Lpbluejm Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 a few nights ago I invited a girl who I've had feelings for for quite some time to a bar. she shows up with her friend and we're hanging out, having a good time. after a few drinks i'm feeling pretty buzzed. I feel a sudden urge to kiss her and i go for it. it was amazing. i thought i felt some real passion behind it and she seemed to be very much into it. as the night progresses her friend is acting concerned because she got a little too drunk. she was being very forward with me, and we all decide it would be for the best for her friend to escort her home. they call a ride and when it gets there she is stumbling around and can barely walk. I picked her up and carried her to the car and that was that. the next morning she texts me asking me how i'm feeling. she tells me she's hungover and sorry if she was too wild in her drunken state, but that she had a lot of fun. i'm looking for any perspectives that can help me determine what the kiss meant, if anything. I have feelings for this girl and would eventually like a relationship, i think. it's been about 2 days and I'm letting the situation cool off for now. how should i proceed? I am thinking about asking her out to dinner.
carhill Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 Yup, pretty much. It's the sober kisses and ILY's that matter, or so life has taught. Even then, it's all really variable. Wish I had more optimistic news. If you want some definition, the easiest way to get it is ask her out on a date. The sober answer to that question will be your truth. 3
smackie9 Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 She said she had a lot of fun....that's a green light in my books...take her out again for some dancing/and more fun. (dinner dates are too serious). 2
carhill Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 And someplace that doesn't serve alcohol.... boring, right? 1
mightycpa Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 Why does it have to mean anything in order for you to act? It's your excuse to kiss her while you're sober. You'll get your answer soon enough. If it didn't mean anything, then at the end, at least you'll be one kiss ahead of the game. Women like it when you act manly. You're acting like you're in 8th grade, and we're your schoolmates and you're asking us if little Susie likes you. The problem is we're not your schoolmates and we don't know. Be bold. You're her friend, so show up at her house unannounced. Ask her if she remembers kissing you. Tell her that you remember it and it was really nice and you'd like to try it again. Do something. Worst case, she'll tell you no and at least you won't fret over it any more. 3
preraph Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 Well, drunk or not, she DID contact you and say she had fun, so instead of waiting until she's drunk again just because you are unsure, why don't you just ask her out and NOT get her drunk. Take her to a movie and snuggle, etc. If you are cowardly now, you'll get nowhere. She didn't really make any excuses. She said she had fun. I think that's a green light. 1
CptInsano Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 [...] it was amazing. [...] the next morning she texts me asking me how i'm feeling. she tells me she's hungover and sorry if she was too wild in her drunken state, but that she had a lot of fun. [...] You got the green light, you want to, so what in the world are you waiting for? 1
Author Lpbluejm Posted April 3, 2017 Author Posted April 3, 2017 I guess my main concern here is that the alcohol made her do something she regretted. I'm really unsure of how she feels about it, and I'm looking for insight to how it might affect things moving forward. I fully intend on asking her out on another date, no matter what the outcome. She did make the effort to come out to where I was. I know she's attracted to me. I'm just worried her being drunk while it happened had some negative impact.
CptInsano Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 I guess my main concern here is that the alcohol made her do something she regretted. Alcohol generally makes people do things that they otherwise would not dare. But it doesn't make them do things they don't want to. People take more risks but don't become a different person. I'm really unsure of how she feels about it, and I'm looking for insight to how it might affect things moving forward. I fully intend on asking her out on another date, no matter what the outcome. She did make the effort to come out to where I was. I know she's attracted to me. I'm just worried her being drunk while it happened had some negative impact. You are overthinking. There is only one way to find out how she feels about it. Ask her out again and show her that you are attracted to her. 2
mightycpa Posted April 4, 2017 Posted April 4, 2017 I guess my main concern here is that the alcohol made her do something she regretted. I'm really unsure of how she feels about it, and I'm looking for insight to how it might affect things moving forward. I fully intend on asking her out on another date, no matter what the outcome. She did make the effort to come out to where I was. I know she's attracted to me. I'm just worried her being drunk while it happened had some negative impact.As the biblical tribesmen might say, "OY VEY!"
reeseyummy Posted April 4, 2017 Posted April 4, 2017 Well, drunk or not, she DID contact you and say she had fun, so instead of waiting until she's drunk again just because you are unsure, why don't you just ask her out and NOT get her drunk. Take her to a movie and snuggle, etc. If you are cowardly now, you'll get nowhere. She didn't really make any excuses. She said she had fun. I think that's a green light. That's totally a green light!!! Go for it please!! Until SHE thinks the kiss meant nothing to you! I've had "beer goggles" on and kissed a friend, but trust me, I didn't even want to mention it ever because whats the point? I had no interest in the guy. If it meant nothing to her, she wouldn't even be contacting you, or even admitting what happened that night. If she didn't like you, she would pretend she didn't remember what happened that night. That what I would have done if I didn't want anything to do with the guy. Please, ask her out and start acting like a man, and show her your feelings towards her. 1
smackie9 Posted April 4, 2017 Posted April 4, 2017 I guess my main concern here is that the alcohol made her do something she regretted. I'm really unsure of how she feels about it, and I'm looking for insight to how it might affect things moving forward. I fully intend on asking her out on another date, no matter what the outcome. She did make the effort to come out to where I was. I know she's attracted to me. I'm just worried her being drunk while it happened had some negative impact. She regretted nothing...she told you she had fun when she was sober right? 1
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