Monaw12_96 Posted April 4, 2017 Posted April 4, 2017 So I recently started talking to this guy and we are pretty clearly into each other. Recently he has complained about me blowing up his phone too much and I didn't see anything wrong with that. Does that mean he doesn't like me or is not that into me? Or should I just stop being myself and sending a series of silly messages.
Life lessons Posted April 4, 2017 Posted April 4, 2017 So I recently started talking to this guy and we are pretty clearly into each other. Recently he has complained about me blowing up his phone too much and I didn't see anything wrong with that. Does that mean he doesn't like me or is not that into me? Or should I just stop being myself and sending a series of silly messages. If he told you that, I would definitely call a lot less. Actually, I would not contact him...I would make him contact me if he wanted to communicate. 4
Titanll Posted April 4, 2017 Posted April 4, 2017 You're too much for him. If a woman blows up my phone and I am into her...I blow her's up right back at her. Find someone that you can be yourself around without causing issues...
basil67 Posted April 4, 2017 Posted April 4, 2017 If being yourself involves blowing up someone's phone with silly messages, I suggest you consider growing up a bit. People have better things to do than read time wasting messages. 2
Titanll Posted April 4, 2017 Posted April 4, 2017 If being yourself involves blowing up someone's phone with silly messages, I suggest you consider growing up a bit. People have better things to do than read time wasting messages. Hilarious! How's your love life?
basil67 Posted April 4, 2017 Posted April 4, 2017 Hilarious! How's your love life? It's excellent. Thanks for asking. 8
hippychick3 Posted April 4, 2017 Posted April 4, 2017 Most guys, no matter how much they like a girl, are NOT going to like having their phone blown up. It's a turnoff. Let him initiate the majority of calls/texts. And think of texting like tennis...he hits the ball to you, you hit it back, and don't hit it again until it's your turn. 6
Titanll Posted April 4, 2017 Posted April 4, 2017 It's excellent. Thanks for asking. Just wondering...thought maybe we could set you up with OP's guy...he considers texting a bunch as a time waster as well. The way that I see it, she needs someone that is just as giddy over her as she is over him. She definitely needs someone with enough sense to recognize communication is important not silly at all.
preraph Posted April 4, 2017 Posted April 4, 2017 It means you don't get that most people have better things to do than read random chitchat and feel obligated to respond. He was straight with you. It's too much. If this is who you are, then you may as well break up, because he doesn't like it. 4
bluefeather Posted April 4, 2017 Posted April 4, 2017 The way that I see it, she needs someone that is just as giddy over her as she is over him. She definitely needs someone with enough sense to recognize communication is important not silly at all. There's a difference between communication and spam. Over-texting is not communication. 4
Titanll Posted April 4, 2017 Posted April 4, 2017 OP...pay no attention to these text haters, haha! Plenty of guys, myself included, have no issues with you texting the living crap out of them. If you get upset because they can't always reply promptly, you may run into problems. Other than that, again, just be yourself and don't listen to this negative, self righteous crap about having a life and other garbage. In the end, if the guy likes you and sees some potential for a relationship, he's not going to care how much you contact him. The only problem I would have with this situation is if you are insisting that he reply quickly...
basil67 Posted April 4, 2017 Posted April 4, 2017 Just wondering...thought maybe we could set you up with OP's guy...he considers texting a bunch as a time waster as well. The way that I see it, she needs someone that is just as giddy over her as she is over him. She definitely needs someone with enough sense to recognize communication is important not silly at all. The OP herself said that the messages are silly. I agree that communication is vitally important but silly texts do not classify as communication. Yes, she may need a person who enjoys those types of messages. But he'd better not be a person who's trying to work or study because her frequent interruptions of little importance would make for a lot of time wasting. I cannot be set up with the OPs guy because I've been with my guy for 25 years. And for the record, my hubby works his arse off to support us and I respect this by not interrupting his already hectic day. 3
basil67 Posted April 4, 2017 Posted April 4, 2017 OP...pay no attention to these text haters, haha! Plenty of guys, myself included, have no issues with you texting the living crap out of them. If I was your boss, I'd have a real problem with you slacking off at work to read frequent texts. 2
preraph Posted April 4, 2017 Posted April 4, 2017 I can't wait until these "frequent texters" have a toddler. They will be SO mad at anyone buzzing their phone every two minutes. 1
kendahke Posted April 4, 2017 Posted April 4, 2017 (edited) So I recently started talking to this guy and we are pretty clearly into each other. Recently he has complained about me blowing up his phone too much and I didn't see anything wrong with that. Does that mean he doesn't like me or is not that into me? Or should I just stop being myself and sending a series of silly messages. It means you're coming on too strong. If this is what "being myself" means, then this guy isn't the guy for you... he's being himself, too when he says you're blowing up his phone. Just as you have a right to be who you are, he has a right to be who he is, he has a right to his preferences and he's not wrong for telling you to dial it back. I think it means he's beginning to see that you and he are not a good fit. Edited April 4, 2017 by kendahke 1
Hoosfoos Posted April 4, 2017 Posted April 4, 2017 I have 2 male friends, who for some reason, once they possessed Smartphones, that it was OK to allow their impulsivity and OCD to manifest in the form of frequent texts, constant lame jokes, and other irritating, manipulative and inappropriate behavior. One of them is now blocked from texting me, and the other I do not allow to text me with any kind of conversation whatsoever. Just logistics and making plans, etc. Best piece of mind I could have given myself. People with no boundaries do not realize that Smartphones are extremely annoying when in the wrong hands. 2
OatsAndHall Posted April 4, 2017 Posted April 4, 2017 I don't mind if a significant other or a friend texts me continually as long as they don't expect that I reciprocate with as many messages all of the time. But, I will get a bit blunt if they start becoming frustrated that I'm not texting or messaging all day long. 1
bluefeather Posted April 5, 2017 Posted April 5, 2017 don't listen to this negative, self righteous crap about having a life and other garbage. having a life and other garbage. having a life and other garbage. 10 characters.
KBob Posted April 5, 2017 Posted April 5, 2017 I think the most important thing to ask is: are you ok with texting him less? If not, then break it off. Simple. 1
act00 Posted April 5, 2017 Posted April 5, 2017 I think that if he thinks you're texting way too much, you can tone it down and text less. Appreciate his honesty. He probably enjoys a lot of it, but you're way over the top obsessive with it. I would hope that as far as couple-compromises go, he accepts more than he is used to because you like doing this and he is interested in your interests, and you will work with his needs just the same and slow it down. Bottom line, he doesn't like the constant barrage of whatever trips your trigger on a minute-by-minute basis. I have blocked feeds on FB because, do these people not have anything else to do but post 20 different things per hour, all day?? He probably likes you, but you're coming on really strong and annoying, and he's probably very worried because his communication isn't the same, and he can't keep up with you. He does't want to hurt your feelings if he doesn't reciprocate, and he likely doesn't have the time to come up with things to volley back at you. Frankly, you sound obsessive. Tone it down.
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