SunnySide0418 Posted April 2, 2017 Posted April 2, 2017 I've been with my boyfriend now for a year and a half. It come up today that his ex wife of 12yrs and I have the same birthday. It only came up because he mentioned his son was at her bday celebration even though her bday is in May. Since mine is in May too I asked what day. He said he didn't remember the exact date (which I don't believe for a second) and then admitted is the same day as mine. Now I realize this is not a big deal but does anyone else feel it was odd of him never to mention it in a year and a half?? And we have talked about a lot. What do you all make of that? When I asked why he never mentioned it before he said he didn't think about it. Thoughts please. I'm bothered and not sure I should be over something silly.
Life lessons Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 I've been with my boyfriend now for a year and a half. It come up today that his ex wife of 12yrs and I have the same birthday. It only came up because he mentioned his son was at her bday celebration even though her bday is in May. Since mine is in May too I asked what day. He said he didn't remember the exact date (which I don't believe for a second) and then admitted is the same day as mine. Now I realize this is not a big deal but does anyone else feel it was odd of him never to mention it in a year and a half?? And we have talked about a lot. What do you all make of that? When I asked why he never mentioned it before he said he didn't think about it. Thoughts please. I'm bothered and not sure I should be over something silly. Take him for his word....he probably really didn't think about it. I've done the same thing before. So I don't think it's strange. Lol
Ami1uwant Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 He could have forgotten when her birthday was...just knowing the month but not remembering the day. He may also didnt want you to know because he liked you and didnt want you to find strange reasons to post on forums why it bothers you that he happened to meet a second gf who had the same birthday or name as his ex wife 1
act00 Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 I don't think it's strange that he didn't mention it. It's not vital information for you and your relationship that you know this. I can see him downplaying or omitting this factoid because it could end up being a source of contention, which you are now demonstrating. He could have omitted this information so that he could make sure your birthday was important and well-celebrated, by him and for you, and he didn't want this day tainted and soiled by the knowledge that the ex has the same birthday. The reality is, he's a guy, and it just probably never occurred to him one way or the other. 1
Author SunnySide0418 Posted April 3, 2017 Author Posted April 3, 2017 Good points everyone.. thank you!
JuneJulySeptember Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 I've been with my boyfriend now for a year and a half. It come up today that his ex wife of 12yrs and I have the same birthday. It only came up because he mentioned his son was at her bday celebration even though her bday is in May. Since mine is in May too I asked what day. He said he didn't remember the exact date (which I don't believe for a second) and then admitted is the same day as mine. Now I realize this is not a big deal but does anyone else feel it was odd of him never to mention it in a year and a half?? And we have talked about a lot. What do you all make of that? When I asked why he never mentioned it before he said he didn't think about it. Thoughts please. I'm bothered and not sure I should be over something silly. Maybe he thought it would be awkward and so he just didn't mention it. That's the kind of thing that might never come up in an entire lifetime, especially if he's out of contact with her.
preraph Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 I'm sure he was just trying not to inadvertently start an issue, which he was apparently right about. This is not anything you should care about, especially if he has been there with you on all your birthdays.
mortensorchid Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 It's just coincidence (a big one, to be sure), but he's not with her anymore - he's with you. Don't worry about it.
telemakus Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 You: What star sign are you? Him: Sagittarius, you? You: Taurus, May 12th. Him: Wow! That's the same... (wait - probably not a good idea to bring that up now) ...day I last ate apple pie. You: Hmmm thanks for that! 2
kendahke Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 I've been with my boyfriend now for a year and a half. It come up today that his ex wife of 12yrs and I have the same birthday. It only came up because he mentioned his son was at her bday celebration even though her bday is in May. Since mine is in May too I asked what day. He said he didn't remember the exact date (which I don't believe for a second) and then admitted is the same day as mine. Now I realize this is not a big deal but does anyone else feel it was odd of him never to mention it in a year and a half?? And we have talked about a lot. What do you all make of that? When I asked why he never mentioned it before he said he didn't think about it. He must have felt that you'd react exactly the way you're reacting, so he chose to keep his mouth shut about it. Are you in some competition with this ex? Her sharing a birth date with you is pretty meaningless. But I think that it is a big deal to you--otherwise you wouldn't be on a message board asking strangers about it. Thoughts please. I'm bothered and not sure I should be over something silly.Is this really a hill to die on? 1
Author SunnySide0418 Posted April 3, 2017 Author Posted April 3, 2017 To clarify this is a communication issue in my mind . I don't care That we share a bday. I'm dropping it. Thank you everyone. 2
Arieswoman Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 Sunnyside, All this shows in that he has gone for the same type of woman (Astrologically speaking) so that may be good news or bad news depending on your point of view .........
d0nnivain Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 It's just an odd coincidence but I'd be a LITTLE wigged out that he never said anything. I'm glad your dropping it because it's not something to lose the relationship over.
Redhead14 Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 Sheesh, with all the really important things to focus on in a relationship/life, I can't believe people find ways to stress themselves out over mundane BS. I'd be happy that he wasn't thinking about that fact. Now, I guess she'll be wondering if he's going to bail on her now because now her birthday will remind him of his EX all the time. Like some people who won't date someone because they have the same name as an EX . . .
Chilli Posted April 3, 2017 Posted April 3, 2017 l'd say he thought you might write about it on loveshack if he told ya. Wouldn't put much in it myself bc most guys have known women that could get really hung up on that , like it was he's fault or something else. So he didn't mention it.
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