katheryn Posted July 28, 2005 Posted July 28, 2005 i dont know wat is going to happen my ex left my home on the 4june he spent all his free time with my neghbour and eventually they became an item he has been seperated from her since sun 24july i was there for him when he needed it , and this suprised him but we had been togeather for 16yrs and have 2 children , i am considering our future if we got back to geather would he be able to have no contact with neghbour as at the moment they have decided to stay friends , it hurts so bad to know they got togeather in the first place but how she went about it (to much to go into detail) i know a couple who have split up and the male is one of her exs and his recent girlfriend is finding it hard when he talks to this neghbour as she nows that it is sex that happens when they talk, i dont want to go through these thoughts as this is wat caused all our trouble in first place, my ex has appoligsed on here and to me for putting me through all the pain and sufering but he nows he cant make it right, i know that she is texting him still wat can i say to him to make him understand were i am comming from.
EnigmaXOXO Posted July 28, 2005 Posted July 28, 2005 my ex has appoligsed on here and to me for putting me through all the pain and sufering but he nows he cant make it right, i know that she is texting him still wat can i say to him to make him understand were i am comming from. You say…"NO." Practice the word. Use it. MEAN it. There is much inner strength, self respect and personal empowerment to be gained by introducing it more into your vocabulary. People only treat you like crap when you let them. This man is hopping door to door, bed to bed, and there is no indication he is willing to change anything. He's still friends with this woman, she still lives next door, and as soon as he gets restless again it's only a short walk back to the neighbor's house. Sustaining his friendship with her (and you) is his oh-so-obvious way to keep one foot in both doors. Do you like having yourself and your children treated like that??
Author katheryn Posted July 31, 2005 Author Posted July 31, 2005 i got hurt again but i attempted suicide on fri morning he looked for me sufferedc hurt from me doing this to the kids and him, but before i got home from the hospital he thinks i didnt do anything and has started new relationship in with her again so yes u were right i have to walk away and take my love away im doing no cotact but its hard because he is next door having fun while im suffering again, i have changed mobile telephone nos and are considering changing house phone no , maybe it will be easier to do all the stuff through the solictor and not on my doorstep so im not having to face him got sort out the kids and how he is going to pay for the kids without having to talk to him it going to be hard but next move is to take kids and give up all our friends and move away.
pippen_2k Posted July 31, 2005 Posted July 31, 2005 I dont know your financial situation or anything, but you definatley gotta move ASAP! Its gonna kill you having him next door to you. No need to move city.. just get a place somewhere else.... Good Luck and dont do anythin silly ok
lindya Posted July 31, 2005 Posted July 31, 2005 Katheryn, I found it incredibly distasteful that knowing you post here, this guy started a thread of his own in what was clearly a way of indirectly communicating with you. He's using this board, something you found and started to use in order to heal yourself, for dubious purposes. Very tacky and manipulative indeed. I wouldn't waste time wondering what's going on next door. He'll have implied to your neighbour that you somehow deserved to be treated like this - and she's probably bovine enough to be easily convinced that it's true. She'll be next. Meantime, focus your energies on the counselling sessions and on trying to get a move. Your local Housing Department might be able to help you here. Go to your GP and explain to him or her what the domestic situation is like at the moment. The GP will already be aware that you were admitted into hospital recently. He/she can write a letter of support for you to get a move more quickly. Good luck.
Author katheryn Posted July 31, 2005 Author Posted July 31, 2005 its my fault that i let him use the site when he was trying to sort himself out i own my house all my friends are here it is going to be hard i just got back from the out of hours doc who gave a few meds to help me next few days, thanks for the support and advive im going to avoid him compleatly lindya and piopen
lindya Posted July 31, 2005 Posted July 31, 2005 thanks for the support and advive im going to avoid him compleatly lindya and piopen Good. Might be an idea to re-register with a different user name, then provided you don't outline the circumstances behind the break up you can post about your feelings in more depth if you need to...without having to worry about him reading the messages and knowing that they're yours.
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