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Something you still remember...months, or even years later...

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that im better off dead.....

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"I had one foot out the door the entire 2 years I was with you."

 

I'll never forget that she said that, and not likely to forgive.

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"I hope you can be happy."

 

Far and away the most condescending thing I have ever been told in my life. Dude, you broke my heart, not my will to live. I am pretty sure I can process some sort of positive emotion without being attached to your dumb @ss.

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'I don't love you anymore, I never truly did'

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"...My love for you must have been conditional, just like your dads, otherwise I wouldn't have been able to move on to a new relationship a few weeks later"

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"You're the worse person I've ever met. Don't contact me again."

 

And 3 months later, he emailed me to compliment me on a project I'd been working on. Like he asked me to, I never replied.

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"...My love for you must have been conditional, just like your dads, otherwise I wouldn't have been able to move on to a new relationship a few weeks later"

 

Actually, now when I think, my ex said so many hurtful things in the end (but got really offended when I said his running shoes were funny :D , but the worst thing he said was " I can see why your dad abandoned you". I was only 9 months old when my dad left.

I swear, some times I genuinely hate this guy. But then sometimes I cry too :).

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"I want to spend the rest of my life with you!"

 

Followed a few months later by:

 

"There's someone else."

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Actually, now when I think, my ex said so many hurtful things in the end (but got really offended when I said his running shoes were funny :D , but the worst thing he said was " I can see why your dad abandoned you". I was only 9 months old when my dad left.

I swear, some times I genuinely hate this guy. But then sometimes I cry too :).

 

 

 

i believe sometimes in some cases.....that many dumpers will say the most horrid things to make you let go ...to make you hate them.....when in actual fact it is pure guilt they feel .....i do believe this.....they are wrong of course....when you are being dumped...the emotion most people feel ...is fear of losing the one they love.... and tremendous hurt ...this is not love to want to hurt soemoen so badly they recoil adn let go ....and yes ...i recoiled i let go adn i moved two thousand kilometres away from my ex ...justified.....i can not handle cruelty.....to me or anyone at all.....and i knew i fi stayed he woudl want me again in a sexual way .....

what your ex said to you is horrid....a fool to have possibly believed it might make it easier on you to let go.....so thoughtless inconsiderate deluded deranged....and truly cruel....let me at him......smilin..i can write a strongly worded letter and you can can send it foot mail style...up his butt......hugs...deb

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"I loved him more than I ever loved you. Always have, always will."

 

referring to the guy she cheated on me with.

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i believe sometimes in some cases.....that many dumpers will say the most horrid things to make you let go ...to make you hate them.....when in actual fact it is pure guilt they feel .....i do believe this.....they are wrong of course....when you are being dumped...the emotion most people feel ...is fear of losing the one they love.... and tremendous hurt ...this is not love to want to hurt soemoen so badly they recoil adn let go ....and yes ...i recoiled i let go adn i moved two thousand kilometres away from my ex ...justified.....i can not handle cruelty.....to me or anyone at all.....and i knew i fi stayed he woudl want me again in a sexual way .....

what your ex said to you is horrid....a fool to have possibly believed it might make it easier on you to let go.....so thoughtless inconsiderate deluded deranged....and truly cruel....let me at him......smilin..i can write a strongly worded letter and you can can send it foot mail style...up his butt......hugs...deb

You are great :). Oh, yes, he would then go on and send the e-mails saying how he never loved and never will love anyone like me. Then a week later say "lol. you are delusional. I would never get back to you". And now I cut off all contacts. I even changed my e-mail. I used to check his social accounts daily (from a fake account since I am blocked), but for two weeks I have not even looked at them. For all I know, he could be married, and I do not even want to know....

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"I loved him more than I ever loved you. Always have, always will."

 

referring to the guy she cheated on me with.

 

That is pure cruelty, and you are so lucky to have a person like that out of your life.

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"sure, I'd love to go out with you"

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We broke up because he didn't want to marry me & never thought I was good enough to be the mother of his children.

 

 

15 years later, when I can no longer have children, he says that the "biggest regret of his life was not having a kid with me."

 

 

I wanted to punch him. Instead I told him that was the cruelest thing anybody ever said to me & after all these years of thinking he was a good guy I had to revise my opinion.

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Said as I was laying on the floor, him, high on drugs, sitting on top of me choking me after he had thrown me around the house and blocked the door so I couldn't leave, pregnant with his child...

 

he said "I could kill you right now but I won't because I'd rather see you alive and suffering and living a miserable life than let you die and be at peace"

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It's not so much what they say but what goes along with it.

 

One said, "Honestly, it just wasn't that big a deal to me (us)." Followed by years of him scheming to work with me and have me close under his wing, and even now, him married with kids, 40 years later, he still keeps up with me and we go to a show once in awhile, with or without the wife.

 

Another one, who would never go away but wouldn't "be my boyfriend" said, "You have to remember, I'm used to ballerinas." The truth was he had ED and didn't tell me for 10 years until he'd solved it and was married with a kid.

 

He knew exactly one ballerina and that was in high school.

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Said as I was laying on the floor, him, high on drugs, sitting on top of me choking me after he had thrown me around the house and blocked the door so I couldn't leave, pregnant with his child...

 

he said "I could kill you right now but I won't because I'd rather see you alive and suffering and living a miserable life than let you die and be at peace"

 

Did he ever apologize? Any karma that hit him really hard?

