henderson14 Posted February 4, 2017 Posted February 4, 2017 This question is for guys, because I know what girls will say. If you're on a date with a girl and she invites you up and one thing leads to another and she wants sex, but you don't intend to ask her out again, should you turn it down?
basil67 Posted February 5, 2017 Posted February 5, 2017 I'm curious as to what you think girls will say. Anyway, I'm a woman and I think the answer depends on the age of the "girl" in question. If she's young and inexperienced, she may think that you having sex with her means you are interested. And saying "no" would be thoughtful. Or at least, make sure to tell her that she's really hot but it will only be a one night thing. But if she's older and has dated a bit, she will be well aware that having sex with a guy does not mean he's interested in a relationship. In that case, go for it. 6
BaileyB Posted February 5, 2017 Posted February 5, 2017 Really, if you are upfront with her and tell her that it's just sex... If she agrees, go for it. Otherwise, I think you should decline. It's the respectful thing to do. 3
Author henderson14 Posted February 5, 2017 Author Posted February 5, 2017 (edited) Yes, she is a little older. 34 to be exact. I also live close to downtown in a major city. Thanks for the honest non angry and preaching responses. Edited February 5, 2017 by henderson14
Shining One Posted February 5, 2017 Posted February 5, 2017 I personally wouldn't turn her offer down. Women have accepted various things from me despite having no intention of going out with me again. It's part of the dating experience. However, as basil pointed out, I would turn it down with a younger, inexperienced woman. Of course, I don't pursue considerably younger women, so I would not likely find myself in that scenario.
dispatch3d Posted February 5, 2017 Posted February 5, 2017 Meh, I don't get involved with girls I'm not interested in. Have had guy friends that were the same, usually these friends were good friends too.
Miss Peach Posted February 5, 2017 Posted February 5, 2017 I've been in this situation with women. I've had some where the vibe was they were into casual or still feeling out where thing might go. I've had others try to turn me into their GF after the first date. If it were the later type of woman I wouldn't do it - it's just not wor the trouble IMO.
OatsAndHall Posted February 5, 2017 Posted February 5, 2017 I wouldn't. I'd have a hard time not doing so if I was strongly physically attracted to them but I would still decline. Here's my reasoning: 1. I wouldn't want to deal with the fall-out afterward. I wouldn't want to hear about how I "used them" or any of that. It was consensual sex, they invited me up and that doesn't guarantee ANYTHING. I have been down this road before and it's a waste of my time. 2. I probably wouldn't enjoy the sex very much, even I was sexually attracted to them. They would have given me an emotional reason to not want to see them again. And, honestly, it takes quite a bit for me to not give a woman who is interested in me a second date if the first one went badly. They would have to make me seriously uncomfortable. 3. There is a chance that I really didn't care for this woman but the sex was amazing and it blinded me to my original gut feeling. This is how I have ended up in bad relationships in the past. I honestly avoid sleeping with a woman until we're a few dates in for this very reason.
smackie9 Posted February 5, 2017 Posted February 5, 2017 She's 34, she knows what she is doing....she just wants sex. I doubt she really expects another date.
Author henderson14 Posted April 5, 2017 Author Posted April 5, 2017 Be honest. Let's say you're dating a girl who is attractive and you get along with and she is into you, but you're not sure about the long term and the connection. Would you continue to date her for sex and companionship since you aren't with anyone else?
Shining One Posted April 5, 2017 Posted April 5, 2017 It depends on what I'm looking for at the time. If I'm just looking for sex and companionship, then yes. If I'm looking for a long-term relationship, then no.
