Springsummer Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 I told myself not to check his fb update, but I am just getting too bored, so I checked, there he goes, posting shower pic. sigh...nothing ever happened between us, but I was his very early friends when he came to this country. here we go, a few years later he is getting marry and I am still single and I am much older than him. but the thing is, I could have had him, I think. He used to be very royal and like almost every single my posts prior to his engagement, which was last year. I think he is very sneaky. I never see any post of him had a gf, right before engagement. After that, I saw some posts that appeared they hooked up soon after we didn't keep in touch, which was my bad, I declined his request to meet up after our common friends were gone. and I almost never liked his posts. guess I deserve it? Now, I am wondering if I am missing out? He was a brown model...I supposed he was hot...I felt hot when he tried to cuddle me, but I pushed him away. It seems he has an amazing personality too...always generate tons of likes.
RecentChange Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 You know that social media doesn't give you a true picture of the human behind the "page" right? That real human interaction is what is important, not the quality of "likes". This reads as if you are VERY focused on social media - and I am going to warn you it's not a healthy way to view the world or foster healthy real life, in person relationships
Author Springsummer Posted April 3, 2017 Author Posted April 3, 2017 I guess the only reasons I pushed him away were because he told us he had slept 2 digits of women. and he used to have a model gf for 4 years. That's just too dirty for me. I can't get over it, so I didn't want to be close to him...but apparently he didn't miss a bit! He is not a bad person, I believe he was a faithful bf to his exs and will be a faithful husband. Guess I am just too puritanical for this world? but deep down, I don't think I have any less desire than anyone else.
Author Springsummer Posted April 3, 2017 Author Posted April 3, 2017 You know that social media doesn't give you a true picture of the human behind the "page" right? That real human interaction is what is important, not the quality of "likes". This reads as if you are VERY focused on social media - and I am going to warn you it's not a healthy way to view the world or foster healthy real life, in person relationships Yes, but why he knows so many people despite just coming here for a few years? and some people going gaga over him? just not very convincing...
RecentChange Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 Perhaps if you knew him better in real life - and didn't just read bits and pieces posted on his FB page it would make more sense to you. My recommendation is to fucus on interacting with people in flesh and blood, and spend less time viewing Facebook making assumptions and spending time wondering about other people's lives. Go live your own life! Who cares about FB? 2
Author Springsummer Posted April 4, 2017 Author Posted April 4, 2017 Just wondering if I am really 'weird' and really have some mental blocks. and if I am really missing out on him. (damn, after all, it's hard to come across someone who has that kind of physique)
curiouslysearching Posted April 4, 2017 Posted April 4, 2017 Perhaps if you knew him better in real life - and didn't just read bits and pieces posted on his FB page it would make more sense to you. My recommendation is to fucus on interacting with people in flesh and blood, and spend less time viewing Facebook making assumptions and spending time wondering about other people's lives. Go live your own life! Who cares about FB? OMG you are so right RC.....I know that I am definitely in the minority but to many people seem to live through SM as opposed to LIVING life. Being disconnected from the electronic world every once in a while is LIBERATING and REFRESHING to say the least.....anyone can post or make something very bland seem OUT OF THIS WORLD AMAZING when in reality it just isn't....
Author Springsummer Posted April 4, 2017 Author Posted April 4, 2017 (edited) Perhaps if you knew him better in real life - and didn't just read bits and pieces posted on his FB page it would make more sense to you. My recommendation is to fucus on interacting with people in flesh and blood, and spend less time viewing Facebook making assumptions and spending time wondering about other people's lives. Go live your own life! Who cares about FB? we used to hang out when we had a common friend, who used to arrange activities, who was also crazy attracted to him. she was also the one who badmouthed him after they came back from travelling(just to have a company and share cost. she was not bad looking, but no idea why he practically repel her). she told me he told her he slept around. but should I trust her? So after she left, I just don't see him again. he did try to meet up with me a couple of times, but I always found excuses not to see him. anyhow, regret is useless. especially in this case, I don't even know if I should regret or not. but you are right, any how I should let it go. everything happens for a reason. I just have to trust the universe. FB is no good. Edited April 4, 2017 by Springsummer
RecentChange Posted April 4, 2017 Posted April 4, 2017 You are dwelling in the past. You need to learn how to think forward, not backwards. 1
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