hard because we see each other around a lot. The break up was my fault. We have broke up at times because I have lied. I lied to her because at the time I wasent thinking right and figured if I dident tell her everything would be fine. But what happen was I was at the bar one night and this 40 year old girl wanted a ride to some party and she junped in and I gave her a ride to the party. Hence I'm 21 and she is 40. Well all I did was give her a ride and drive around for about 10-15 min. Well someone started a rumor since I live in a small town the we had hooked up. Which we never did. I never liked this girl once never hugged her or anything what so ever. But now my ex girlfriend is pretty dead seat that I cheated on her which I dident and said I had broke her heart for lying. I know that was very wrong on my part. Anyways she currently got ahold of my best friend to ask him what he thought and she said she never wants to be with me again and possibly thought about moving. She also asked him if he thought I'd cheat on her and he told her only the two people know that but why would a 21 year old want a 40 year old. She also told him that if I texted her she wouldn't bekive a thing I said and make her more mad. I guess her mom and cousin and her all blocked me in Facebook which shoulder mean much but I'm not sure. This girl truly was the love of my life and I never have cheated in her its small town talk. I have made lied which was wrong and a mistake. I'm just curious as to what you guys think if it really is over and I should move on or if I should give her time and space or what. Just hurts me seeing her hurt the way she is and saying I broke her heart. What should I do I'm so lost and hurt Edited April 5, 2017 by a LoveShack.org Moderator paragraphs ~6
Telemachus Posted April 5, 2017 Posted April 5, 2017 What should you do? Move on with your life and learn from your mistakes and the experience of this relationship. Become the best person you can possibly be and work to make the world a better place - it's what we should all do. Trust is the lifeblood of any relationship. Understand what you did to break-down trust. Accept that it's over and that you helped bring it to an end. Do better. 1
Author Zachk Posted April 5, 2017 Author Posted April 5, 2017 Thanks for the help. Just really sucks because of a rumor. I do love the girl to death
GorillaTheater Posted April 5, 2017 Posted April 5, 2017 Just really sucks because of a rumor. The rumor was a problem, but it's not why the relationship ended. What did you lie about?
d0nnivain Posted April 5, 2017 Posted April 5, 2017 No, this rumor was simply the last straw. You admit you have broken up before. That break up make up cycle is dysfunctional. You admit you have lied to your EX in the past. That combo is what finally caused this to be over for good. If you had a healthy, trusting, solid relationship & if you had told your GF that you drove the 40 year old to the party the rumor would never have made a difference to your GF. The reason the rumor was able to do damage is because you are an admitted liar. What you should do is reflect on how your failure to tell the truth in a relationship caused its demise & vow to be more honest in your next relationship. When you inevitably see your EX around town do not go out of your way to be mean to her. Acknowledge her with a tight smile & a nod of the head but move along. Eventually it won't hurt so much.
Author Zachk Posted April 5, 2017 Author Posted April 5, 2017 Thank you guys this is all helping. I lied on the fact I told her it was two guys and her but it was just I and her because I knew she is a little insucre. I know she really loved me a lot. Should I just except the fact that it's over or should I work on myself fix my mistakes and become a better person and hold onto hope that she might give me a chance down the road?
d0nnivain Posted April 5, 2017 Posted April 5, 2017 Should I just except the fact that it's over or should I work on myself fix my mistakes and become a better person and hold onto hope that she might give me a chance down the road? You should accept the fact that it's over AND work on yourself, not to win her back but because you have issues that need to be addressed for your own happiness. 2
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