joemesina Posted April 4, 2017 Posted April 4, 2017 Hello All Last Friday I met this girl on the gym and we mutually approached each other and said hi, we talked a bit, nothing really important, but it was a positive encounter. We kind of knew each other from some years ago, although we were not friends, we were mostly acquaintances, we have friends in common, and we go to the same beach club on summer, we we both have houses there, she hasn't been there for a while, she was going elsewhere. My question is, if I don't see her anymore in the gym, mostly because I don't know her schedule, I didn't see her yesterday. What can I do? I have some options like adding her on facebook, and then talk to her by messenger, or maybe ask my cousins girlfriend who is a very good friend of her for some help. Any suggestions are welcomed, what can I say to her if I add her on facebook out of the blue, I don't want to look as a stalker. Ps: I have confirmation that she is single. thanks
coolheadal Posted April 4, 2017 Posted April 4, 2017 Hello All Last Friday I met this girl on the gym and we mutually approached each other and said hi, we talked a bit, nothing really important, but it was a positive encounter. We kind of knew each other from some years ago, although we were not friends, we were mostly acquaintances, we have friends in common, and we go to the same beach club on summer, we we both have houses there, she hasn't been there for a while, she was going elsewhere. My question is, if I don't see her anymore in the gym, mostly because I don't know her schedule, I didn't see her yesterday. What can I do? I have some options like adding her on facebook, and then talk to her by messenger, or maybe ask my cousins girlfriend who is a very good friend of her for some help. Any suggestions are welcomed, what can I say to her if I add her on facebook out of the blue, I don't want to look as a stalker. Ps: I have confirmation that she is single. thanks Do all of that and be yourself. Not hard to be yourself and you already know she's single. Go ask her, hey what your doing this weekend, before you ask her find out what events free or paid-for is available. Give her a hint to what you want to take to her too. First time shouldn't be overboard. We men tend to impress than be ourselves, like we put our foot in our mouth.
bishop Posted April 4, 2017 Posted April 4, 2017 Coolheadal is right i think Be yourself! dont feel wierd about contacting her , it will just make things awkward. its totally normal to ask about a woman you are interested in! I'm the stalking type. Id hang out a week in that gym to run into her. (but thats real time consuming) and then admit it later as a "cute" love story. (you should not do that I'm a woman its totally different for women to stalk ahaha) i mean any option is good. as long as you are open and honest!
smackie9 Posted April 4, 2017 Posted April 4, 2017 Set up a chance encounter through your cousin's GF so it doesn't look planned. She will know her schedule, or she can set up a hangout with all of you, etc. Make it look organic.
Author joemesina Posted April 4, 2017 Author Posted April 4, 2017 Thanks for the comments, I am hoping on wednesday I can see her on the gym, if I dont see her, Ill think Ill proceed and add her to facebook, also I might ask my cousins GF to help me a bit to plan an encounter this weekend.
coolheadal Posted April 5, 2017 Posted April 5, 2017 Thanks for the comments, I am hoping on wednesday I can see her on the gym, if I dont see her, Ill think Ill proceed and add her to facebook, also I might ask my cousins GF to help me a bit to plan an encounter this weekend. NP = no problem I wouldn't do much with her at the gym because that's the place to workout. You might catch her in the lobby of the gym, like I did today with one of my women friends. She hasn't seen me in 3 months. I did loose it a bit with her since she said 2 pm and then she's not at her house. I left her a vm with priority ringer selected and she called me right away. Told me she was sorry and forgot. I didn't let her get away with that short comment of excuse. I said where are you at? She said at the gym. Okay which one? LA Fitness. So I drove there I told her I be there in 10 mins. She said that quick. When I got there I told her I was in the lobby waiting. She came out and was so excited to see me. Gave me the usually kiss on the cheek, well I did it first then she did, but I told her wait you have to kiss me on my cheek also. She did with a huge smile. Told me to follow her home. Which I did. We talked and I met her mom and sister. She told them I was very nice man she like me etc. They were so warm and friendly with me. So the woman friend she gave a few things to eat and drink Once thing about her is that she knows how to take care of you. I like that. But my point is this you be yourself to a point never let them try to pull a number on you. In your case sure call her and tell her your at the gym, add her to facebook but try to see her in person but kinda outside the gym. Like I did today. Well my woman friend was very playful she keep on saying she missed to me so much. So tomorrow she'll be coming over to my house. I'll cook for her and play dominos with her and shoot the breeze.
Author joemesina Posted April 5, 2017 Author Posted April 5, 2017 NP = no problem I wouldn't do much with her at the gym because that's the place to workout. You might catch her in the lobby of the gym, like I did today with one of my women friends. She hasn't seen me in 3 months. I did loose it a bit with her since she said 2 pm and then she's not at her house. I left her a vm with priority ringer selected and she called me right away. Told me she was sorry and forgot. I didn't let her get away with that short comment of excuse. I said where are you at? She said at the gym. Okay which one? LA Fitness. So I drove there I told her I be there in 10 mins. She said that quick. When I got there I told her I was in the lobby waiting. She came out and was so excited to see me. Gave me the usually kiss on the cheek, well I did it first then she did, but I told her wait you have to kiss me on my cheek also. She did with a huge smile. Told me to follow her home. Which I did. We talked and I met her mom and sister. She told them I was very nice man she like me etc. They were so warm and friendly with me. So the woman friend she gave a few things to eat and drink Once thing about her is that she knows how to take care of you. I like that. But my point is this you be yourself to a point never let them try to pull a number on you. In your case sure call her and tell her your at the gym, add her to facebook but try to see her in person but kinda outside the gym. Like I did today. Well my woman friend was very playful she keep on saying she missed to me so much. So tomorrow she'll be coming over to my house. I'll cook for her and play dominos with her and shoot the breeze. Definitely will be myself, hope I can meet her today, thanks for sharing your experience.
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