D1ZERO8 Posted April 4, 2017 Posted April 4, 2017 Hello, My name is Dane and I this is my story and question. I broke up with my 2nd GF 4 years ago. Everything was ok 4 years ago, I had a good sexlife and I was happy with her. So we broke up. The last 4 years I have not gotten with another girl. I'll keep the story short. I am 183cm with 100 kg. I'm aware I'm super fat, however I think my face is ok. I'm almost have my medical degree. I'm a male of 28 years old now. I'm a kind person who always tries to help everyone and you can always count on me. I have this problem with girls. My friends don't seem to have any problems. For example a short (170cm) bald friend even gets messenger messages from stranger girls who saw him and want to date him. He always gets alot of tinder matches too. I neither get one of those. Girls never give me attention, I have 0 likes out if maybe 3000 women I liked. When I try to talk to a girl she isn't interested. When I sit in the bus girls rather stand then sit next to me even it's the only place left to sit. Yes, in the 4 years I got some attention but only 1-2 girls who were incredible fat. Like when u see me walking u wouldn't say I'm fat, but no offence to fat girls, but I just don't like very obese girls as I couldn't have sex with them. I know I'm hypocrite, but that's how it is. I'm fully aware that I'm fat. I can change that. I'm not super ugly so that I cannot change. I dress fairly well and my hair is always ok. I feel like I don't matter in this community and time how the world works. It feels like everyone has sex in his or her grasp and enjoys it as a big part of life. I like 9/10 girls I see and yet there is not 1 that is interested in me. Only the 1/10th girl who happens to be morbide Obese. It feels like everyone is doing it together and it's so easy to get, look how friends for example always get to kiss the most beautiful girls, where I don't even can talk to an avarage girl. My question is; is ithis really the case because I'm fat? I can't think of any other real thing that makes it like this for me. I'm not ugly, I have a good studied, dress well, am charming . So do fat people really not deserve anything And are left out of all the fun others are having? Btw, I know the self confidence stories and such, but that is not the question here. Thanks for reading.
duncsvoice Posted April 4, 2017 Posted April 4, 2017 Yes, in the 4 years I got some attention but only 1-2 girls who were incredible fat. My question is; is ithis really the case because I'm fat? Thanks for reading. You will judge and reject others because of their body size. Good luck.
Author D1ZERO8 Posted April 4, 2017 Author Posted April 4, 2017 I'm just not into obese girls as some girls don't want a short guy but a taller one. I know I'm hypocrite in this matter so no need to tell me that. It's just how I feel. The question is rather that fat men don't deserve attention and this being fat problem is the whole reason I'm in this situation. A girl doesn't have to be (super) skinny but I just don't like the Honey boo boo girls.
d0nnivain Posted April 4, 2017 Posted April 4, 2017 If you recognize you are fat & know you can change that, what are you doing to slim down? As someone about to get a medical degree you have to know the health risks associated with obesity. Fat or not, are there women you meet in real life that interest you? Other med students, lab techs, nurses? I thought all doctors & soon to be doctors were more attractive standing on their degrees & licenses. (I'm kidding). Are you warm when you meet people throughout your day? Do you smile & say hi? Do you seem approachable or do you have your nose in a book with an impenetrable air of superiority? I suspect there is a personality trait that is contributing more to your lack of success than simply the number on a scale.
Author D1ZERO8 Posted April 4, 2017 Author Posted April 4, 2017 I just got fat since the last years. I used to weigh 86 kg with 183cm. I'm on holiday now and I realised there is alot wrong with me. I am motivated in everything I do, so I will get back In hitting the gym 4 days a week after I'm back. The question is if this is the solution. I have 0 girl friends. I also never hang out with female medical students. They are not interested in me. Never have been. I have alot of guy friends which I hang out with. If there are also girls with us they don't give me attention, don't speak with me and don't give me a glance either. I'm a warm person I think. For example if we go through a door ill hold the door for a stranger girl and give er a subtile smile with eye contact while I also make a gentle gesture with my arm like "after you". Usually no reaction and they keep looking away and don't think like oh what a nice charming man he is. I just called up one example. I don't care that I almost have a MD, my best friends haven't done university and I really don't fit in that university group either. I happen to want to become a doc, that means university but their not really my kind of ppl. I'm not into that fake **** of societies and so.
elaine567 Posted April 4, 2017 Posted April 4, 2017 I don't care that I almost have a MD, my best friends haven't done university and I really don't fit in that university group either. I happen to want to become a doc, that means university but their not really my kind of ppl. I'm not into that fake **** of societies and so. I am not sure about OLD but IRL you don't really fit in anywhere, do you? The non-university types that hang about with your best friends see you as "the doctor" and out of their league, and that huge chip I guess you have on your shoulder prevents you from getting to know your classmates... BUT networking is key in any profession and you may regret not forming bonds with people in university. You are overweight not obese, so I guess it is not fat that is holding you back here. I have found in life that people tend to mirror, so if the vibe you are giving off is negative in some way, then you tend to get negative back. 1
Author D1ZERO8 Posted April 4, 2017 Author Posted April 4, 2017 (edited) Thank for your reply. I'm in Europe btw. My parents passed away and I have a house on my own bc I don't feel like living in a small chamber my whole study without getting back to my own friends and stuff. So I chose a house instead of a small chamber. I have everything I want here, a big garden, 130 m2 three floor house. So that also is not helping me on making the bonds. I'm really living a whole life and also studying. I have tried tinder and Badoo but I haven't gotten any matches yet. And I've liked ALOT of girls. I feel very sad that I can't have any girl attention and other guys can. It feels so common, easy and an obvious part of their life. Having fun with different girls who are actually also wanting my friends badly. I have never had a girl who really wanted me or wanted to be with me. I feel that my former girlfriends also had me bc I was left over or something. I never felt that they would chose me when they had choice of my friends for example. Ppl here don't care about education. It's nothing special to be a doc and it's more about looks and stuff. I have this red haired super skinny small friend who smokes weeds all day and he ****s every girl he likes. They even sent him messages that he needs to hold em off, they are actually asking for his dick. I see this all with surprised eyes. How is this possible and why am I ruled out in this game? Btw, for the rest I feel great. I have a Motorcycle, nice house, it's clean and I like to build it up from the inside so I have a nice place. I see alot of friends and I play football every weekend. Also have a nice job beside my study. I do feel every time I feel sad I try to compensate with other things. I try to comfort myself that it is how it is and I'm just not lucky like other guys so sex or girl attention is out of.my league and I have to live with it. This works for a moment but I get sad soon after I try to compensate. Why do girls despice me so much on my looks as they don't even know me. Edited April 4, 2017 by D1ZERO8
SevenCity Posted April 4, 2017 Posted April 4, 2017 For us Americans that seems to translate into 6 feet tall 220 lbs. I would not think that is obese for a guy but depends how you wear it. I'm the same height and was about 205 and dropped 40 lbs after not really eating for a few months after my breakup. I didn't have problem getting women before or now (though I wasn't trying then but saw signs of attraction). But since I bought new clothes I'm planning on staying this weight. Location is a huge factor. If you live outside a populated area a lot of these women won't even see your profile due to distance. When I go to the city even for a few hours I get more matches than I do in a week at home. I think part of your problem is you consider your weight a problem but aren't doing anything about it. This will show up in your confidence. Nothing wrong with not liking obese women but you have to become what you want to attract. As much as women complain guys only like hot girls, they won't even consider you if they don't find you attractive. I would take a look at what you're eating and go to the gym. If you are thinner more women will find you attractive. And you'll feel better about yourself.
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