Sam Jone Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 I like this girl at collage but she a little shy, we usually talk after class (i initiate it) but its not the holiday (2 week) and Im not sure if to add her and message her or not. I want to add her to talk to her and build better relationship. *Im not intending to ask her out over FB just chat and if we get on well ask her when we go back to Collage Pro: I want to talk to her We get to know each other better Makes it more obvious I like her keeps me in her mind over the holidays Con: If it doesn't mean anything i'm just hurting myself Could be friend zoning myself It probably better to talk to her in person But the big reason is i'm not seeing her for 2 weeks. What to do?
Telemachus Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 Yes, it's better to talk to her in person. Human communication is 93 percent body language, including facial expression, and tone of voice. Don't waste your time or hers on Facebook. Words on a screen (including mine here) convey almost nothing. 1
mikeylo Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 Shy girl is an entirely different ball game. Build up slowly in person. FB addition will result in no response, most probably.
d0nnivain Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 If you have been talking to her -- even a little bit -- in person, it's OK to send a friend request. Not a long message, although you can say you are in her blah blah class just in case she's not remembering your whole name & your profile picture is not of you. If she doesn't add you do not mention this when you see her in person. 1
preraph Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 You know, shy doesn't always mean you have to slow down. Sometimes it just means YOU have to be the bold one and decisive so she'll follow your lead. I would say more women, even shy ones, like a bold confident guy to just sweep her up than one who is pussyfooting around, which can even be a bit condescending, because "shy" doesn't mean "stupid" or "inexperienced" or even "naive." So I advise moving forward in person and asking her out right away but to something easy like coffee or movie. If she seems happy enough through the date, give her a quick matter-of-fact kiss on the lips and don't hesitate before sending her on her way. Don't create an awkward moment waiting to see what she does. Kiss and "goodnight" and go on your way. Then ask her out again whether you hear from her or not and hold her hand this time. 2
bradt93 Posted April 4, 2017 Posted April 4, 2017 Try being a commuter student, it's much harder getting to know anyone since you don't live on campus, but I would say wait until she gets to know you better in person.
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