Shesjustmaria Posted April 4, 2017 Posted April 4, 2017 Hello, so I'm very curious because I have been in this situation before but I want to know everyone's outlook. Would you take an ex back after they left you for a rebound relationship or Grass Is Green syndrome?? I would love to hear your stories or feedback
Kitchen Posted April 4, 2017 Posted April 4, 2017 What I don't like about loveshack is that people give advice as if its cookie cutter. The answer is: it depends. Depends on the context of the breakup, the connection to your ex, what you and the ex did after the breakup, who you saw etc. My ex left me for someone else. 4 years later, I know it in my deepest heart that we still have that connection. I'm in no way still in love with her, but I feel the energy. She's actually engaged, but it appears the marriage may not go through. I honestly don't know. But whether or not it goes through, I will always be hers and she will always be mine, in a strange way. Not that we still have feelings, but we have that connection. And I'm looking at the whole thing objectively. Objectively, I appreciate how great we were, and I'd 100% give it another shot. But if I don't get that chance, I'd still be happy. Btw, I'm currently getting over a 2 month relationship, which should prove that in no way am I still into the ex. But just wanted to answer your question. 1
whatnot Posted April 5, 2017 Posted April 5, 2017 I've broken it off before and dated other women. Then gone back to the woman I broke it off with. I've never dated more than one woman at a time. (I probably should). And I've never dated a woman I knew before breaking up with the woman I was dating. In other words....I've never left one woman for another woman. I've always dreamed of being able to do that! lol
whatnot Posted April 5, 2017 Posted April 5, 2017 (edited) I wanna be one of those guys that can date multiple women at one time....and the women still want him. Why couldn't I have been like him? pisses me off. Edited April 5, 2017 by whatnot
jorgeg3d Posted April 5, 2017 Posted April 5, 2017 I wanna be one of those guys that can date multiple women at one time....and the women still want him. Why couldn't I have been like him? pisses me off. Dating multiple women is exhausting lol. But exhilarating to a degree. I remember moments where I just wanted to be left alone, I'd have 4-5 text messages at any given time. And filling up my week with dates was expensive too.
act00 Posted April 5, 2017 Posted April 5, 2017 There's a reason WHY they left, and that's what comes into question. Did you start dating young and grew apart, wanted to play, and then end up together again? Did they leave because there's just conflict in personality? Coming back to you could also be the grass is always greener. They remember the good times and forget the bad, maybe expect the other person will make changes, but being back together reminds them again of what prompted them to leave in the first place. Maybe they just outgrew the relationship, and again, they miss the you of the past when things were going well, and try again, only to find, nope, it's still not there anymore. I can't say I would never take back an ex, but my experience has been (on both sides, I've broken up and gotten back with an as well) the reason why they left in the first place. There are things that make people incompatible, and taking back the ex is often a futile effort. There are certainly happy endings, but ex's become ex's for a reason.
jorgeg3d Posted April 5, 2017 Posted April 5, 2017 There's a reason WHY they left, and that's what comes into question. Did you start dating young and grew apart, wanted to play, and then end up together again? Did they leave because there's just conflict in personality? Coming back to you could also be the grass is always greener. They remember the good times and forget the bad, maybe expect the other person will make changes, but being back together reminds them again of what prompted them to leave in the first place. Maybe they just outgrew the relationship, and again, they miss the you of the past when things were going well, and try again, only to find, nope, it's still not there anymore. I can't say I would never take back an ex, but my experience has been (on both sides, I've broken up and gotten back with an as well) the reason why they left in the first place. There are things that make people incompatible, and taking back the ex is often a futile effort. There are certainly happy endings, but ex's become ex's for a reason. Ex's become ex's because they don't want to give an effort. Relationships no matter how happy they can be, require effort on both sides.
BluesPower Posted April 5, 2017 Posted April 5, 2017 I wanna be one of those guys that can date multiple women at one time....and the women still want him. Why couldn't I have been like him? pisses me off. Be careful what you wish for... I have been doing that for a while. It is fun, no doubt. But inevitably, one or two are going to want more of your time then you have got. I was playing on a Thursday night and one of my girls really wanted me to come down, insisted really, so when I was through, at 1:00AM I drive an hour, take care of business, get a hours sleep and then to work. Wow, was I tired... I'm not sure if it is worth it.
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