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Actually, now when I think, my ex said so many hurtful things in the end (but got really offended when I said his running shoes were funny :D , but the worst thing he said was " I can see why your dad abandoned you". I was only 9 months old when my dad left.

I swear, some times I genuinely hate this guy. But then sometimes I cry too :).

 

Same here…. If I teased my ex about something as little as her apartment being messy sometimes she would go ape s**t and tell me every little flaw or screw up I’ve ever done (even stuff that had nothing to do with her!). Then should would be all over me 20mins later….after reading these forms I’m starting to think my ex may have a little BPD or she just got off confusing the hell out of me haha

 

I agree with todreaminblue,

Looking back mine said the most horrible things to push me away. But then she would feel guilty (because she absolutely has to see herself as a good person) and be loving towards me again….then wait for it…then she would say something incredibly cruel to push me away again. That cycle lasted months after our breakup until I finally caught on and I went NC (Plus I got tired of her bragging about her new partner in front of me). Can only push another person so far with those games.

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Said as I was laying on the floor, him, high on drugs, sitting on top of me choking me after he had thrown me around the house and blocked the door so I couldn't leave, pregnant with his child...

 

he said "I could kill you right now but I won't because I'd rather see you alive and suffering and living a miserable life than let you die and be at peace"

 

that is one of the worst things that I have EVER read.....that dude is a monster

and needs a major butt whipping

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That is pure cruelty, and you are so lucky to have a person like that out of your life.

 

Well, it's funny how things work out.

I recently got out of a 4 year long relationship.

 

During our first break up, I contacted this person because I was lonely.

(This situation is a bit complicated)

I reconnected with them and am currently talking to them, nothing serious, but it is moving in a direction I like.

 

I don't understand it either.

But, people can say some pretty terrible things when they are down.

 

That guy she cheated on me with, well karma did come back full fold because he got into a fatal car crash and passed away. So when she said this, she was mourning his loss and dealing with our problems at the same time.

 

Point is, I have forgiven her.

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i almost feel like by writing the things down that were said to me its like unforgiving someone....and like god when someone shows true remorse you should let it go and not bring it to memory and then i get this really strong need to get what comes up in my head to write it out....so i am....

 

my ex was high on drugs and alcohol...he came home i asked him to stay and to go to bed sleep it off and not go back out.....i had two children asleep in the next room so i kept my voice down i wasnt yelling or doing anything wrong i was trying to look after him.....we began to stealth argue with his face really close to mine because i didnt want to wake the kids......we argued over my baby bump...he wanted my baby bump gone...i had miscarried and i was holding on to this baby bump.....he wanted me to have an abortion......he looked demonic.....eh said if i didnt get an abortion or say i would he would cut it out of me right now....i looked at him ...and said do it...but you are going to have to kill me..he stepped back.........i said to him ...i take on all responsibility for this baby.....you never have to see me again......ill move out tomorrow and i will move far away from you you will never see or hear from me again.....and he walked out.....i chose at that time i was leaving the place we were staying in......it was a mobile home village and bad vibes all around......i packed what i had and my kids clothes.....

 

 

just got off the phone to him actually rang while i was writing this..... fourth time today im losing track....i need to be strong.....

 

 

i packed my stuff ....and i woke him up the next morning ...i said im leaving tomorrow......you are not responsible for this baby i am i choose to have this baby.......i sadi im goign interstate ....ill give you one chance now...you can come with me o ryou can stay....but im not staying here.....and i wont be back.....he didtn remember what he had doen the nigth before.....

 

 

he said i want to be with you i want to have the baby with you...i want 8us to eb a family and i forgave him......and exactly as i said.....we moved interstate and i found us a temporary house to stay ...from a payphone outside the train station when we arrived interstate......and then found u sa more perment house and him a job at a bottle factory.........we slept on clothes ......until i was able to gather furniture.....my first beautiful thing i had....was a coffee pot that i would make th ecoffeee and he coudl hav ecoffeee before he went earyl morning shift.....

 

 

i am sorry if i am boring posters...i feel a real push to write and not in my journal.....just like i have felt pushed to write a list every day of beautiful things i love on my facebook...maybe im slipping..maybe tis for strength ...or maybe its just for peace.....i know i am not doing it for sympathy or likes on either facebook or here.....maybe its for me to feel connected to people..so i dont disappear...little confused.....tired.......deb

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Well, it's funny how things work out.

I recently got out of a 4 year long relationship.

 

During our first break up, I contacted this person because I was lonely.

(This situation is a bit complicated)

I reconnected with them and am currently talking to them, nothing serious, but it is moving in a direction I like.

 

I don't understand it either.

But, people can say some pretty terrible things when they are down.

 

That guy she cheated on me with, well karma did come back full fold because he got into a fatal car crash and passed away. So when she said this, she was mourning his loss and dealing with our problems at the same time.

 

Point is, I have forgiven her.

Yes, that makes things a little bit different, but the most important thing is that you can live at peace. I think forgiveness is a really powerful thing, and I hope to be able to forgive my ex some day. But we only broke up 3 months ago, so it will take another 3, 30 years in my case :)

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Yes, that makes things a little bit different, but the most important thing is that you can live at peace. I think forgiveness is a really powerful thing, and I hope to be able to forgive my ex some day. But we only broke up 3 months ago, so it will take another 3, 30 years in my case :)

 

lol....sense of humor...classic......always helps with forgiveness......deb

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