2morrowneverknows Posted April 5, 2017 Posted April 5, 2017 sure, somethings are instant, some things take time. Just so long as nobody's getting strung along or hurt then all's good imo
CryForNoOne Posted April 5, 2017 Posted April 5, 2017 Be honest. Let's say you're dating a girl who is attractive and you get along with and she is into you, but you're not sure about the long term and the connection. Would you continue to date her for sex and companionship since you aren't with anyone else? Yes. And I think 9/10 guys would even if they are looking for a LtR. The key phrase is that you said we get along. If we don't, then h3ll no... 1
smackie9 Posted April 5, 2017 Posted April 5, 2017 Silliest question ever.....I don't know of any guy that would say no. 4
Mrin Posted April 5, 2017 Posted April 5, 2017 Does a cow moo? The only caveat is that I would make sure I wasn't sending long term relationship vibes. That's just cruel. 1
xUnknown Posted April 5, 2017 Posted April 5, 2017 Be honest. Let's say you're dating a girl who is attractive and you get along with and she is into you, but you're not sure about the long term and the connection. Would you continue to date her for sex and companionship since you aren't with anyone else? Having been there a few months ago, no. I couldn't do it. It was stressing me out too much that the girl was into me more than I was into her. Sort of scared me off lol. She was a Columbian model and needless to say, part of me wishes I stuck around a little while longer. But, I already tried my best to keep it going. Yes, I've gotten plenty of **** from my friends for cutting her loose. Sometimes the stress and feeling guilty isn't worth it, regardless of how attractive they are.
CryForNoOne Posted April 5, 2017 Posted April 5, 2017 Silliest question ever.....I don't know of any guy that would say no. Yup. I said 9/10 and that might be a low estimate. A real question would be if she's attractive but annoying as f**k and even then I bet its 50/50...
coolheadal Posted April 5, 2017 Posted April 5, 2017 Be honest. Let's say you're dating a girl who is attractive and you get along with and she is into you, but you're not sure about the long term and the connection. Would you continue to date her for sex and companionship since you aren't with anyone else? Not about the sex, boy you harp on that subject line. Why can't it be just love and romance only. Sex will comes when it comes. To many of us men push for sex too much. I don't push I know better not to push. Women will do what they want to do.. I know what I want and I know how and what to do also. When the time is right you do what it takes. That's all I have to say on this subject.
CptInsano Posted April 5, 2017 Posted April 5, 2017 I've continued dating because she was just fun to be around, even if there was no sex involved, both of us realizing that we weren't compatible. Some dates are worth continuing for no other purpose but the date itself.
Author henderson14 Posted April 5, 2017 Author Posted April 5, 2017 This is assuming she is really into you and looking for something long term.
marksaysay Posted April 5, 2017 Posted April 5, 2017 I just walked away from a "relationship" like you described, so I guess I am probably one of the minority who would not. We both enjoyed the sex, but I wanted more from the relationship than she was willing to give...with me, anyways!
TheBathWater Posted April 5, 2017 Posted April 5, 2017 Be honest. Let's say you're dating a girl who is attractive and you get along with and she is into you, but you're not sure about the long term and the connection. Would you continue to date her for sex and companionship since you aren't with anyone else? Me personally, no. If I am attracted to a girl I want to be with her. It's hard to get it up if there are parts of her personality I don't like.
JuneJulySeptember Posted April 5, 2017 Posted April 5, 2017 Be honest. Let's say you're dating a girl who is attractive and you get along with and she is into you, but you're not sure about the long term and the connection. Would you continue to date her for sex and companionship since you aren't with anyone else? Too vague on the specifics. In the real world, depending on what she was lacking, she'd still be relationship material. All of the women I've dated have lacked ... something. If I was attracted to her, and we got along, and she likes me, typically yes, I date such women. As far as long term and marriage, whatever it is she's lacking with me in connection, I'd have to compare it to other women I've had a connection with (if any, lol) and think hard about it. But lets say for arguments sake, she has 3 kids. That's a situation most men would not accept. I would still probably consider it. 1
carhill Posted April 5, 2017 Posted April 5, 2017 Guys. Would you continue dating for sex? IDK, can't predict the future. If history is any guide, no. Be honest. Let's say you're dating a girl who is attractive and you get along with and she is into you, but you're not sure about the long term and the connection. Would you continue to date her for sex and companionship since you aren't with anyone else?I wouldn't be having sex with her if not confident in relations beyond sex, like an established and committed relationship or marriage. Simple as that. Never have seen sex as recreation, likely never will. YMMV!
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