x Maria x Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 I was with my ex for two years he lived a few hours away from me but we messaged constantly everyday. We broke up four months ago over mainly the issue of kids. I'm having a really hard time with it. We had nc for a good while over a month then he messaged one night in Feb then nothing and then he messaged a few weeks back one night because he thought it was unfair the quotes I was liking on Facebook we had some messages about why's and what we thought of things the last message being from me and then nothing again, he says it does affect him a lot he does care etc thinks of me daily and will always love me A few of the issues he had aren't there anymore as I have changed my life over the past four months, though the kid issue remains I think I'm struggling to move on, I've never been a good one for letting go easily if I love someone that's it I love them, I just don't know what to do whether to message again and ask if there's anything else he wants to say etc I don't know what to do about anything im just miserably plodding through the days right now.
preraph Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 Look, moving on isn't about what HE does. It's about you making yourself move on. He can wear a feather boa and clown shoes and come knocking, and you still don't have to entertain him. You should have blocked him and stopped looking at his social media eons ago and you would be moved on by now and probably be much happier. How much time are you going to waste on him? He's a dead end. You can always love the memory of him, but you can do that and still accept that it's over and move forward and beyond him. If you can love him, when it's the wrong person for you, you can love others. It's all about you. Once you get tired of being miserable, you will simply have to use self-discipline and stop giving him head space. It can be done. You are in control of it, no one else.
Author x Maria x Posted April 3, 2017 Author Posted April 3, 2017 Thanks I know I need to stop thinking about it so much its hard and waiting to see if he's going to message again. To clarify as well I've not been looking at his social media except what comes up on Facebook feed, what I said about the above message was from him not me
Altair0770 Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 Ever hear the phrase, "you always want what you can't have"? If he still "loves" you, then go NC and don't be an option. When he reaches out to you (breadcrumbs) don't give him anymore information. Best option is to ignore. If you choose not to, do not seem weak and do not seem like he can always come back to you if he feels like it. As for getting over it, it does take time, but every time you guys communicate all lovely dovey it's going to set you back. NC means he's out of sight until he's out of mind. Then you won't care about him, except a distant memory.
Maldives Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 Wen u say issue wth the kids were they ur kids? Did he have kids ? My last ex we were together 6 yrs she had a cpl kids and I really struggled wth it mainly because they weren't mine and I had no kids. I didn't break it off in the end mind u lol go figure I kept trying even tho it wasn't working out. Having said that she was a selfish woman she's abandoned all her kids to be in a different state for lifestyle choices so I'm kinda angry at the whole way it's turned out for me wth her long story she works wth me wich I didnthn think was a good idea. And she's Meg someone where we work so ye any lol.
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